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Drago mi je vidjeti da se vraćaš, Lizbeth. Kad se osjećamo povrijeđeno, često krivimo druge. Nitko nema moć učiniti vas nesretnima (ili sretnima!) Osim ako im to ne date. Od malih nogu u našem društvu uvjetovani smo da vjerujemo u suprotno. Kad se osjećam povrijeđeno, ozljeda je u meni, Lizbeth. Ne u drugoj osobi. To sam naučio davno. Potrebna je mudrost da se to sprovede u djelo. Kad to shvatite, vaše će srce biti ispunjeno suosjećanjem i bit ćete SLOBODNI! Uvijek si u mojim molitvama, Lizbeth. Moramo povratiti svoju moć. To često znači prepustiti se.

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Tôi rất vui khi thấy bạn đang hồi phục, Lizbeth. Khi cảm thấy bị tổn thương, chúng ta thường đổ lỗi cho người khác. Không ai có quyền khiến bạn không vui (hoặc hạnh phúc!) Trừ khi bạn cho họ sức mạnh đó. Chúng ta có điều kiện để tin điều ngược lại ngay từ khi còn nhỏ trong xã hội của chúng ta. Khi tôi cảm thấy bị tổn thương, tổn thương là ở tôi, Lizbeth. Không phải ở người khác. Tôi đã biết điều đó từ rất lâu trước đây. Cần có sự khôn ngoan để áp dụng nó vào thực tế. Khi bạn hiểu được điều đó, trái tim bạn sẽ tràn đầy lòng trắc ẩn và bạn sẽ được TỰ DO! Bạn luôn ở trong những lời cầu nguyện của tôi, Lizbeth. Chúng ta cần lấy lại sức mạnh của mình. Điều đó thường có nghĩa là buông bỏ.

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Jien ferħan li nara li qed tirbaħ lura, Lizbeth. Meta nħossuna mweġġgħin, ħafna drabi aħna nwaħħlu f’oħrajn. Ħadd m'għandu l-poter li jagħmlek kuntent (jew kuntent, lanqas!) Sakemm ma tagħtihomx dik il-poter. Aħna kkundizzjonati biex nemmnu l-oppost minn età żgħira fis-soċjetà tagħna. Meta nħossni mweġġa ’, il-weġgħa qiegħda fija, Lizbeth. Mhux fil-persuna l-oħra. Tgħallimt dak il-ħin ilu. Huwa meħtieġ l-għerf biex titpoġġa fil-prattika. Meta tifhem dan, qalbek tkun mimlija kompassjoni u tkun B'XEJN! Int dejjem fit-talb tiegħi, Lizbeth. Għandna bżonn niksbu lura l-poter tagħna. Dan spiss ifisser li tħalli.

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Ich freue mich zu sehen, dass Sie sich erholen, Lizbeth. Wenn wir uns verletzt fühlen, geben wir oft anderen die Schuld. Niemand hat die Macht, dich unglücklich (oder auch glücklich!) zu machen, es sei denn, du gibst ihm diese Macht. Wir sind in unserer Gesellschaft von klein auf darauf konditioniert, das Gegenteil zu glauben. Wenn ich mich verletzt fühle, ist der Schmerz in mir, Lizbeth. Nicht in der anderen Person. Das habe ich vor langer Zeit gelernt. Es braucht Weisheit, um es in die Tat umzusetzen. Wenn du das verstehst, wird dein Herz mit Mitgefühl gefüllt und du wirst FREI sein! Du bist immer in meinen Gebeten, Lizbeth. Wir müssen unsere Macht zurückfordern. Das bedeutet oft Loslassen.

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Jeg er glad for at se, at du hopper tilbage, Lizbeth. Når vi føler os såret, bebrejder vi ofte andre. Ingen har magten til at gøre dig ulykkelig (eller glad!), Medmindre du giver dem den magt. Vi er betinget af at tro det modsatte fra en tidlig alder i vores samfund. Når jeg føler mig såret, er såret i mig, Lizbeth. Ikke i den anden person. Det lærte jeg for længe siden. Det kræver visdom at omsætte det til praksis. Når du forstår det, vil dit hjerte blive fyldt med medfølelse, og du vil være GRATIS! Du er altid i mine bønner, Lizbeth. Vi er nødt til at genvinde vores magt. Det betyder ofte at give slip.

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مجھے یہ دیکھ کر خوشی ہوئی کہ آپ واپس اچھال رہے ہیں ، لیزبیتھ۔ جب ہم تکلیف محسوس کرتے ہیں تو ، ہم اکثر دوسروں پر الزام لگاتے ہیں۔ کسی کو یہ اختیار نہیں ہے کہ وہ آپ کو ناخوش کرے (یا خوش ہو ، یا تو!) جب تک کہ آپ انہیں یہ طاقت نہ دیں۔ ہمیں اپنے معاشرے میں ابتدائی عمر سے ہی اس کے برعکس یقین کرنے کی شرط ہے۔ جب میں تکلیف محسوس کرتا ہوں ، تکلیف مجھ میں ہوتی ہے ، لیزبیتھ۔ دوسرے شخص میں نہیں۔ میں نے یہ بہت پہلے سیکھا تھا۔ اس کو عملی جامہ پہنانے میں دانائی کی ضرورت ہے۔ جب آپ اسے سمجھیں گے ، آپ کا دل ہمدردی سے بھر جائے گا اور آپ آزاد ہو جائیں گے! آپ ہمیشہ میری دعاؤں میں ہیں ، لیزبیتھ۔ ہمیں اپنی طاقت کو دوبارہ حاصل کرنے کی ضرورت ہے۔ اس کا اکثر مطلب یہ ہے کہ چھوڑ دیا جائے۔

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I am glad to see you are bouncing back, Lizbeth.
When we feel hurt, we often blame others. Nobody has the power to make you unhappy (or happy, either!)unless you give them that power. We are conditioned to believe the opposite from an early age in our society. When I feel hurt, the hurt is in me, Lizbeth. Not in the other person. I learned that a long time ago. It takes wisdom to put it into practice. When you understand that, your heart will be filled with compassion and you will be FREE!
You are always in my prayers, Lizbeth. We need to reclaim our power. That often means letting go.

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Örülök, hogy látod, hogy visszapattansz, Lizbeth. Amikor fájdalmat érezünk, gyakran hibáztatunk másokat. Senkinek nincs hatalma boldogtalanná tenni (vagy boldoggá tenni!), Hacsak nem adja meg neki ezt a hatalmat. Társadalmunkban kora gyermekkorától fogva feltételezzük az ellenkezőjét. Amikor fájdalmat érzek, a fájdalom bennem van, Lizbeth. A másik személyben nem. Ezt már régen megtanultam. Bölcsesség kell a gyakorlatba való átültetéséhez. Amikor ezt megérted, szíved tele lesz együttérzéssel, és INGYEN leszel! Mindig az imáimban vagy, Lizbeth. Vissza kell szereznünk hatalmunkat. Ez sokszor elengedést jelent.

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Me alegra ver que te estás recuperando, Lizbeth. Cuando nos sentimos heridos, a menudo culpamos a los demás. Nadie tiene el poder de hacerte infeliz (¡o feliz tampoco!) A menos que le des ese poder. Estamos condicionados a creer lo contrario desde una edad temprana en nuestra sociedad. Cuando me siento herido, el dolor está en mí, Lizbeth. No en la otra persona. Eso lo aprendí hace mucho tiempo. Se necesita sabiduría para ponerlo en práctica. ¡Cuando entiendas eso, tu corazón se llenará de compasión y serás LIBRE! Siempre estás en mis oraciones, Lizbeth. Necesitamos recuperar nuestro poder. Eso a menudo significa dejarlo ir.

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No, Laura. You certainly didn’t hurt me in any way.
I don’t think you have a malicious bone in your body. I hold you in high esteem.
I have come to a stage in Life, Laura where nobody has the power to hurt me. In the same way, nobody has the power to inflate my feelings.
I don’t rely on feelings alone. I resort to sound judgement and will before I act/react..
There is far more to each of us than what is portrayed here in an online forum.
I make allowances for the shortcomings of others.Nobody can read beyond the written word to judge the mood/ environment/circumstances of the writer. It is very easy to hide behind a laptop.
I have far bigger fish to fry these days rather than reacting in a knee jerk fashion!
No hard feelings at all, Laura.

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Thanks for your post Laura
Yes , having a sound core group is essential for the success of GA. A women’s group started up last winter. It fell through after about two months due to a weak core among other things.
Regular turn over of new members is important too.
I hope you get to drop in to your group sometime. I’m sure they would love to see you.
Do you think it would have prevented your relapse if you had been still attending meetings?

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Thanks for your comment on my Thread, Cathy which incidentally, I’m not using at present.
I have no need the “defend” GA.
The evidence that it works for thousands of men and women world wide speaks volumes.
It is based on ancient spiritual Principles .
These never change, and can be adapted to believers and non believers alike.
What are they?
Truth.
Honesty
Humility
Faith
Hope
and of course Charity.
Opinions change. New ideologies come and go. People change. Others never change.
GA is a unity programme. A Fellowship of men and women trying to put their lives in order by admitting powerlessness over gambling.
Nobody is perfect in the groups. All equal. No pecking order.
GA is not for everyone, certainly not for anyone who denies or rejects the aforementioned FACTS!
I have no idea how it works. I surrendered and stopped analyzing.
All I do know is I have not gambled since I attended meetings with an open mind since January 5th 2016.
Last bet- December 28th 2015.
I hope your son is thriving in recovery one day at a time, Cathy.

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How are you today, Monica?
Just touching base to let you know I’m thinking of you.

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Good luck with your banking business, Laura.
It’s great to know you don’t HAVE to have the money.
I know that “nerved up” feeling very well. I still get it at the checkout sometimes, wondering will I have enough in my account to pay for groceries, but it’s a different feeling then acting like a fake.
I think that’s what got me in the end.
Having to live a fake life.
Fooling everyone including myself.
In the end the banks refused to lend me money. I had used my husband’s and sons credit union shares plus my own of course to borrow. I recall strolling through the doors nonchalantly, asking “Is the loan approved”. Nobody knew that my sanity was hanging on the answer . Such stress !
Then when I was maxed out on licit loans, I used the high interest “no questions asked” companies . For what? Christmas presents I would tell myself, but time and time again my money was passed on to fatcats for their Christmas gifts and two weeks before Christmas, I would be grovelling again looking for another loan.
What a fake life!
Not today, Laura. Thank God!
Not this Christmas!
Thanks for reminding me of the difference between now and then.

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Monica, the group I suggested offer practical advice and point clients in the direction of other services, as well as offering financial aid.
Its not a hand -out. It is given voluntarily , often by people who suffered a “dip” , like you are experiencing at present and when times improve these people subscribe to what I think is a social justice cause. Any organisation that fights poverty for the right reason , has my admiration.Of course it is difficult to be on the receiving end but when the table turns you can become a benefactor.
“Never look a gift horse in the mouth”
It could point you in the right direction. Even having a fresh person to chat with might lead you towards a new start.
You are in my thoughts and prayers

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