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Same headache here, Jen. I just isolate and stay away from everyone when I’m unwell. I’m becoming a recluse but I quite like that lifestyle. The feelings we get after succumbing to the temptation to gamble are far worse than any headache.

The longer we stay out of the game, the easier it gets to say No. I have a lot on my mind that a trip to the casino would help to blank out for a few hours but the thought of facing the hangover is enough to keep me grounded. If we drink from the poison chalice, we will always suffer the horrible consequences.

Stay focused!

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It seems as if you are working too hard for too little pay, Sherrie. I’m so sorry that some FATCAT will be lining his pockets with your money. I fed those money grabbers for years but not today…
A few years ago , when I was on a very decent salary, 85% went towards payment of gambling debt.
The thoughts that drove me to gambling were as follows ” I might as well be gambling because I’m working for nothing”
or “I might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb”.
I realize, as you rightly point out,that I really cannot be trusted with money either. Apart from gambling, I can be very frugal at times but if I start spending (say at times like Christmas), I can lose the run of things very easily.
Also if I know there is a long wait until payday (like this month) I can get very panicky and start believing that “one good win” can sort it all out. The thing is I have had several “good wins” many times and they only led me to the next need to “sort it all out”!
This week/month/year has been G free for me, thank God. I also have to take some credit for it (God won’t stop us directly). At the start of the month I told my husband he would be coming shopping with me. He moans and groans which is a great excuse to make a detour to the casino on shopping trips ( one hour in the shops-ten hours in the slots)
We had 4 shopping trips. I had to buy 2 New Baby presents . I got him to check the prices . (His attitude is “if you want it buy it ; to hell with the price”) but after a few dirty looks and non contact kick in the shins, he agreed to buy the items with 50% off rather than the first thing that came to hand. ‘Hard on him, because I love buying baby clothes and would spent all day in the shops. The other two trips were for groceries. “Spend 50 , get 10 off” also drives him crazy because I add up the exact amount in my head to make sure I avail of that precious ten quid voucher…
Compare this frugality to our gambling spends, Sherrie.
We can be like different people on a different planet.
Don’t expect your husband to comprehend all this mind boggling dollop.
Just get him to be with you when you spend. Show him the receipts. Let him handle the money It will make you richer, it will still be YOUR money and you won’t have half as many temptations to gamble, knowing it isn’t possible.
Start again, Sherrie.
You are not alone.

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Our Higher Power never moves, Lizbeth.
We are the ones who disappear.
I hear you about family members making comments about money to make you feel inferior. I have a sister who knows I have gambling debt. Whenever I get something new she says “It’s easily known who is loaded”! I just ignore her comments but I have been know to put her in her box in the past.
I also get what you say about members coming on here “devastated “after a big loss. Next post they are living a high life and everything is rosy.
I can only think of two ways that can happen
1. the loss was exaggerated (don’t know why someone would lie about a loss)
2. They have access to hidden funds, possibly in the form of topping up loans.
Either way it’s not our problem.
Some people can deal with problems by denying them, like your unfortunate friend whose husband is ill.
I would advise you to give her a wide berth.
You could easily get sucked into her problems. It happened me often in the past. Picking up other people’s emotions and ending up gambling to escape.
Crazy but true.
Trust your own judgement, Lizbeth. You have great strength.
Far more than you realize.
Gambling drags us down and convinces us that we are worthless.
Don’t believe that lie!
I pray for you every day.
Take care.

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Our Higher Power never moves, Lizbeth.
We are the ones who disappear.
I hear you about family members making comments about money to make you feel inferior. I have a sister who knows I have gambling debt. Whenever I get something new she says “It’s easily known who is loaded”! I just ignore her comments but I have been know to put her in her box in the past.
I also get what you say about members coming on here “devastated “after a big loss. Next post they are living a high life and everything is rosy.
I can only think of two ways that can happen
1. the loss was exaggerated (don’t know why someone would lie about a loss)
2. They have access to hidden funds, possibly in the form of topping up loans.
Either way it’s not our problem.
Some people can deal with problems by denying them, like your unfortunate friend whose husband is ill.
I would advise you to give her a wide berth.
You could easily get sucked into her problems. It happened me often in the past. Picking up other people’s emotions and ending up gambling to escape.
Crazy but true.
Trust your own judgement, Lizbeth. You have great strength.
Far more than you realize.
Gambling drags us down and convinces us that we are worthless.
Don’t believe that lie!
I pray for you every day.
Take care.

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Поривите няма да ви навредят, Мърс. Хазартът ще. Просто отделете време и стойте далеч от други комарджии, докато не се почувствате по -силни.

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Aandringen zullen je geen pijn doen, Murrs. Gokken zal. Wacht gewoon je tijd af en blijf uit de buurt van andere gokkers totdat je je sterker voelt.

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Urges won’t hurt you, Murrs.
Gambling will.
Just bide your time and stay away from other gamblers until you feel stronger.

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Good to meet you in the chat earlier, T.

Surrendering control of finances is a huge step for a CG.
I believe gambling has a lot to do with control.
It is a complex issue.
One of the slogans in GA says
KEEP IT SIMPLE.
I think we need to step back and look at life differently.
The chaos and turmoil we created by gambling affects our relationships to a point where nobody knows who we are-especially ourselves!
One day at a time, we will begin to live again, to feel our emotions and to let go of the past.
Just for today ,let’s keep it simple!

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if we didn’t laugh we would cry, Jen…

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Life can be a struggle, Lizbeth.
It will never be a Rose Garden.
Every member here chose gambling as a means of escape.
It didn’t work for any of us.
Just caused further misery.
Just for today DO NOT GAMBLE.

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Yes, Nick ,it is very frustrating when nobody listens. Not only in GT but across the whole spectrum of life. Life has changed. We have become selfish. People seem very involved in their own “buzz” and other people’s problems go unnoticed. Perhaps that’s why the Bible says “Put not your trust in princes or mere man”!
Alcohol won’t undo your gambling loss either, Nick.
The more we gamble, the more we withdraw from Life. The more we withdraw, the less likely it will be for Life to come looking for us.
We are not alone, Nick but we are on our own when it comes to recovery.
Nobody can take a step for us.
Others can only walk with us.
Only God Himself will carry you.

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Tylko na dzisiaj W tym tygodniu W tym roku Nie będę miał ochoty Nie będę się bał Nie będę miał szans Grać na automacie Bez strachu, że dużo stracę Jeszcze dzisiaj moje działania mogły być takie same Jak ostatnia niedzielna nocna wycieczka . kiedy wróciłem do domu, objazdem, inną trasą Zaplanowanie kłamstwa i „zagranie w to uroczo” Kilka skradzionych godzin ukrytej zabawy Po podrzuceniu syna z powrotem do jego miodowej bułki Wycieczka, która stopniowo stała się nawykiem Jedno spojrzenie na moją torebkę i szybko złap go "Do zobaczenia później" do męża- Aby wszystko wyglądało normalnie Pędź przez ruch uliczny, ale nie za bardzo nieformalny W prawdziwej formie CG szybko zrzuć miasto Wsuń się na krzesło w kasynie i flop Nikt nie musi wiedzieć To tylko dla zabawy. .. Dopóki ta torebka się nie opróżni i nie skończę… A bankomat mówi mi, że nie ma więcej środków Dopóki nie zostanie mi nic innego do sprzedania ***************** ******** To było w zeszłym roku, chociaż Dzisiejszej nocy jest inaczej. Inaczej w tym tygodniu, bo moje nastawienie jest właściwe. Nie mam zamiaru tracić tygodniowej pensji Robiłem to zbyt często Zrobiłem to tak szybko Mimo powyższego wiersza wiem, że to już przeszłość ***************** ************* „Nie bądź zbyt zarozumiały” Niektórzy ludzie mogą powiedzieć „Jeśli nadarzy się okazja, znajdziesz czas na „zagranie”. W 2019 roku są dwie rzeczy, które mnie powstrzymują. wiem, że w przeszłości utrzymywał mnie w czystości. Zamierzam je zastosować, co może się wydarzyć — "Nie noś pieniędzy i wracaj do GA."

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Solo per oggi Questa settimana, quest'anno non avrò alcun impulso Non avrò paura Non avrò alcuna possibilità di giocare alla slot Nessuna paura di perdere tutto Eppure stasera le mie azioni avrebbero potuto essere le stesse del recente viaggio notturno di domenica . quando sono tornato a casa, usando una deviazione, un percorso diverso Avere pianificato una bugia e "fare il carino" Qualche ora rubata di divertimento nascosto Dopo aver riportato mio figlio nella sua focaccia Una gita che era gradualmente diventata un'abitudine Uno sguardo alla mia borsa e prendilo rapidamente "Ci vediamo più tardi" a mio marito- Per far sembrare le cose normali Una corsa nel traffico ma non troppo informale In vera forma CG fare un rapido salto in città Scivolare su una sedia del casinò e flop Nessuno deve saperlo È solo per divertimento. .. Fino a quando quella borsa non si svuota e ho finito i soldi… E l'ATM mi dice che non ci sono più fondi disponibili Fino a quando non mi rimane nient'altro vendibile ***************** ******** Questo è stato l'anno scorso, anche se stasera le cose sono diverse, diverse questa settimana, perché la mia mentalità è giusta. Non ho intenzione di perdere un'altra settimana di paga L'ho fatto troppo spesso L'ho fatto così in fretta Nonostante la poesia di cui sopra so che è tutto passato ***************** ************* "Non essere troppo arrogante" Alcune persone potrebbero dire "Tiene l'opportunità, troverai il tempo per 'giocare'. Ci sono due cose che mi fermeranno nel 2019 Cose che so che in passato mi ha tenuto PULITO ho intenzione di applicarli, qualunque cosa accada — "Non portare soldi e tornare a GA."

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Hanya untuk hari ini Minggu ini, tahun ini saya tidak akan memiliki dorongan Saya tidak akan memiliki rasa takut Saya tidak akan memiliki kesempatan Untuk bermain slot Tidak ada ketakutan bahwa saya akan kehilangan banyak Namun malam ini tindakan saya bisa saja sama Seperti perjalanan Minggu malam baru-baru ini . ketika saya pulang, menggunakan jalan memutar, rute yang berbeda Merencanakan kebohongan dan "bermain manis" Beberapa jam kesenangan tersembunyi yang dicuri Setelah mengantar putra saya kembali ke honeybun-nya Tamasya yang secara bertahap menjadi kebiasaan Sekali melihat dompet saya dan cepat ambil "Sampai jumpa" ke hubby- Untuk membuat segalanya terlihat normal Berlari melewati lalu lintas tetapi tidak terlalu informal Dalam bentuk CG yang sebenarnya membuat penurunan kota cepat Geser ke kursi kasino dan gagal Tidak ada yang perlu tahu Ini hanya untuk bersenang-senang. .. Sampai dompet itu kosong dan saya kehabisan uang… Dan ATM memberi tahu saya tidak ada lagi dana yang tersedia Sampai saya tidak punya apa-apa lagi yang bisa dijual ***************** ******** Itu tahun lalu meskipun Hal-hal yang berbeda malam ini- Berbeda minggu ini, 'cos pola pikir saya benar. Saya tidak berniat kehilangan gaji seminggu lagi Saya sudah melakukannya terlalu sering Saya melakukannya dengan sangat cepat Meskipun puisi di atas saya tahu itu semua sudah lewat ***************** ************* "Jangan terlalu sombong" Beberapa orang mungkin mengatakan "Jika diberi kesempatan, Anda akan menemukan waktu untuk 'bermain'. Ada dua hal yang menghentikan saya di 2019 Hal yang saya tahu di masa lalu membuat saya tetap BERSIH Saya berniat untuk menerapkannya, apa pun yang terjadi — "Jangan bawa uang dan kembali ke GA."

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Só por hoje Esta semana, este ano não terei nenhuma necessidade Não terei nenhum medo Não terei chance de jogar no caça-níqueis Sem medo de perder o lote Ainda esta noite minhas ações poderiam ter sido as mesmas Como recente viagem à noite de domingo . quando cheguei em casa, usando um desvio, uma rota diferente Tendo planejado uma mentira e "jogue bonitinho" Algumas horas roubadas de diversão escondida Depois de deixar meu filho de volta em seu honeybun Um passeio que gradualmente se tornou um hábito Uma olhada na minha bolsa e rapidamente agarre-o "Vejo você mais tarde" para o marido- Para fazer as coisas parecerem normais Uma corrida pelo trânsito, mas não muito informal Na verdadeira forma de CG, faça uma rápida queda na cidade Deslize para uma cadeira de cassino e fracasse Ninguém precisa saber É apenas para se divertir. .. Até que a bolsa esvazie e eu estou sem dinheiro … E o caixa eletrônico me diz que não há mais fundos disponíveis Até que eu fique sem mais nada vendável ****************** ******** Isso foi no ano passado, embora as coisas estejam diferentes esta noite- Diferentes esta semana, porque minha mentalidade está certa. Não tenho intenção de perder outra semana de pagamento. Já fiz isso com muita frequência. Fiz tão rápido Apesar do poema acima, sei que já passou ***************** ************* "Não fique muito convencido" Algumas pessoas podem dizer "Dada a oportunidade, você encontrará tempo para 'brincar'. Há duas coisas que me impedem em 2019 Coisas que eu saber que no passado me manteve LIMPO Eu pretendo aplicá-los, aconteça o que acontecer — "Não carregue dinheiro e volte para a GA."

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