[Steev]

I know it’s been a long time – but I still think about this place from time to time and wonder how you are all doing. I notice one or two names I remember from a couple of years ago … I hope others are not here because they no longer need to be. I am still gamble free. Currently in Spain having spent the last 4 months in Portugal. I will be back in the UK next month but leaving again for the 3rd round of travels in July. I would much rather have this life than the one I had stood in front of a flashing machine, pushing in coin after coin. Keep doing what you need to do to keep gamble free and enjoy your life!

[Steev]

Bravo Idi – drago mi je vidjeti da si tako dobar.

[Steev]

Браво Иди – радвам се, че се справяш толкова добре.

[Steev]

Well done Idi – great to see you doing so well.

[Steev]

अच्छा किया ईदी – आपको इतना अच्छा करते देखकर बहुत अच्छा लगा।

[Steev]

Goed gedaan Idi – geweldig om te zien dat je het zo goed doet.

[Steev]

Bravo Idi – c'est super de te voir si bien.

[Steev]

Bagus Idi – senang melihatmu melakukannya dengan baik.

[Steev]

I hope you have a happy and healthy 2021 Monica … oh and gamble free of course!

[Steev]

The link is here: https://gamblersinrecovery.com 

[Steev]

Я не знаю, смогу ли я вернуться к «нормальным» азартным играм, и я предпочитаю не знать. Мне в жизни не нужны азартные игры, поэтому я избегаю их. Это поведение слишком опасно для меня, чтобы с ним играть. Я знаю, что больше никогда не буду играть, и меня это устраивает.

[Steev]

If you read through the threads in this forum, you will see that there is plenty here to guide you.
n1) Ban yourself from places where you play both on-line and off.
n2) Lose access to money, get your fiance to handle your finances for you (you don’t have to say why you need this right now – but it does help to be honest!)
n3) Lose access to the time to gamble. Find something else, another passion but not one that will cause problems (like alcohol) to spend your time on.
n4) Get good support for yourself. Maybe try counselling if it is available in your country, or zoom meetings for gamblers who wish to stop – https://gamblersinrecovery.com or talk to a medic.
nYou can also visit the groups on this site. There are facilitated groups for new people on Mondays and Thursdays so you know someone else will be there. Times are shown on the yellow tab “support groups.” I wish you well.

[Steev]

I love the vision board idea … I might try that myself!

[Steev]

But then I have said that before.

[Steev]

You managed not to gamble for 6 months which was no mean feat. Is it possible to learn from what you did then and put it into practice again.
nI am sure if you have read around the site – you know the 4 ways of stopping are 1) to ban or exclude yourself from places where you gamble 2) to lose access to money – get someone else (your wife?) to handle your finances. 3) to get great support for yourself – by attending (virtually these days) self-help groups (https://gamblersinrecovery.com) or through counselling. 4) By finding other passions which will fill up your time so you will not be bored, just be careful not to substitute another problem behaviour for gambling.
nI know people have problems with 2) because it means coming clean with loved ones – but it IS always better that the news of your gambling comes from you – than the partner finds out. It is not something to rush into though and you may wish to get advice from experienced GA members for example. I wish you well.

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