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Thanks for the kind words and advice Sunny.

I slept well last night and am feeling a bit better than I did yesterday. This morning looking at my recent relapse, I do also feel as if I am in a better place with my recovery than I was 3 months ago. The last time it took me a number of weeks before I took any positive steps including seeking help, while this time it took one day. I was also very unknowledgeable last time about the support available, blocking mechanisms, etc. This time I have my previous knowledge and steps I took available to me to build on. So overall, as I mentioned I still see yesterday as a step backward, but it helps to overall also see some longer-term progress.

So onto a few new additional steps to start with

Support Groups / GA Meetings
I want to make sure to keep these more frequent, with that in mind, I have scheduled some minimum meetings for the next few weeks.

• December 23rd – Call GA Helpline
• December 24th – GA Zoom Meeting
• December 28th – Topic Group
• january 5th – GA Zoom Meeting
• January 7th – GA Zoom Meeting
• January 11th – Topic Group

Blocking / Restrictions

• Install blocking software on phone and laptop
• Block gambling transactions from virtual online account, or if that is not possible, permanently close the account
• Permanebtly close newly created sports betting account

Journaling – Get back to journaling regularly – at least 2-3 times per week

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Great post Charles,

I think the process of looking at how things were when you gambled compared to now is a good exercise to show the positives of working on your gambling problem. Even though I had a bet today for the first time in almost 3 months which I am not proud or pleased about, I can still look at my Christmases in the past and how the thoughts and impact of gambling would dominate them compared to this year where even with the regrettable relapse, I am hoping it will be so much better.

Thank you for all your great help and advice in the past few months as well on the forums and in groups.

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Great work Sunny, as others have mentioned, your continued results are a motivation to try do something similar, and a reminder that it is possible.

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This is my first Journal entry in over 2 weeks and unfortunately, it is not a very positive one. Yesterday and this morning I made sports bets with money I had available to me. From a financial side, the hit is much lower than it has been before as for the past 3 months, as soon as my wages arrive, I transfer savings, rent, and main bills to my girlfriend , and I do not have direct access to those funds.

It still feels terrible though, and I feel like I have taken a step backward. One of the things that I am finding difficult is that I don’t really have anything to point to as to why I gambled on this occasion thus making it more difficult to come up with action items that can help prevent future relapses. Generally in the past, I have mostly been able to link my gambling with items such as financial need, trying to repay debt, being overly stressed and looking for a release, or boredom. None of those ring true on this occasion though.

That said, I have been more lapse recently with regard to working on my problem/issues with 2 weeks passing without a journal update, no recent attending of Groups on here or GA meetings, and much less frequent forum reading and replying. Those certainly didn’t help, so that at least is something I can go back to working harder on.

The second item that I found most difficult with this one is the hurt it caused and the loss of trust from my girlfriend. She has been extremely supportive through all of this, and the same was true when we spoke this morning about it. That said, it seems clear that the cumulative mistakes and lying are adding to the hurt caused to her and in turn the trust that she has in me.

My short-term plan at the moment is to call a GA helpline, work on some renewed to-do items including a schedule for upcoming groups on here, and GA meetings to attend, with the next few weeks being particularly important with the holiday period being an easy time to fall out of a schedule. I will also add another Journal entry here with an update tomorrow.

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Dette er min første journalpost i over 2 uger, og desværre er den ikke særlig positiv. I går og i morges lavede jeg sportsspil med penge, jeg havde til rådighed. Fra en økonomisk side er hittet meget lavere end det har været før som i de sidste 3 måneder, så snart min løn ankommer, overfører jeg opsparing, husleje og hovedregninger til min kæreste, og jeg har ikke direkte adgang til disse midler. Det føles stadig forfærdeligt, og jeg føler, at jeg har taget et skridt tilbage. En af de ting, jeg synes er vanskelig, er, at jeg ikke rigtig har noget at pege på, hvorfor jeg spillede ved denne lejlighed og dermed gjorde det vanskeligere at komme med handlinger, der kan hjælpe med at forhindre fremtidige tilbagefald. Generelt tidligere har jeg mest været i stand til at forbinde mit spil med ting som økonomisk behov, forsøge at tilbagebetale gæld, være alt for stresset og lede efter en frigivelse eller kedsomhed. Ingen af disse stemmer dog rigtigt ved denne lejlighed. Når det er sagt, har jeg for nylig været mere bortfaldet med hensyn til at arbejde med mine problemer/problemer med 2 ugers forløb uden en journalopdatering, ingen nylig deltagelse i grupper her eller GA -møder og meget mindre hyppig forumlæsning og besvarelse. Det hjalp bestemt ikke, så det er i det mindste noget, jeg kan gå tilbage til at arbejde hårdere med. Det andet emne, som jeg fandt vanskeligst med denne, er den ondt, det forårsagede og tabet af tillid fra min kæreste. Hun har været yderst støttende gennem alt dette, og det samme var tilfældet, da vi talte om det i morges. Når det er sagt, virker det klart, at de kumulative fejl og løgne øger den ondt, der er forårsaget af hende og til gengæld den tillid, hun har til mig. Min kortsigtede plan i øjeblikket er at ringe til en GA-hjælpelinje, arbejde på nogle fornyede to-do-elementer, herunder en tidsplan for kommende grupper her, og GA-møder, der skal deltage, hvor de næste par uger er særligt vigtige med ferieperioden være en let tid at falde ud af en tidsplan. Jeg vil også tilføje endnu en journalpost her med en opdatering i morgen.

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Tämä on ensimmäinen päiväkirjani yli 2 viikkoon, ja valitettavasti se ei ole kovin positiivinen. Eilen ja tänä aamuna tein urheiluvetoja rahoilla, jotka minulla oli käytettävissäni. Taloudelliselta kannalta osuma on paljon pienempi kuin se on ollut viimeisten kolmen kuukauden aikana, heti kun palkkani saapuvat, siirrän säästöt, vuokrat ja päälaskut tyttöystävälleni, eikä minulla ole suoraa pääsyä niitä varoja. Se tuntuu silti kauhealta, ja minusta tuntuu, että olen ottanut askeleen taaksepäin. Yksi niistä asioista, jotka koen vaikeiksi, on se, että minulla ei oikeastaan ole mitään syytä osoittaa, miksi pelasin tällä kertaa uhkapeliä, mikä vaikeuttaa sellaisten toimien keksimistä, jotka voivat auttaa estämään tulevia uusiutumisia. Yleensä olen aiemmin voinut useimmiten yhdistää rahapelini sellaisiin asioihin kuin taloudellinen tarve, velkojen takaisinmaksu, liiallinen stressi ja vapautumisen etsiminen tai tylsyys. Kukaan näistä ei kuitenkaan pidä paikkaansa tässä yhteydessä. Siitä huolimatta olen viime aikoina ollut ongelmallisempi työskennellessäni ongelmani/ongelmieni parissa 2 viikon kuluttua ilman päiväkirjapäivitystä, enkä ole äskettäin osallistunut ryhmään täällä tai GA: n kokouksiin ja paljon harvemmin foorumin lukeminen ja vastaaminen. Nämä eivät varmasti auttaneet, joten ainakin voin palata työskentelemään kovemmin. Toinen asia, jonka pidin vaikeimpana tämän kanssa, on sen aiheuttama loukkaantuminen ja tyttöystäväni luottamuksen menetys. Hän on ollut erittäin tukeva kaikessa tässä, ja sama oli totta, kun puhuimme siitä tänä aamuna. Näyttää kuitenkin selvältä, että kumulatiiviset virheet ja valehtelu lisäävät hänelle aiheutettua haittaa ja vuorostaan luottamusta, jota hänellä on minuun. Lyhyen aikavälin suunnitelmani on tällä hetkellä soittaa GA: n neuvontapuhelimeen, työskennellä joidenkin uusittujen tehtävien parissa, mukaan lukien aikataulu tuleville ryhmille täällä, ja GA: n kokouksiin osallistua, ja seuraavat viikot ovat erityisen tärkeitä lomakauden aikana on helppo aika pudota aikataulusta. Lisään myös toisen päiväkirjamerkinnän tähän päivityksellä huomenna.

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Welcome to the forum itsdone, and well done on taking a positive step towards being gamble free.

I would advise attending the New Members Practical Advice Groups that were mentioned and take place On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). I found these extremely useful and hopefully you will too.

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I still seem to be having difficulty joining groups. I was hoping to join the Peer Support tonight but again I do not see any option to join the group. I have tried in both Chrome and Firefox.

Any tips for what I can do to be able to join groups again?

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Привет, солнечный и добро пожаловать на форум! Отличная работа за 110 дней, продолжаем.

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Hi sunny and welcome to the forum,

Great work with 110 days, keep it going.

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Welcome to the forum K, and well done it sounds like you are taking some very positive steps by recognizing support is needed and reaching out to get some, and putting barriers in place.

If you haven’t already done so, I would recommend checking out the new member’s practical advice forums that are held on Mondays and Thursdays.

And thanks for the Queens Gambit recommendation, I agree it is a great show, I have also started getting back into Chess a bit more since watching it.

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Have the issues been resolved?

I was hoping to join the topic group but when I go to the Groups Calendar, it says the topic group is over and New Members Group has started, but there is no option to join the group?

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That is great news Dunc, thanks for the update.

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Det er gode nyheder Dunc, tak for opdateringen.

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Tämä on hieno uutinen Dunc, kiitos päivityksestä.

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