[Meghna83]

JM how are you since you last post?

Your loss is certainly big but you are still young and alive. please turn your back on this and start saving again. You will look back and see it as a terrible mistake

[Meghna83]

Kin ty for sharing this. Made me stop and think for a bit 🙂

[Meghna83]

Vera,

so nice to hear from you. Well done on steering clear from G. You already decided from you previous post (before payday) that you would not gamble and so you didnt.

I gave birth to a beautiful girl on at the end of May. Busy now with 2 babies and gambling has no place in my head or house. She remains nameless as I have too many name choices!

I woke up in the morning and waters broke within 10 mins. Went straight to hospital and delivered within the hour. Delivered on gas and god given air! 

There I was booking myself in for an elective C section for fear of a traumatic delivery (experienced by me from my no1) but nature showed me it had other plans for me.

so grateful 

have a lovely day Vera 🙂

[Meghna83]

My advice would be please be honest with your wife and tell her about the gambling. Your actions directly affect her and your child.

If you don’t face up to your addiction and involve those that are affected then your addiction will thrive and you won’t have any checks in place to stop you.

To lose that amount of money is a big deal and you need someone you trust and love to make you see the reality of what you are doing. The damage you are creating for you and your famil. This advice is from experience.

I lost £20,000 within 30 minutes last year and when I did it I felt sick to my stomach. I bet £500 per spin. When I told my husband soon after it happened, his horror at my courage to bet that amount woke me up to how bad things had gotten with me. I realised, only from him, how out of control I had become. I desperately needed his help and guidance.

You need to involve someone you trust

[Meghna83]

Believe me, you have done yourself a huge favour by excluding from these sites. Over a year ago I lost £14k in one session (no more than half an hour) Had I self excluded from other sites and registered with Gamban and GamStop soon after, I would have saved myself from losing  thousands more.

stop now. the chase will only lead to more losses and continuing gambling will only make you bleed financially until that debt you have becomes unmanageable 

you have done extremely well to ban yourself from sites and make arrangements to clear your debts.

give yourself time. You will feel amazing in a few months time if you stick to working hard on your recovery

[Meghna83]

Hi Kin,

why silver and not gold? 

Never thought about that but I also have a lot of money tied up in gold wedding jewellery

These wedding gifts definitely stop me from losing the cash value to G 

[Meghna83]

Hi Vera,

Your kind words really uplifted me and I felt the exact sentiments for you Vera. You deserve so much better. We all do.

You have a blessed life and only you can make it better by stopping G properly.

Get rid of the choice of either gambling or not. Keep barriers in place to prevent you from G (lose access to that money) withdraw your pay. Do whatever it takes to make your life better and bring back the peace of mind you once enjoyed.

Life is hard enough and with the current circumstances with the world economy, you really need your salary for worthwhile things.

Please give us some news on how you are doing.

[Meghna83]

Hi Stuart 

feeling your pain with this loss and relapse and  it’s all the more painful when it happens after a long stretch of GF time. 

With regards to the withdrawal restriction, was it just a case of you waiting for the cash out period or was it that you had to gamble more to be able to withdraw the 16k?

These sites have a way of hooking us in a keeping us there, until we have spent our last penny in deposit money (as you probably know well.)

Please let go of your losses. That 2k could have been £20k or even £200k.  just imagine based on past experiences what that would have felt like.

I, like you, have lost a huge amount of money to online G sites and only lost again and again chasing. I have zero inhibitions when it comes to gambling and I always bet big, which means huge losses in a small amount of time.

Turn away from the things that are triggering your loss like alcohol and lose access to money. the addiction will always remain and I guess you have to protect yourself from it now and even 10 years down the line. 

[Meghna83]

How about not logging in at all on that date

Your plan of :

‘The non gambler in me is planning to give my lap top to somebody overnight on that date. Go to the ATM the next morning. Remove all available cash.‘

Make that decision Vera and stick to it. It’s when you look at option C or D that the complications arise

I don’t go to land based casinos (pre lockdown) so have that cash in my hand would deter me from G

Good luck

[Meghna83]

Pozdrav, Dark Energy,

Znam što mislite o FB -u i sam to koristim. Moji kontakti na fb -u podijelili su pozitivne i zanimljive stvari tijekom ovog zaključavanja. Mislim da, iz mog iskustva, mnogi moji kontakti objavljuju svoja životna iskustva (bez uzbuđenja) koristim fb za blagdansku inspiraciju i provjeru starih prijatelja iz dana univerze. Također kupujem stvari po povoljnoj cijeni!

pretpostavljam da ovisi o načinu na koji ga koristiš i tvojoj viziji stvari.

moja dva najbolja prijatelja nisu na FB -u i nemaju djece. Znam duboko da bi i oni poželjeli da imaju obitelj. Oni su dvoje najvjernijih i najiskrenijih ljudi koje poznajem.

život za tebe nije završio i svaki dan kad se probudiš, imaš moć učiniti svoj život boljim. Vjerujte u to.

[Meghna83]

Hei Dark Energy,

Tiedän mitä tarkoitat FB: llä ja käytän sitä itse. Yhteystietoni fb: ssä ovat jakaneet positiivisia ja mielenkiintoisia asioita tämän lukituksen aikana. Luulen, että kokemuksistani monet kontaktit julkaisevat elämänkokemuksensa (ei jännitystä). Käytän fb: tä lomainspiraatioon ja vanhojen ystävien lukemiseen uni -päiviltä. Ostan myös edullisesti!

Luulen, että se riippuu siitä, miten käytät sitä ja näkemyksesi asioista.

kaksi parasta ystävääni eivät ole FB: ssä, eikä heillä ole lapsia. Tiedän syvältä, että he haluavat myös perheen. He ovat kaksi uskollisinta ja aitoa ihmistä, jonka tunnen.

elämä ei ole päättynyt sinulle, ja joka päivä kun heräät, sinulla on valta tehdä elämästäsi parempi. Usko se.

[Meghna83]

Hi Dark Energy,

I know what you mean about FB and I do use it myself. My contacts on fb have shared positive and interesting things during this lockdown. I think, from my experience, many of my contacts post their experiences in life (no thrills attached) I use fb for holiday inspiration and checking in on old friends from uni days. I also buy things for a bargain! 

i guess it depends on how you use it and your vision of things.

my two best friends are not on FB and they do not have children. I know deep down they wish they had a family too. They are two of the most loyal and genuine people I know.

life has not ended for you and each day you awake, you have the power to make your life better. Believe that. 

[Meghna83]

Sveika, tumšā enerģija,

Es zinu, ko jūs domājat par FB, un es to arī izmantoju. Mani kontakti fb šajā slēgšanas laikā ir dalījušies ar pozitīvām un interesantām lietām. Es domāju, ka no savas pieredzes daudzi mani kontakti publicē savu dzīves pieredzi (bez aizraušanās) Es izmantoju fb, lai iedvesmotu svētkus un pārbaudītu vecos draugus no uni dienām. Es arī pērku lietas par izdevīgu cenu!

Es domāju, ka tas ir atkarīgs no tā, kā jūs to izmantojat, un jūsu redzējumu par lietām.

mani divi labākie draugi nav FB un viņiem nav bērnu. Es zinu, ka viņi vēlas, lai viņiem būtu ģimene. Viņi ir divi no uzticīgākajiem un patiesākajiem cilvēkiem, kurus pazīstu.

dzīve jums nav beigusies, un katru dienu, kad pamostaties, jums ir spēks uzlabot savu dzīvi. Ticiet tam.

[Meghna83]

Hola Dark Energy,

Sé lo que quieres decir con FB y lo uso yo mismo. Mis contactos en Facebook han compartido cosas positivas e interesantes durante este bloqueo. Creo que, por mi experiencia, muchos de mis contactos publican sus experiencias en la vida (sin emociones adjuntas). Utilizo Facebook para inspirarme en las fiestas y para ver a viejos amigos de la universidad. ¡También compro cosas a precio de ganga!

Supongo que depende de cómo lo uses y de tu visión de las cosas.

mis dos mejores amigos no están en FB y no tienen hijos. Sé que en el fondo también desearían tener una familia. Son dos de las personas más leales y genuinas que conozco.

la vida no ha terminado para ti y cada día que despiertas tienes el poder de hacer tu vida mejor. Creer que.

[Meghna83]

Привіт Темна Енергія,

Я знаю, що ви маєте на увазі, і я сам цим користуюся. Мої контакти у фб поділилися позитивними та цікавими речами під час цього карантину. Я думаю, що з мого досвіду багато моїх контактів публікують свої життєві переживання (без гострих відчуттів), я використовую fb для святкового натхнення та перевірки старих друзів з університетських днів. Я також купую речі за вигідну ціну!

Я думаю, це залежить від того, як ви його використовуєте, і від вашого бачення речей.

мої двоє найкращих друзів не на ФБ і у них немає дітей. Я глибоко знаю, що вони теж хотіли б мати сім'ю. Вони двоє з найбільш відданих і справжніх людей, яких я знаю.

життя не закінчилося для вас, і кожен день, коли ви прокидаєтесь, у вас є сила зробити ваше життя кращим. Повір у це.

[Author]

Posts