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Só por hoje Esta semana, este ano não terei nenhuma necessidade Não terei nenhum medo Não terei chance de jogar no caça-níqueis Sem medo de perder o lote Ainda esta noite minhas ações poderiam ter sido as mesmas Como recente viagem à noite de domingo . quando cheguei em casa, usando um desvio, uma rota diferente Tendo planejado uma mentira e "jogue bonitinho" Algumas horas roubadas de diversão escondida Depois de deixar meu filho de volta em seu honeybun Um passeio que gradualmente se tornou um hábito Uma olhada na minha bolsa e rapidamente pegue-o "Vejo você mais tarde" para o marido- Para fazer as coisas parecerem normais Uma corrida pelo tráfego, mas não muito informal Na verdadeira forma de CG, faça uma queda rápida na cidade Deslize para uma cadeira de cassino e fracasse Ninguém precisa saber É apenas para se divertir. .. Até que a bolsa esvazie e eu estou sem dinheiro … E o caixa eletrônico me diz que não há mais fundos disponíveis Até que eu fique sem mais nada vendável ****************** ******** Isso foi no ano passado, embora as coisas estejam diferentes esta noite- Diferentes esta semana, porque minha mentalidade está certa. Não tenho intenção de perder outra semana de pagamento. Já fiz isso com muita frequência. Fiz tão rápido Apesar do poema acima, sei que já passou ***************** ************* "Não fique muito convencido" Algumas pessoas podem dizer "Dada a oportunidade, você encontrará tempo para 'brincar'. Há duas coisas que me impedem em 2019 Coisas que eu saber que no passado me manteve LIMPO Eu pretendo aplicá-los, aconteça o que acontecer — "Não carregue dinheiro e volte para a GA."

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Tikai šodienai Šonedēļ, šogad man nebūs vēlmes, man nebūs baiļu, man nebūs izredžu spēlēt spēļu automātu. Nav bailes, ka es daudz zaudēšu. . kad es atnācu mājās, izmantojot apvedceļu, citu maršrutu Pēc tam, kad biju ieplānojis melus un "uzspēlējis gudri" Dažas zagtas stundas slēptās izklaides Pēc tam, kad dēlu nometu atpakaļ pie medusmaizītes Izbrauciens, kas pamazām bija kļuvis par ieradumu Viens skatiens uz manu maku un ātri paķer to vīram “Uz tikšanos vēlāk”- Lai viss izskatītos normāli Svītra caur satiksmi, bet ne pārāk neformāla Patiesā CG formā ātri iemetiet pilsētu. Ieslīdiet kazino krēslā un pakrītiet Nevienam nav jāzina Tā ir tikai izklaidei. .. Kamēr tas maciņš nav iztukšojies un es esmu beigusies … Un bankomāts man saka, ka vairs nav pieejami līdzekļi Līdz man nepaliek nekas cits pārdodams ***************** ******** Tas bija pagājušajā gadā, lai gan šovakar viss ir citādi- šonedēļ citādi, jo mana domāšana ir pareiza. Man nav nodoma zaudēt vēl vienas nedēļas algu. Es to esmu darījis pārāk bieži. Es to darīju tik ātri. Neskatoties uz iepriekš minēto dzejoli, es zinu, ka tas viss ir pagājis ***************** ************* "Nepārliecinieties" Daži cilvēki varētu teikt: "Ņemot vērā iespēju, jūs atradīsit laiku" spēlēties ". Mani 2019. gadā var apturēt divas lietas zinu, ka agrāk mani turēja TĪRU Es plānoju tos piemērot, lai arī kas notiktu — "Nēsājiet naudu un dodieties atpakaļ uz GA."

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Just for today
This week, this year
I will have no urge
I will have no fear
I will have no chance
To play the slot
No dread that I will lose the lot
Yet tonight my actions could have been just the same
As recent Sunday night trip. when I came
Home, using a detour, a different route
Having planned a lie and “play it cute”
A few stolen hours of hidden fun
After dropping my son back to his honeybun
An outing that had gradually become a habit
One look at my purse and quickly grab it
“See you later ” to hubby-
To make things look normal
A dash through traffic but not too informal
In true CG form make a quick city drop
Slide into a casino chair and flop
No one need know
Its only for fun…
Until that purse empties and I’m out of mon…
And the ATM tells me no more funds available
Until I am left with nothing else sellable
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That was last year though
Things are different tonight-
Different this week, ‘cos my mindset is right.
I’ve no intention of losing another week’s pay
I’ve done it too often
I’ve done it so fast
Despite the above poem I know it’s all past
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“Don’t get too cocky”
Some people might say
“Given the opportunity , you will find time to ‘play’.

There are two things to stop me in 2019
Things I know in the past kept me stay CLEAN
I intend to apply them , come what may—
“Don’t carry money and go back to GA.”

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Tylko na dzisiaj W tym tygodniu W tym roku Nie będę miał ochoty Nie będę się bał Nie będę miał szans Grać na automacie Bez strachu, że dużo stracę Jeszcze dzisiaj moje działania mogły być takie same Jak ostatnia niedzielna nocna wycieczka . kiedy wróciłem do domu, objazdem, inną trasą Zaplanowanie kłamstwa i „zagranie w to uroczo” Kilka skradzionych godzin ukrytej zabawy Po podrzuceniu syna z powrotem do jego miodowej bułki Wycieczka, która stopniowo stała się nawykiem Jedno spojrzenie na moją torebkę i szybko złap go "Do zobaczenia później" do męża- Aby wszystko wyglądało normalnie Pędź przez ruch uliczny, ale nie za bardzo nieformalny W prawdziwej formie CG szybko zrzuć miasto Wsuń się na krzesło w kasynie i flop Nikt nie musi wiedzieć To tylko dla zabawy. .. Dopóki ta torebka się nie opróżni i nie skończę… A bankomat mówi mi, że nie ma więcej środków Dopóki nie zostanie mi nic innego do sprzedania ***************** ******** To było w zeszłym roku, chociaż Dzisiejszej nocy jest inaczej. Inaczej w tym tygodniu, bo moje nastawienie jest właściwe. Nie mam zamiaru tracić tygodniowej pensji Robiłem to zbyt często Zrobiłem to tak szybko Mimo powyższego wiersza wiem, że to już przeszłość ***************** ************* „Nie bądź zbyt zarozumiały” Niektórzy ludzie mogą powiedzieć „Jeśli nadarzy się okazja, znajdziesz czas na „zagranie”. W 2019 roku są dwie rzeczy, które mnie powstrzymują. wiem, że w przeszłości utrzymywał mnie w czystości. Zamierzam je zastosować, co może się wydarzyć — "Nie noś pieniędzy i wracaj do GA."

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Solo per oggi Questa settimana, quest'anno non avrò alcun impulso Non avrò paura Non avrò alcuna possibilità di giocare alla slot Nessuna paura di perdere tutto Eppure stasera le mie azioni avrebbero potuto essere le stesse del recente viaggio notturno di domenica . quando sono tornato a casa, usando una deviazione, un percorso diverso Avere pianificato una bugia e "fare il carino" Qualche ora rubata di divertimento nascosto Dopo aver riportato mio figlio nella sua focaccia Una gita che era gradualmente diventata un'abitudine Uno sguardo alla mia borsa e prendilo rapidamente "Ci vediamo più tardi" a mio marito- Per far sembrare le cose normali Una corsa nel traffico ma non troppo informale In vera forma CG fare un rapido salto in città Scivolare su una sedia del casinò e flop Nessuno deve saperlo È solo per divertimento. .. Fino a quando quella borsa non si svuota e ho finito i soldi… E l'ATM mi dice che non ci sono più fondi disponibili Fino a quando non mi rimane nient'altro vendibile ***************** ******** Questo è stato l'anno scorso, anche se stasera le cose sono diverse, diverse questa settimana, perché la mia mentalità è giusta. Non ho intenzione di perdere un'altra settimana di paga L'ho fatto troppo spesso L'ho fatto così in fretta Nonostante la poesia di cui sopra so che è tutto passato ***************** ************* "Non essere troppo arrogante" Alcune persone potrebbero dire "Tiene l'opportunità, troverai il tempo per 'giocare'. Ci sono due cose che mi fermeranno nel 2019 Cose che so che in passato mi ha tenuto PULITO ho intenzione di applicarli, qualunque cosa accada — "Non portare soldi e tornare a GA."

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Hanya untuk hari ini Minggu ini, tahun ini saya tidak akan memiliki dorongan Saya tidak akan memiliki rasa takut Saya tidak akan memiliki kesempatan Untuk bermain slot Tidak ada ketakutan bahwa saya akan kehilangan banyak Namun malam ini tindakan saya bisa saja sama Seperti perjalanan Minggu malam baru-baru ini . ketika saya pulang, menggunakan jalan memutar, rute yang berbeda Merencanakan kebohongan dan "bermain manis" Beberapa jam kesenangan tersembunyi yang dicuri Setelah mengantar putra saya kembali ke honeybun-nya Tamasya yang secara bertahap menjadi kebiasaan Sekali melihat dompet saya dan cepat ambil "Sampai jumpa" ke hubby- Untuk membuat segalanya terlihat normal Berlari melewati lalu lintas tetapi tidak terlalu informal Dalam bentuk CG yang sebenarnya membuat penurunan kota cepat Geser ke kursi kasino dan gagal Tidak ada yang perlu tahu Ini hanya untuk bersenang-senang. .. Sampai dompet itu kosong dan saya kehabisan uang… Dan ATM memberi tahu saya tidak ada lagi dana yang tersedia Sampai saya tidak punya apa-apa lagi yang bisa dijual ***************** ******** Itu tahun lalu meskipun Hal-hal yang berbeda malam ini- Berbeda minggu ini, 'cos pola pikir saya benar. Saya tidak berniat kehilangan gaji seminggu lagi Saya sudah melakukannya terlalu sering Saya melakukannya dengan sangat cepat Meskipun puisi di atas saya tahu itu semua sudah lewat ***************** ************* "Jangan terlalu sombong" Beberapa orang mungkin mengatakan "Jika diberi kesempatan, Anda akan menemukan waktu untuk 'bermain'. Ada dua hal yang menghentikan saya di 2019 Hal yang saya tahu di masa lalu membuat saya tetap BERSIH Saya berniat untuk menerapkannya, apa pun yang terjadi — "Jangan bawa uang dan kembali ke GA."

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What happened, Nick?

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Thanks IDI! Strange thing is that “friend” never contacted me since and she normally sends at least 2 texts every day.
End of an era, perhaps!
I was very disappointed that I couldn’t stick with my plan to go to GA on Thursday night.
Too ill. Still coughing a lot but less weak now. Walked up and down outside for ten minutes this evening.
Instead of attending GA I drew my husband into a discussion about saving /spending/gambling.
I told him I had wasted far too much money and time in casinos last year and to avoid that happening in 2019, I will be lodging spare money every month into HIS account which only he can withdraw from. His P.O. book is in my care!
He thinks that is a great idea!

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As you reflect on the chain of events that led you to gamble, IDI, may I be so bold as to add two comments.
1. You were not doing your mum any favour by going with her. You succumbed to her manipulation.
2. What plan can you make that will create a different situation on your next visit home?
Could you arrange your mum to come and visit you for weekends and perhaps help her to break the pattern of gambling when you both get together?
I know how difficult it is to change family traditions especially around Christmas.
Your mum is enabling you to gamble because she needs your enablement (even permission) to go!
Quite a complex situation for all concerned.
No easy answers.
A young man in GA discussed similar problems over the years. He was helpless….lo and behold an elderly lady turned up in a totally different Room one night. It was his mother!
Life can be full of surprises.
“When I change , everything changes”!!

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Good message, Kin.
Worth watching.
Satan is a bluffer!
Happy New Year.

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It is good to have plans and dreams for a better future, Monica.
When the Present is good, we see the Future in a more hopeful light.
I hope all your dreams come true.

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Hi, Liz,
It’s great to hear you feel motivated, knowing that you will be able to pay down your loans and start saving in a few months time.
Be careful , though. that when you commence that Savings Account it doesn’t turn into a secret stash.
Plan well in advance.
Perhaps putting two names on the account would be a safeguard. It just means you need 2 signatures when withdrawing money.
Just a reminder. I have been caught clearing out secret accounts so often in the past, I would just hate to see anyone making the same mistake.
When we are in recovery mode, we wouldn’t dream of sabotaging our savings or our plans.
When we want to gamble , we abandon all sane judgement.

HAPPY NEW YEAR, Lizbeth!

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Every time we gamble , Jen, we put another nail in our own coffin. I firmly believe it is an act of self destruction for a CG to take that risk . We justify our actions by saying “We didn’t do major financial damage”, but the thing is Jen, gambling is not a financial problem. Yes, of course we lose crazy and unbelievable amounts by any standard and money becomes a huge problem when we are broke and in debt but the very fact that a CG can justify a big loss or act as if it isn’t all that important, further highlights the underlying emotional/psychological aspect of gambling addiction.
The worst thing that can happen a CG is that we fall into despair.
The devil loves us to lose hope.
Try to forget your previous relapses, Jen. Nothing that we say or do will change the past.
In my experience, the more we dwell on our failures the less likely we will be to focus on our future successes.
We CAN stop gambling.
We can stay stopped.
We need to instill that deep in our psyche.
Nothing is impossible with, God’s Grace.
On a practical note, one of the ways I found to keep money at a distance is to lodge a cheque in the post office It takes 12 working days to clear. That gives a CG “re thinking time”.
I also lodged money in my husband’s post office account to ensure it would be there to meet two large annual bills in December. It means only the account holder can withdraw that money. Posting your debit card to your own address is another way to delay ATM withdrawals. In extreme cases we may need to have all our accounts in joint names.
Where there is a will there is a way.
Never give up hope, Jen.
Life without gambling is worth fighting for.
The Gambling Life is not worth living!

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Enablers, like CGs have problems…we were cut off mid conversation, Jen “What is said in the Group stays in the Group” so I won’t elaborate here. I just ask myself as a CG and also as an enabler (I fit into both categories)”What is in it for an enabler?” We know what is in it for a CG…thrills and deadly hangovers, grief and misery.

I’m kissing all that goodbye this year.

A “borrower” who I enabled in the past is “getting the message” from my recent refusals.

Why do I attract people like that. Why do I give loans?

My plan for the New Year is to stop lending. Stop borrowing. Life is much more simple when we pay our way weekly/monthly. Live within our means. Avoid getting caught up in “high finance”. In other words

KEEP IT SIMPLE!

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There WAS a time, Jen that I felt I WAS responsible not just for everyones’ recovery but for everyones’ Life!
I thought I was the Manager of The Human Race.
I’m not.
I’m only a speck in the Big Plan called Life.

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