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Good on you! I hope you enjoy your new washing machine. I’ve started to look out for them in airbnbs now as it is so much easier than trying to understand a laundrette that doesn’t speak English. I didn’t have one ever … but I did always pay for the service wash – so I didn’t have to sit there all day.
I think it is so important to post on what a difference NOT GAMBLING has made to our lives. It keeps me motivated as well!!
Bra for deg! Jeg håper du liker den nye vaskemaskinen din. Jeg har begynt å se etter dem i airbnbs nå, siden det er så mye lettere enn å prøve å forstå et vaskeri som ikke snakker engelsk. Jeg hadde aldri en … men jeg betalte alltid for servicevask – så jeg slapp å sitte der hele dagen.
Jeg tror det er så viktig å legge ut om hvilken forskjell IKKE GAMBLING har gjort for våre liv. Det holder meg motivert også !!
Yes – I am in Derbyshire having travelled from Paris this morning. The number of cases is flat-lining world-wide with 93% of cases now in just 4 countries, China, South Korea, Iran and Italy. The next country on the list (but with only 10% of the cases that Italy has,) is … France.
But when I think about it – I don’t think I am at much risk as I spend most of most days alone on the computer – and when I do go out I don’t socialise much, (I am more likely to do so in the UK) and I think you have to get pretty close to people to catch this one.
Anyway – I hope you are starting to feel better. As you said in a previous post – it is probably a flu varient and nothing to worry about. Just keep well!
It is easier said than done isn’t it. I’ve been wondering all week, whether I would be allowed back into the UK – and it was a breeze … no-one asked me where I had come from or took my temprature. I keep wondering have I got a sore throat or is it just psycho-somatic?
Did you have a fever before the headache / sore throat – because apparently that is the first sign of covid? From looking at the WHO website – the speed of increase of cases is flatlining – so hopefully it will go down soon. Either that or we will all get use to having it in our lives.
Take good care of yourself!
Well done on putting the blocks in place and making sure that you have no access to money.
You are asking what more can you do?
I know when I first made the decision to stop – I thought I was doing as much as I could and I still kept relapsing into gambling. I was fed up going to GA and having to say it is day one again, or telling my counselor what I had done.
I finally came to realise that I had to put as much effort into my recovery as I did into my gambling. That meant not just paying lip service to recovering, or even being ordinary about it – but really taking it seriously and looking at myself to see why I was slipping, what the triggers were and how to avoid them. I could see that some form of “boredom” was a trigger for me – hard to define but lets say that when I was gambling the noise in my head was deafening – stuff like “why won’t it pay out, where can I find an atm, will I be able to come back to this, where can I get my next loan from.” Some sick part of my brain must have missed this “busyness” and felt that without it my life was boring. I had to negate that.
So, (I’m writing an essay myself here) the one thing I don’t see in your recovery plan is an alternative to gambling. Something that will keep your mind active in a positive way, not working out odds or wondering where the next loan is going to come from. I don’t know what that is for you – but I would find something not sports related as this could be a trigger. For me it has been travelling, for others something creative – maybe a hobby you let go of for gambling or something that you have always dreamed of doing but felt you never had the time / resources. See if you can work on this in your counseling sessions! I wish you well.
I think there are facebook groups which facilitate virtual GA meetings – if you are on fb – do a search for them. I think most are US based.
Σας δόθηκε ένα σωσίβιο – και καλά κάνατε που δεν συνεχίσατε να παίζετε, αλλά ξέρετε πού θα οδηγήσουν τα πράγματα αν παίξετε ξανά. Αυτό που σας ώθησε να παίξετε στοιχηματικά αρχικά. Εάν μπορείτε να μάθετε από αυτό, προσέξτε τη σκανδάλη στο μέλλον και ενισχύστε τις άμυνές σας. Ξέρω ότι όταν συνέχιζα να υποτροπιάζω, έκανα όλο και λιγότερη ζημιά κάθε φορά μέχρι να σταματήσω εντελώς. Ελπίζω το ίδιο να ισχύει και για εσάς.
Je hebt een reddingslijn gekregen – en je hebt er goed aan gedaan niet door te spelen, maar je weet waar de dingen toe leiden als je opnieuw speelt. Wat heeft je in de eerste plaats getriggerd om te gokken. Als je daarvan kunt leren, pas dan op voor de trigger in de toekomst en verhoog je verdediging. Ik weet dat toen ik steeds terugviel, ik steeds minder schade aanrichtte totdat ik volledig stopte. Ik hoop dat hetzelfde voor jou geldt.
On vous a donné une bouée de sauvetage – et vous avez bien fait de ne pas continuer à jouer, mais vous savez où les choses mèneront si vous rejouez. Qu'est-ce qui vous a poussé à jouer en premier lieu. Si vous pouvez en tirer des leçons, faites attention au déclencheur à l'avenir et augmentez vos défenses. Je sais que quand j'ai continué à rechuter, j'ai fait de moins en moins de dégâts à chaque fois jusqu'à ce que je m'arrête complètement. J'espère qu'il en va de même pour vous.
You have been given a lifeline – and you did well not to carry on playing, but you know where things will lead if you play again.
What triggered you to gamble in the first place. If you can learn from that, watch out for the trigger in the future and ramp up your defences. I know when I kept relapsing, I did less and less damage each time until I stopped completely. I hope the same goes for you.
Tudom, hogy hosszú utat tett meg … nem csak abból, hogy abbahagyja a szerencsejátékot – hanem abban is, hogy hisz önmagában. Csak lépjen tovább a következő mérföldkőhöz … azaz 6 hónap és 1 nap! Vigyázzon magára.
Je sais que vous avez parcouru un long chemin… pas seulement en arrêtant de jouer – mais aussi en croyant en vous-même. Passez maintenant à l'étape suivante… c'est-à-dire 6 mois et 1 jour ! Prend bien soin de toi.
So che hai fatto molta strada… non solo per smettere di giocare d'azzardo, ma anche per credere in te stesso. Basta passare ora al prossimo traguardo… cioè 6 mesi e 1 giorno! Prendersi cura di voi stessi.
Știu că ai parcurs un drum lung … nu doar de la oprirea jocurilor de noroc – ci și de la a crede în tine. Treceți acum la următoarea etapă … adică 6 luni și 1 zi! Să ai grijă de tine.
Ξέρω ότι έχετε κάνει πολύ δρόμο … όχι μόνο από το να σταματήσετε τα τυχερά παιχνίδια – αλλά και να πιστέψετε στον εαυτό σας. Απλώς προχωρήστε τώρα στο επόμενο ορόσημο … δηλαδή 6 μήνες και 1 ημέρα! Φρόντισε καλα τον εαύτο σου.