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Your daughter is a strong young woman, Lizbeth.
Enjoy your grandson’s birthday.
Life goes on whether we worry or not!Thanks for your post to my thread, Beem.
NOT gambling brings all the rewards I will ever need!
Peace of mind being the greatest.Very consoling, Kin.
“Heaven and Earth will pass away, but My Word will not pass away”Hello Kin, When our life is in a mess it usually means we are following our own will and ignoring God’s Will. Look around you… The world is in a mess. Man is not God but many people act as if there is no Greater Power. Only in God is my soul at rest….in Him comes my Salvation.Psalm 62
Good to meet you in the chat, Dealer. It cuts off automatically on the dot of 12! Start your own journal and you will get lots of support/responses.
Just scroll to the bottom of this page and click on New Topic at the left hand side
GOOD LUCK
I hope you did the right thing, Sherrie.
Nothing is perfect .
I do know that secrecy caused me more stress than gambling and the more secretive I became, the more I gambled. I never “told”. In my case my husband knew I gambled. He baled me out hundreds of times, when I was in the early stages . I would cry and bawl and beg him to restore the money, I had lost, swearing on the Bible that I would never gamble again. That was in the early years. When the *h*t the fan and I ran out of funds and was up to my neck in debt, I had to come clean and tell him the exact amount I owed. He honestly reacted as if he didn’t believe me. He thought I was making it all up. Total denial. That’s when I knew for sure I was on my own in recovery. A VERY SCARY PLACE TO BE…As time rolled on, I became numb to the losses. No more tears. No more grovelling. I learned to borrow and do my dirty business in secret….the rest is history.
We all know our own spouses best.
My husband knows I gambled several time in 2018. He never once asked if I won or lost
He is just not interested. I think it would be cruel of me to tell him the details of my loss. I can pick up my own tab and move on.
The main thing is I have not gambled since December 26th and do not intend to ever again, one day at a time..
In my opinion , the biggest thing we risk we take by sharing our “secret” is that we will not be taken seriously.
Rejection can lead to further gambling.
Well done, Sherrie. Being true to yourself is the main thing. I hope you get all the support you deserve.
Good to hear you are making progress, Nick.
I don’t drink much but I know for sure that alcohol and gambling don’t mix and that neither will solve an iota of our problems.It is understandable that you are concerned, Lizbeth. It’s a huge worry.
The best that you can do is stay in daily contact with your daughter and grand daughter.
Does she have any aftercare or contact with Social Services?
It is not easy to undo sixteen years of damage and look after a baby without support.
Prayer and regular contact will keep your mind at ease.Good to meet you in the group earlier, Nel. We became suddenly disconnected! That seems to happen a lot lately.
Well done on looking for help.
Gambling takes everything from us, but only if we give it.
The good news is, we CAN live a G free life, one day at a time.
Stopping is easy. Staying stopped is difficult. That’s why we need support.
Due to it’s progressive nature, we can be quickly overwhelmed with debt and to escape the stress we gamble more and more.
Time to call a halt , Nel.
I wish you all the best in Recovery.
Life without the buzz will still go on.
Stay focused!You DID pay for that trip, Jez (indirectly) ten times over!!
Good to meet you in the group earlier, Russrllynn.
Early days are the most difficult. Things do improve when we stop gambling. It took me years to let go of my losses but knowing we will NEVER win helps a CG to stop gambling, forever, one day at a time.
Keep posting.I know how frustrated you feel, Kathryn. I have asked myself “Why bother” often. Unfortunately that attitude brought me to the casino. That’s the way CGs deal with problems.
Why is Dames not working? Is he ill or just no work available?
You can’t be held responsible for everything, Kathryn.
If it consoles you, most people are in a financial crisis post Christmas but your main consolation is your present situation isn’t as a result of gambling. When my husband says “I had to pay x amount to have the car serviced x amount for fuel etc” I feel myself shrinking into the ground. I ALWAYS think “If I hadn’t lost so much money gambling he wouldn’t have this stress”.
The thing is Kathryn we should learn to take joint responsibility for expenses. You have been doing a lot so don’t feel you have to pick up the tab for everything.
I hope Dames gets work soon….
I was going to just say
“MEN…”
when I started this post but I thought twice!!!!So sorry to hear you gambled, Lizbeth.
Can you retrace your thoughts and feelings in the lead up to the action?
There must be something else that needs attention.
It’s very hard to stop once we start.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Never give up.Good to meet you here, Beem. We have spoken in chat a few times.
Gambling is a very insular habit. Look around in a casino and see how everyone is caught up in their own buzz.
You are doing great. 13 G free days , for a CG is a marathon.
I am also “clean” so far this year.
I gave up free slots and phone games too, because in my case they are the thin edge of the wedge.
One day at a time, let’s hope gambling will vanish from our lives.