[Steev]

100 days is quite a landmark. Keep it going. Christmas Day was always a day off for me as nothing was open. ( I was pre online betting.). Right now I am in a little cottage in the middle of nowhere listening to the ducks messing in the pond.  A world away from arcades and casinos.  Hope you are enjoying the break too.

[Steev]

To all the staff, volunteers, posters and lurkers – a very merry and blessed season.

[Steev]

Tell the truth about your gambling to someone you know and trust. Lying to ourselves and others goes with gambling. If you can get support from a loved one or trusted friend then please do it. Come back here if you need to.

[Steev]

You have told a story. I guess there is a lot more to be said. I hope you are getting the support you need and will not shy away from telling us what is going on for you when you need to do it. Go well.

[Steev]

You have already taken the first step in dealing with this problem – you have admitted it both to yourself and to people here. Well done for that – and at only 18. I started gambling at 16 and was in my 30’s before I sought help.

If you can “fix things” without gambling again then, of course, go for it; but don’t be afraid to let those closest to you know what is going on. Don’t be tempted to lie about your losses, that will only cause more problems in the long-term. Speak to a family member or close friend you can trust and get support and keep strong.

[Steev]

Hi Mike. I hope it is still going well for you.  I’ve also got a cold so am laid up at the moment.  I would echo others on here and say try and place your money with others until you are strong enough to handle it again.  I wasn’t able to do that being a loner with no family, so in order to keep my money safe I decided to “invest” in stuff that I could sell later at a profit.  Needless to say I still have most of this stuff which I’ve relabelled as “clutter.”  

Just to say if you ever do slip back – don’t feel you can’t come back here.  It took me a long time to completely stop – to use the corny phrase, “one day at a time!” And I know that I still could be tempted. But I think all I want right now is cough medicine!  Keep strong.

[Steev]

I can tell you how I did it. But I know that it will be different for each person with this problem – so what worked for me might not work for you. But first I had to admit I had a problem. Not just a problem but an addiction which had only 3 solutions if I didn’t get help – being destitute – being in prison or being dead (from suicide.) When I admitted it was that serious, then I became serious about getting help. I lived near a gaming arcade and part of my recovery was to move! I basically set up a whole new life for myself and the main factor was getting support. Talk to people on here – people in your own location that know about addiction and recovery both self help and professionals (if you can.) Put your recovery first and it will become easier over time.

[Steev]

Hej Yolip. Hur gjorde jag det? Genom att bestämma mig för att lägga all tid och energi som jag hade lagt på mitt spelande i min återhämtning istället. Genom att bestämma att jag var viktigare än vadet. Genom att bestämma att jag verkligen hade ett problem och att jag behövde erkänna det för mig själv och andra människor som kunde hjälpa mig. Helger var alltid dåliga för mig också, så under de första dagarna av min återhämtning såg jag alltid till att jag hade fullt upp på helgerna. Jag gjorde kurser, volontärarbete, gick till GA -grupper och gjorde roliga saker där det inte fanns något spel på plats för att koppla in mig. Jag berättade så många som möjligt om mitt problem och fick dem att se upp för mig. Extra timmar på jobbet hjälper inte bara att betala tillbaka skulder utan att hålla dig borta från spel. Använda rådgivning för att försöka ta reda på vad som kan ha fått mig till detta beteende i första hand. Kort sagt sätta mig själv och min återhämtning först med stöd och hjälp från andra människor. Jag hoppas att det fungerar för dig, gå bra.

[Steev]

Tere Yolip. Kuidas ma seda tegin? Otsustades panna kogu oma aja ja energia, mille olin oma hasartmängudesse pannud, hoopis oma taastumisse. Otsustades, et olen panusest olulisem. Otsustades, et mul on tõepoolest probleem ja et ma pean seda endale ja teistele inimestele abiks tunnistama. Nädalavahetused olid ka minu jaoks alati halvad, nii et taastumise esimestel päevadel veendusin alati, et nädalavahetustel olen hõivatud. Tegin kursusi, vabatahtlikku tööd, käisin GA rühmades ja tegin lõbusaid asju, kus kohapeal polnud hasartmänge, et mind haarata. Rääkisin oma probleemist võimalikult paljudele inimestele ja panin nad mind jälgima. Lisatunnid tööl aitavad mitte ainult võlgu tagasi maksta, vaid hoiavad teid hasartmängudest eemal. Kasutades nõustamist, et välja selgitada, mis võis mind selle käitumiseni viia. Ühesõnaga sean esikohale iseenda ja oma taastumise teiste inimeste toel ja abiga. Loodan, et see töötab teie jaoks, minge hästi.

[Steev]

Hi Yolip.  How did I do it?  By deciding to put all the time and energy that I had put into my gambling into my recovery instead.  By deciding that I was more important than the bet.  By deciding that I did indeed have a problem and that I needed to admit it to myself and to other people that could help me.  Weekends were always bad for me as well, so in the early days of my recovery I always made sure that I was busy at weekends.  I did courses, voluntary work, went to GA groups and did fun stuff where there was no gambling on site to hook me in. I told as many people as I could about my problem and got them to look out for me.  Extra hours at work will help not only to pay debts back but to keep you away from gambling. Using counselling to try and find out what may have gotten me into this behaviour in the first place.  In short putting myself and my recovery first with the support and help of other people.  I hope it works for you,  Go well.

[Steev]

Oi Yolip. Como eu fiz isso? Decidindo colocar todo o tempo e energia que havia investido no jogo na minha recuperação. Ao decidir que eu era mais importante do que a aposta. Ao decidir que realmente tinha um problema e que precisava admiti-lo para mim mesmo e para outras pessoas que poderiam me ajudar. Os fins de semana sempre foram ruins para mim, então, nos primeiros dias de minha recuperação, sempre me assegurei de estar ocupada nos fins de semana. Fiz cursos, trabalho voluntário, fui a grupos de GA e fiz coisas divertidas onde não havia jogos de azar para me prender. Contei meu problema a quantas pessoas pude e fiz com que cuidassem de mim. Horas extras de trabalho ajudarão não apenas a pagar as dívidas, mas também a mantê-lo longe do jogo. Usar aconselhamento para tentar descobrir o que pode ter me levado a esse comportamento em primeiro lugar. Em suma, colocar a mim e minha recuperação em primeiro lugar com o apoio e a ajuda de outras pessoas. Espero que funcione para você, vá bem.

[Steev]

Привет, Йолип. Как я это сделал? Решив вместо этого направить все время и энергию, которые я вложил в азартные игры, на свое выздоровление. Решив, что я важнее ставки. Решив, что у меня действительно есть проблема и что мне нужно признаться в ней себе и другим людям, которые могут мне помочь. Выходные всегда были для меня плохими, поэтому в первые дни выздоровления я всегда следил за тем, чтобы по выходным я был занят. Я ходил на курсы, работал волонтером, ходил в группы GA и занимался забавными вещами там, где не было азартных игр, которые могли бы меня зацепить. Я рассказал как можно большему количеству людей о своей проблеме и заставил их позаботиться обо мне. Дополнительное время на работе поможет не только выплатить долги, но и убережет вас от азартных игр. Используя консультации, я попытаюсь выяснить, что в первую очередь могло спровоцировать меня на такое поведение. Короче говоря, ставлю себя и свое выздоровление на первое место при поддержке и помощи других людей. Надеюсь, это сработает для вас, иди хорошо.

[Steev]

Having had the rollercoaster of the big wins and the subsequent losses, you know that gambling does not work for you and that you have a problem. Own it. Like the alcoholic who HAS to stop drinking you are a compulsive gambler who HAS to stop. Time and money is what you needto gamble with so try and eliminate both. Put the time into your recovery – self help groups – spending time on here – getting counselling or co-counselling if it is available in your area. As Jen3 has said – can you get someone else to be in charge of your money? Perhaps a family member who knows you have a problem. I think it is important for you to pick up your studies again in some way. See if you can get Careers Advice – you might be able to approach your old university for this. Could you use an on-line university like the OU in the UK or check out Future Learn on the web for short (and importantly free) courses in a wide range of subjects. Spending time on this will not only make you feel better about yourself but will give you less time for gambling. Take good care of yourself!

[Steev]

Hi Terry James. I am new here so not sure how my advice will go down, but I haven’t gambled for years and haven’t gambled compulsively for around 30 years. When I made the decision to stop, I was already in a self help group for people with problems – where someone suggested that I go to Gambler’s Anonymous. I went – not just to one meeting but to as many as I could for the first few months. Basically I decided to put as much time and energy into my recovery as I put into my gambling – and that was a lot! At first it was all I could do to resist the pull in my head to gamble again. I didn’t go to any of the places where I used to gamble and changed all my routines and contacts which could lead me back into it. Later I had to change strategies to stay stopped.
What did you give up to start gambling – can you put more energy there? Talk to people – both those close to you and those who know about the problem both on here and in your neck of the woods. I wish you well.

[Steev]

Tere Brandi. Olen siin uus, nii et pole kindel, kas minu nõuanded on teretulnud, kuid olen kindel, et keegi paneb mind õigeks, kui olen rivist väljas. Tore, et tunnistasite, et teil on probleem iseendaga ja siin foorumis, kuid kas olete seda päriselus teinud? Peate saama tuge inimestelt, kes ei mõista sõltuvust. Otsige oma piirkonnas eneseabigruppe või rääkige kellegagi telefoni teel – vajadusel samaarlastega või konkreetse hasartmängude tugirühmaga, nagu GA või muu sarnane. Tulge siia tagasi igal ajal, kui vaja – vaatan teie postitusi. Hasartmänge saab lõhkuda – ma pole üle 30 aasta sunniviisiliselt mänginud.

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