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Hi Sandy
It is really good to see the interaction between you and Clare but I believe it would help you further if you were to start your own thread – Clare will still be able to respond to you.

No two threads are identical; every member is different and every member deserves to receive responses to his/her unique problem.

Many members find they share similar experiences but in my experience receiving responses on your own thread about that which is concerning ‘you’ help you to feel less alone.

I cannot respond to you further on Clare’s thread even though I have read things in your posts that could possibly benefit from further input.

I hope you will consider starting you own thread and if you do I will be delighted to get to know you better

Velvet

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Hi Lizbeth
What makes you think that you are unworthy of anything good Lizbeth? When I read your posts I hear somebody who is worth knowing, someone who gives love and care to others but who doesn’t give enough love and care to herself.
Look at all the support you give others on this forum, this site would be a lesser place without you. You use your experience of addiction to help others – that makes you worthy in my book. The lives of those you love would be depleted without you; you make their lives better just by being there; I am sure they would be devastated if they thought you hated your own life.
Don’t be afraid to have good thoughts about yourself – you don’t deserve the criticisms you heap on yourself.
When you booked your trip to Mount Rushmore you were at last doing something good for you. Do something good for ‘you’ today too and then post and tell us what you did – it doesn’t have to be as big as a trip to Mount Rushmore but it will be read by many because people care about you.
We care because you are worth it Lizbeth.
Velvet

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Hello Jackdandy and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Johnny and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hi Clare
Forums such as this go up and down – sometimes they are buzzing and other times it is almost as though the addiction has ceased to exist. Sadly, however, it does exist and you and your family are suffering because of it.
I love your ten year olds description of the way life should be – I wish he could have his dream. He is lucky that he has you as his mum ready to help him have the future he deserves.
I wrote ‘the F&F Cycle’ to help members see the pattern of mood swings that goes with the gambling addiction, to hopefully show friends and family how we can easily get caught up in it without understanding what is going on. Once we see the pattern I think it becomes easier to break out – easier but not easy.
Many CGs do struggle with intimacy and this can be due in no small part to the addiction filling their minds leaving no room for the affectionate/physical side of a loving relationship. It is not unknown for the CG to turn to porn or even to stray to fulfil a basic need, without having to be gentle and loving. Unfortunately there is often someone waiting in the wings to offer a shoulder to cry on and/or enablement without making any emotional demands. The gambling addiction is the most demanding of mistresses. What was your husband’s behaviour like before last November – was he a good father was he a loving husband, were you happy?
The ‘cause’ of the problem is not you Clare and when you decide what it is that you want to do I will walk with you for as long as you want me to do so. In my opinion, you should put you and your children first – especially while he is not taking responsibility for them. From reading your posts I can hear that you are a great role model for your children, the rock for them to cling on to.
I believe the way forward for you, certainly in the near future, is that it is best to accept your husband is not going to give his children the support they deserve – he probably didn’t show up at the police station because that would be taking responsibility and he is not prepared to take responsibility for anything or anyone at the moment. Can you reinvigorate your medical career and maybe find support for your autistic son from colleagues? Children will suffer from rejection and the repeated abandonment will be confusing them further. Is your eldest son getting support with his mental health – I was so sorry to read about a young man attempting suicide?
I want so much to support you Clare and I feel my timing is not good for you at all – I am taking a holiday soon for 3 weeks and for the first time, since I began here with GT, I am not taking my lap top with me. I am so sorry.
We have a great Helpline, it is one-to-one and private – please use it if the responses on the forum are slow. My next group is Thursday 30th August between 20.00 – 21.00 hours UK time – it would be really good to ‘meet’ you – nothing said in the group appears on the forum, it is safe and we can be completely open and honest with each other.
Your husband’s behaviour is sadly typical of a gambling addict but I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t know that he could control it with treatment – however as I am sure you appreciate he has to want that treatment. Keep learning about his addiction, it will help you make the right decision for you and your children. In the meantime, for what it is worth, my thoughts are with you and please never lose hope. You are stronger than his addiction.
I hope you are still reading
Velvet

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Hello Edorko and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Doggedwon and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Trish and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hi Dignetas
I cannot change governments or advertising agencies – what I can do is support those who suffer and that is what this forum is all about. Gambling has been going on forever and we must live with it – it is only the compulsion that causes suffering.

Please start your own thread and hopefully we can alleviate some of your pain
Velvet

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Hi Alice
I don’t know the answer to your question but I will ensure that you get a reply from someone who will know the answer. Do you remember if you used the same username before?

Velvet

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Hello Tonilouise and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Duccix and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Nicole and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello Idrigu and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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