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awww thanks IDI ! I hope you had a good day. I have been walking a little bit. Small walks through the woods with my old dog. We are a good pair. The pain has stayed manageable since the mass shrunk slighty, but has also changed shape which is applying less pressure to the nerves in my spine. I sent a very pointed prayer to God on my walk yesterday. Asking for help for someone who is suffering more than most. When I came home a large flock of golden finches (a bird I consider my sign) were waiting for me in the tree at the end of the driveway. They flew into my back yard as i turned in. Beautiful and singing. I am taking it as a sign. I have faith. I can only hope it’s what we think we want!
Laura

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Thanks Vera. Lots of wisdom in those words! Far more to each of us.

I hope you are proud of the woman you have become without gambling to hide behind.
Laura

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I definitely think it would have improved my chances Vera. And once able to I intend on going back.

You are the person I feel I have probably hurt. In my support of someone’s feelings I think I tromped on yours. I am sorry and it was unintentional! I think you do your best to share your experience with the intent of it helping others.

Thanks for the good advice IDI.

I’ve always been the tip toer in my relationships! Friendships included.

Laura

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I’m totally procrastinating. Got a couple things done but not the ones top of mind. Then my anxiety starts. I have to stop letting little things bother me. Like if I don’t soon return an online shopping purchase it’s going to turn into a bigger task to return it for a full refund. So i’m kicking my own backside to get moving. And deal with the stupid task. I’m also trying to figure out a way to apologize to someone who I feel I hurt inadvertently and unintentionally. Onward and upward.
Laura

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Hey Tina,

I was doing a little looking on the net for New Zealand specific info. This link appears to have good info, but i believe it is also an advert in some way.

https://loansfinder.co.nz/debt-counselling/

here is a link from the citizens advice bureau re debt management. Lots of links off of it and advice. Worth a look I would think.

http://www.cab.org.nz/vat/money/bd/Pages/CreditDebtManagement.aspx

One day at a time! It can get overwhelming when all our games come home to roost! Everyone is looking to get paid in the end. Too bad we couldn’t send them to the one s who we gave the money to. Chin up. You have an addiction you now realize but you are dealing with it.

Take care,
Laura

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Hi Semaj
Another clean day is a day to celebrate. Some of us are hooked or drawn in from the first time we gamble. I think I liked it way too much even though I was a very cautious and cheap gambler in the beginning. I look at gambling the same as other forms of addiction, like drugs, alcohol, food, etc. The same issues that drive people to numb themselves or maybe make themselves feel better can drive us to any of those things. I think gambling is in some ways is an addiction that allows us to keep functioning for a long time. The signs are not as easy to see. The physical impacts are harder to spot. We may be stressed, agitated, angry, when we lose and we run out of money, but we find other things in life to blame that on. We can keep making this worse. j

I’m glad you made it through another day. I hope today is going well also!

take care,
Laura

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Ach, Liz: (tak těžké. Vypadá to jako normální věc, chtít dobrý vztah se svou matkou a dcerou. Někdy jsou lidé jen trochu zlomení. Buď v tom, jak jsou psychicky nalíčení, nebo kvůli svým okolnostem. A stejně tak jak bychom je chtěli napravit, nemůžeme. Vždy existuje možnost, že se rozhodnou pracovat na sobě. Znovu tento problém nemůžeme vynutit. Takže jakkoli hrozné to bude, nastavení některých hranic je zdravé pro tebe. Pokud cítíš, že jsi řekl něco matce, neměl bys mít omluvu, ale omluva je na místě. Ale jen ty víš, jestli to zamíchá hrncem. Pravděpodobně nedostaneš zpět z toho, co jsi řekl, ale někdy jim prostě musíme odpustit! Pro vlastní rozum a věz, že i tobě je odpuštěno, když nikdo jiný než ty sám! Trochu hazard, tak doufej, že to dává smysl. Změna je děsivá, Liz! Ale být zaseknutý je horší. opatruj se , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 tak ciężko. Wydaje się, że to taka normalna rzecz, aby pragnąć dobrych relacji z twoją matką i córką. Czasami ludzie są po prostu trochę załamani. ponieważ chcielibyśmy je naprawić, nie możemy. Zawsze istnieje możliwość, że postanowią popracować nad sobą. Znowu nie możemy wymusić tego problemu. zdrowe dla ciebie. Jeśli czujesz, że powiedziałeś coś matce, być może nie powinieneś mieć przeprosin. Ale tylko ty wiesz, czy to poruszy garnek. Prawdopodobnie nie odzyskasz jednego z tego, co powiedziałeś, ale czasami po prostu musimy im wybaczyć! Dla twojego własnego zdrowia psychicznego i wiedz, że wybacza ci też nikt inny niż ty sam! Trochę włóczę się, więc miej nadzieję, że to ma sens. Zmiana jest przerażająca Liz! Ale utknięcie jest gorsze. uważaj , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 tão difícil. Parece uma coisa tão normal querer um bom relacionamento com sua mãe e filha. Às vezes, as pessoas ficam um pouco quebradas. Tanto na forma como são mentalmente compostas ou devido às circunstâncias. E tanto pois gostaríamos de corrigi-los, não podemos. Sempre há a possibilidade de que eles optem por trabalhar em si mesmos. Mais uma vez, não podemos forçar esse problema. Por mais horrível que pareça, estabelecer alguns limites é saudável para você. Se você acha que disse algumas coisas para sua mãe, talvez não deva pedir desculpas. Mas só você sabe se isso vai mexer com a panela. Você provavelmente não receberá uma resposta pelo que disse, mas às vezes, só temos que perdoá-los! Para sua própria sanidade e saber que você também é perdoado, mesmo que por ninguém além de você mesmo! Divagar um pouco para que faça sentido. Mudar é assustador, Liz! Mas ficar presa é pior. tome cuidado , Laura

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Ω Λιζ: (τόσο δύσκολο. Φαίνεται τόσο φυσιολογικό να θέλεις μια καλή σχέση με τη μητέρα και την κόρη σου. Μερικές φορές οι άνθρωποι είναι λίγο σπασμένοι. Είτε στο πώς είναι διανοητικά είτε λόγω των συνθηκών τους. Και τόσο πολύ όπως θα θέλαμε να τα διορθώσουμε δεν μπορούμε. Υπάρχει πάντα η πιθανότητα να επιλέξουν να δουλέψουν μόνοι τους. Και πάλι δεν μπορούμε να αναγκάσουμε αυτό το ζήτημα. Τόσο φρικτό όσο σε κάνει να αισθάνεσαι, ο καθορισμός κάποιων ορίων είναι υγιές για σένα. Αν αισθάνεσαι ότι είπες κάποια πράγματα στη μητέρα σου, ίσως δεν πρέπει να ζητάς μια συγγνώμη. Αλλά μόνο εσύ ξέρεις αν αυτό θα ανακατέψει την κατσαρόλα. Πιθανότατα δεν θα πάρεις ούτε ένα από αυτά που είπες, αλλά μερικές φορές πρέπει απλά να τους συγχωρήσουμε! Για τη δική σας λογική και να ξέρετε ότι έχετε συγχωρεθεί κι εσείς, αν κανένας άλλος εκτός από τον εαυτό σας! Ξεφτιλίζοντας λίγο τόσο την ελπίδα που έχει νόημα. Η αλλαγή είναι τρομακτική Λιζ! Αλλά το να κολλήσεις είναι χειρότερο. φρόντισε , Λόρα

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Ó, Liz 🙁 olyan nehéz. Olyan normális dolognak tűnik, hogy jó kapcsolatot akarsz az anyáddal és a lányoddal. Néha az emberek csak egy kicsit összetörtek. Vagy mentálisan, vagy a körülményeik miatt. És amennyire mivel szeretnénk kijavítani őket, nem tudjuk. Mindig fennáll annak a lehetősége, hogy úgy döntenek, hogy önmagukon dolgoznak. Ismét nem kényszeríthetjük ezt a problémát. Annyira szörnyű, ahogy érzi magát, bizonyos határok beállítása egészséges neked. Ha úgy érzed, hogy mondtál néhány dolgot édesanyádnak, akkor talán nem kellene bocsánatot kérned. De csak te tudod, hogy ez felkavarta -e a fazekat. Valószínűleg nem kapsz vissza egyet abból, amit mondtál, de Néha csak meg kell bocsátanunk nekik! A saját józan eszedért és tudd, hogy neked is megbocsátanak, ha senki más, mint te magad! Kicsit kószálj, úgyhogy remélem, hogy van értelme. A változás ijesztő Liz! De elakadni rosszabb, vigyázz magadra! , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 khó quá. Muốn có một mối quan hệ tốt đẹp với mẹ con bạn là chuyện bình thường. Đôi khi mọi người chỉ là một chút đổ vỡ. vì chúng tôi muốn sửa chúng, chúng tôi không thể. Luôn có khả năng là họ có thể chọn tự giải quyết. Một lần nữa, chúng tôi không thể ép buộc vấn đề đó. có lợi cho sức khỏe của bạn. Nếu bạn cảm thấy mình đã nói một số điều với mẹ, có lẽ bạn không nên xin lỗi. Nhưng chỉ có bạn mới biết liệu điều đó có khuấy động nồi không. Bạn có thể sẽ không nhận lại được điều gì từ những gì bạn đã nói nhưng đôi khi chúng ta phải tha thứ cho họ! Vì sự tỉnh táo của chính bạn và biết rằng bạn cũng được tha thứ, nếu không ai khác ngoài chính bạn! Lan man một chút để hy vọng điều đó có ý nghĩa. Thay đổi là điều đáng sợ Liz! Nhưng bế tắc còn tồi tệ hơn. Hãy cẩn thận , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 zo moeilijk. Het lijkt zo normaal om een goede relatie met je moeder en dochter te willen. Soms zijn mensen gewoon een beetje gebroken. Ofwel in hoe ze mentaal in elkaar zitten of door hun omstandigheden. En zoveel omdat we ze willen oplossen, kunnen we dat niet. Er is altijd een mogelijkheid dat ze ervoor kiezen om aan zichzelf te werken. Nogmaals, we kunnen dat probleem niet forceren. Dus hoe vreselijk het je ook voelt, het stellen van grenzen is gezond voor je. Als je het gevoel hebt dat je sommige dingen tegen je moeder hebt gezegd, zou je misschien geen verontschuldiging moeten hebben. Maar alleen jij weet of dat de pot opschudt. Je krijgt er waarschijnlijk geen terug van wat je hebt gezegd, maar soms moeten we ze gewoon vergeven! Voor je eigen gezond verstand en weet dat je ook vergeven bent, al is het door niemand anders dan jezelf! Een beetje ronddwalen, dus hoop dat dat logisch is. Verandering is eng Liz! Maar vastzitten is erger. pas op. , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 so hard. It seems like such a normal thing to want a good relationship with your mother and daughter.
Sometimes people are just a little broken. Either in how they are made up mentally or due to their circumstances. And as much as we’d like to fix them we can’t. There is a always a possibility that they may chose to work on themselves. Again we can’t force that issue. So as horrible as it makes you feel, setting some boundaries is healthy for you.
If you feel you said some things to your mother you shouldn’t have maybe an apology is in order. But only you know if that will stir the pot. You will likely not get one back from what you have said but sometimes we just have to forgive them! For your own sanity and know that you are forgiven too, if by no one else than yourself!
Rambling a little so hope that makes sense. Change is scary Liz! But being stuck is worse.
take care,
Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 es tan difícil. Parece algo normal desear una buena relación con tu madre y tu hija. A veces la gente está un poco rota. Ya sea en la forma en que están mentalmente o debido a sus circunstancias. Y tanto como nos gustaría arreglarlos, no podemos. Siempre existe la posibilidad de que elijan trabajar en sí mismos. Una vez más, no podemos forzar ese problema. Así que, por horrible que te haga sentir, establecer algunos límites es saludable para ti. Si sientes que le dijiste algunas cosas a tu madre, tal vez no debas disculparte. Pero solo tú sabes si eso revolverá la olla. Es probable que no obtengas una respuesta por lo que has dicho, pero ¡A veces solo tenemos que perdonarlos! ¡Por tu propia cordura y saber que tú también eres perdonado, aunque solo sea por ti mismo! Divagando un poco, así que espero que tenga sentido. ¡El cambio da miedo Liz! Pero estar estancado es peor. , Laura

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