[Steev]

It isn’t an easy ride and I have written on someone else’s post about the aeroplane analogy – that we don’t do this in a straight line but in a zig-zag, so there will be times when you feel it is not worth it, not working or just plain wrong.
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nGet as much support as you can – the Gamblers’ Anonymous meetings are on zoom atm and so much more accessible – the link is here – https://gamblersinrecovery.com
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nYes it would be good to hear of your progress! I wish you well.

[Steev]

I remember being there when you wrote: “I almost missed the feeling of hopelessness after losing it all. We enter survival mode, we think of how we will get money. And then the feeling of “I deserve this”. I haven’t felt like this in months but sadly I feel it won’t be the last time.”
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nOf course it can be the last time. That is your choice. You can either give into the idea that you have the problem and all is hopeless – or you have the problem and you can fix it. It is possible to do that – I know.
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nRedouble your efforts. Get to a GA zoom meeting – the link is here – https://gamblersinrecovery.com
nYou know what you have to do – put as much if not more effort into your recovery as you do into your gambling and you will turn things around.

[Steev]

You may have seen this idea. We think of an aeroplane as flying from point A to B in a straight line, but what actually happens is that it starts flying straight but get knocked off course by turbulence and other factors so the pilot or autopilot has to correct it. So if you were to see the true course of the plane it would look like a zig-zag from A to B.
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nThe idea is that this what recovery is like. It is not a straight line. I lurch from having some ideas about gambling to correcting myself and getting on a better pathway, (hopefully without actually gambling.)
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nYou have noticed another particular trigger for yourself. You have acted to stop that from going any further. You are still on your journey to a new life. I wish you well.

[Steev]

Chasing losses is to some people the definition of problem gambling. Knowing when to stop is not in our nature. We don’t want to stop – because we can’t think of anything that we would rather do with the money than have the “thrill” of another bet.
nIf you read the threads in this forum you will see what you need to do to stop gambling. Cut yourself off from places where you gamble – ban yourself, or block on-line sites as soon as you can. Cut yourself off from the access to money. No more loans – cut up your cards – carry as little money as you need for day to day life. I think it would be wise to let your family know. I know it will be difficult and you will feel ashamed – but I don’t know anyone who has managed to quit gambling alone and good family support will really help. It is possible that someone in your family can carry your finances for you until you are strong enough to resist the bets.
nIn any event you need to get good support for yourself. This link https://gamblersinrecovery.com will give you access to the times of Gamblers’ Anonymous meetings in different countries. As many of them are on zoom now – it is possible to join one on-line which may be hosted on the other side of the world. Other than that you can see if you can get counselling through your medic or a local support group.
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nPlease don’t live in denial. It was a year’s savings. I gambled a whole house away and loans that I was still paying back 20 years later. Nip this in the bud. Do these things now. I wish you well.

[Steev]

You too Shaun … thanks for your good wishes.

[Steev]

Написахте: "Идеята да присъствам лично на среща на GA ме плаши, тъй като се притеснявам да не срещна хора поради професията си. Може би трябва да помисля за консултиране." В момента – повечето срещи на GA са онлайн срещи с увеличение, така че можете да изберете да присъствате на една далеч от мястото, където живеете. Предполагам, че сте в САЩ – за да можете да посетите такъв във Великобритания – където е малко вероятно да срещнете някой, когото познавате. В този форум има подробности за връзката към срещи в темата, стартирана от Чарлз.

Като казах това, бих препоръчал консултиране, както и смятам, че това отива по -дълбоко от посещаването на GA (колкото и да е полезно).

Чудя се дали сте говорили със съпруга си да ви подкрепя, като се грижи за вашите финанси вместо вас, докато не сте достатъчно силни, за да устоите да търсите търговски обекти онлайн. Липсата на достъп до пари означава, че не можете да залагате. Той може да получи подкрепа и тук чрез форума за семейства и приятели и отделните групи за поддръжка. Надявам се, че можете да получите добра подкрепа за себе си и семейството си и да останете силни. Желая ти всичко хубаво.

[Steev]

Anda menulis: "Ide menghadiri pertemuan GA secara langsung membuat saya takut karena saya khawatir bertemu orang karena profesi saya. Mungkin saya harus mempertimbangkan konseling." Saat ini – sebagian besar rapat GA adalah rapat zoom online – sehingga Anda dapat memilih untuk menghadiri rapat yang jauh dari tempat tinggal Anda. Saya menduga Anda berada di AS – jadi Anda bisa menghadirinya di Inggris – di mana Anda tidak mungkin bertemu siapa pun yang Anda kenal. Ada detail tautan ke pertemuan di utas yang dimulai oleh Charles di forum ini.

Karena itu, saya akan merekomendasikan konseling dan juga saya merasa itu lebih dalam daripada kehadiran di GA (berguna apa adanya).

Saya ingin tahu apakah Anda telah berbicara dengan suami Anda tentang mendukung Anda dengan menangani keuangan Anda untuk Anda sampai Anda cukup kuat untuk menolak mencari outlet online. Tidak ada akses ke uang berarti Anda tidak bisa bertaruh. Dia bisa mendapatkan dukungan di sini juga melalui forum keluarga dan teman dan kelompok pendukung yang terpisah. Saya harap Anda bisa mendapatkan dukungan yang baik untuk diri sendiri dan keluarga Anda dan dapat tetap kuat. Saya berharap Anda baik-baik saja.

[Steev]

Ați scris: „Ideea de a participa personal la o întâlnire GA mă sperie, întrucât îmi fac griji că întâlnesc oameni datorită profesiei mele. Poate că ar trebui să iau în considerare consilierea”. În acest moment – majoritatea întâlnirilor GA sunt întâlniri cu zoom online – astfel încât să puteți alege să participați la una departe de locul în care locuiți. Presupun că sunteți în SUA – deci ați putea participa la unul în Marea Britanie – unde este puțin probabil să întâlniți pe cineva pe care îl cunoașteți. Există detalii despre linkul către întâlniri pe firul început de Charles în acest forum.

Acestea fiind spuse, aș recomanda consiliere, așa cum consider că merge mai adânc decât participarea la GA (utilă așa cum este).

Mă întreb dacă ai vorbit cu soțul tău despre sprijinul tău, gestionându-ți finanțele pentru tine, până când nu ești suficient de puternic pentru a rezista să cauți puncte de vânzare online. Niciun acces la bani nu înseamnă că nu puteți paria. El poate obține asistență și aici prin intermediul forumului pentru familii și prieteni și al grupurilor separate de sprijin. Sper că puteți obține un sprijin bun pentru dvs. și familia dvs. și vă puteți menține puternici. Vă doresc bine.

[Steev]

Azt írta: "A gondolat, hogy személyesen részt veszek egy GA találkozón, megijeszt, mivel aggódom, hogy a szakmám miatt összefutok az emberekkel. Talán meg kellene fontolnom a tanácsadást." Jelenleg – a legtöbb GA értekezlet online nagyítású értekezlet – így választhat, hogy részt vesz egy olyan helyen, ahol lakik. Feltételezem, hogy az Egyesült Államokban tartózkodik – tehát részt vehet az Egyesült Királyságban -, ahol nem valószínű, hogy ismerősökkel találkozik. A találkozóra mutató link részletei a Charles által ezen a fórumon indított szálon találhatók.

Ennek ellenére javaslom a tanácsadást, mivel úgy érzem, hogy ez mélyebb, mint a GA -n való részvétel (hasznos, bármennyire is).

Kíváncsi vagyok, beszélt -e a férjével arról, hogy támogatja Önt a pénzügyek intézésével, amíg nem lesz elég erős ahhoz, hogy ellenálljon az online értékesítési lehetőségek keresésének. A pénzhez való hozzáférés hiánya azt jelenti, hogy nem fogadhat. Itt is támogatást kaphat a családok és barátok fórumán és a külön támogató csoportokon keresztül. Remélem, hogy jó támogatást kaphat önmaga és családja számára, és kitarthat. Jó egészséget kívánok.

[Steev]

Je schreef: "Het idee om persoonlijk een GA-bijeenkomst bij te wonen, maakt me bang omdat ik me zorgen maak dat ik mensen tegenkom vanwege mijn beroep. Misschien moet ik counseling overwegen." Op dit moment – de meeste algemene vergaderingen zijn online zoomvergaderingen – kun je er dus voor kiezen om er een bij te wonen ver van waar je woont. Ik vermoed dat je in de VS bent – dus je zou er een in het VK kunnen bijwonen – waar je waarschijnlijk niemand zult ontmoeten die je kent. Er zijn details van de link naar vergaderingen op de draad die door Charles op dit forum is gestart.

Dat gezegd hebbende, zou ik counseling aanbevelen, aangezien ik denk dat het dieper gaat dan het bijwonen van GA (hoe nuttig het ook is).

Ik vraag me af of je met je man hebt gesproken over het ondersteunen van je door je financiën voor je te regelen totdat je sterk genoeg bent om weerstand te bieden aan het zoeken naar online verkooppunten. Geen toegang tot geld betekent dat u niet kunt wedden. Ook hier kan hij steun krijgen via het familie- en vriendenforum en de aparte steungroepen. Ik hoop dat je goede steun kunt krijgen voor jezelf en je familie en dat je sterk kunt blijven. Ik wens je het beste.

[Steev]

Vous avez écrit : « L'idée d'assister à une réunion de l'AG en personne me fait peur car j'ai peur de rencontrer des gens en raison de ma profession. Je devrais peut-être envisager de consulter. Pour le moment – la plupart des réunions GA sont des réunions zoom en ligne – vous pouvez donc choisir d'y assister loin de chez vous. Je suppose que vous êtes aux États-Unis – vous pourriez donc en assister à un au Royaume-Uni – où il est peu probable que vous rencontriez quelqu'un que vous connaissez. Il y a des détails sur le lien vers les réunions sur le fil lancé par Charles dans ce forum.

Cela dit, je recommanderais le conseil car je pense que cela va plus loin que la participation à l'AG (aussi utile qu'elle soit).

Je me demande si vous avez parlé à votre mari de vous soutenir en gérant vos finances à votre place jusqu'à ce que vous soyez assez fort pour résister à la recherche de points de vente en ligne. Aucun accès à l'argent signifie que vous ne pouvez pas parier. Il peut également obtenir de l'aide via le forum des familles et des amis et les groupes de soutien séparés. J'espère que vous pourrez bénéficier d'un bon soutien pour vous et votre famille et que vous pourrez rester forts. Je vous souhaite bonne.

[Steev]

Escribiste: "La idea de asistir a una reunión de la AG en persona me asusta porque me preocupa encontrarme con gente debido a mi profesión. Tal vez debería considerar la consejería". Por el momento, la mayoría de las reuniones de GA son reuniones de zoom en línea, por lo que puede elegir asistir a una que esté lejos de donde vive. Supongo que estás en los EE. UU., Por lo que podrías asistir a uno en el Reino Unido, donde es poco probable que conozcas a alguien que conozcas. Hay detalles del enlace a las reuniones en el hilo iniciado por Charles en este foro.

Habiendo dicho eso, recomendaría la consejería, ya que creo que va más allá de lo que lo hará la asistencia a GA (por útil que sea).

Me pregunto si ha hablado con su esposo acerca de apoyarla manejando sus finanzas por usted hasta que sea lo suficientemente fuerte como para resistirse a buscar salidas en línea. No tener acceso al dinero significa que no puede apostar. También puede obtener apoyo aquí a través del foro de familias y amigos y los grupos de apoyo separados. Espero que pueda obtener un buen apoyo para usted y su familia y pueda mantenerse fuerte. Te deseo lo mejor.

[Steev]

You wrote: “The idea of attending a GA meeting in person scares me as I worry about running into people due to my profession. Maybe I should consider counselling.” At the moment – most GA meetings are online zoom meetings – so you can choose to attend one far from where you live. I am guessing you are in the US – so you could attend one in the UK – where you are unlikely to meet anyone you know. There are details of the link to meetings on the thread started by Charles in this forum.

Having said that, I would recommend counselling as well as I feel it does go deeper than attendance at GA (useful as it is) will.

I wonder if you have spoken to your husband about supporting you by handling your finances for you until you are strong enough to resist looking for outlets online. No access to money means that you cannot bet. He can get support here too via the families and friends forum and the separate support groups. I hope you can get good support for yourself and your family and can keep strong. I wish you well.

[Steev]

Napsali jste: "Myšlenka na osobní účast na schůzce GA mě děsí, protože se obávám, že kvůli své profesi narazím na lidi. Možná bych měl zvážit poradenství." V tuto chvíli – většina schůzek GA jsou online schůzky se zoomem – takže se můžete rozhodnout zúčastnit se jedné daleko od místa, kde žijete. Předpokládám, že jste v USA – abyste se mohli zúčastnit jednoho ve Velké Británii – kde pravděpodobně nepotkáte nikoho, koho znáte. V tomto fóru jsou podrobnosti o odkazu na schůzky ve vlákně, které založil Charles.

Když to řeknu, doporučil bych poradenství, stejně jako mám pocit, že jde hlouběji, než bude účast na GA (jakkoli užitečná).

Zajímalo by mě, jestli jsi mluvila se svým manželem o podpoře tím, že za tebe bude nakládat s financemi, dokud nebudeš dost silná na to, abys odolala hledání online prodejen. Žádný přístup k penězům znamená, že nemůžete sázet. I zde může získat podporu prostřednictvím fóra rodin a přátel a samostatných podpůrných skupin. Doufám, že můžete získat dobrou podporu pro sebe a svou rodinu a můžete zůstat silní. Měj se hezky.

[Steev]

Bạn đã viết: "Ý tưởng trực tiếp tham dự một cuộc họp GA khiến tôi sợ hãi khi tôi lo lắng về việc đụng độ với mọi người do chuyên môn của mình. Có lẽ tôi nên cân nhắc việc tư vấn." Hiện tại – hầu hết các cuộc họp GA là các cuộc họp thu phóng trực tuyến – vì vậy bạn có thể chọn tham dự một cuộc họp ở xa nơi bạn sống. Tôi đoán bạn đang ở Mỹ – vì vậy bạn có thể tham dự một cuộc thi ở Vương quốc Anh – nơi bạn khó có thể gặp bất kỳ ai mà bạn biết. Có chi tiết về liên kết đến các cuộc họp trên chủ đề do Charles bắt đầu trong diễn đàn này.

Đã nói rằng, tôi muốn giới thiệu tư vấn vì tôi cảm thấy nó đi sâu hơn là tham dự GA (hữu ích như nó vốn có).

Tôi tự hỏi liệu bạn đã nói chuyện với chồng về việc hỗ trợ bạn bằng cách xử lý tài chính cho bạn cho đến khi bạn đủ mạnh mẽ để chống lại việc tìm kiếm các cửa hàng trực tuyến. Không có tiền có nghĩa là bạn không thể đặt cược. Anh ấy cũng có thể nhận được sự hỗ trợ ở đây thông qua diễn đàn gia đình và bạn bè và các nhóm hỗ trợ riêng biệt. Tôi hy vọng bạn có thể nhận được sự hỗ trợ tốt cho bản thân và gia đình của bạn và có thể tiếp tục mạnh mẽ. Tôi cầu chúc bạn khỏe mạnh.

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