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Hi freebyrd3.

Welcome to the forum and well done on taking a positive first step towards seeking help. You asked where to go to from here, and yes you are right admitting to others and more importantly to yourself that you have a problem is a good starting point.

Next up, I would recommend trying out the New Members Practical Advice Group that run On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). Here you can chat with both people going through a similar situation, and those that have plenty of experience in the area like Charles, and will be able to pick up plenty of tips/advice, and suggested next steps.

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हाय फ्रीबर्ड3. मंच में आपका स्वागत है और मदद मांगने की दिशा में सकारात्मक पहला कदम उठाकर अच्छा लगा। आपने पूछा कि यहाँ से कहाँ जाना है, और हाँ आप दूसरों को स्वीकार कर रहे हैं और इससे भी महत्वपूर्ण बात यह है कि आपको कोई समस्या है, यह एक अच्छा प्रारंभिक बिंदु है। इसके बाद, मैं न्यू मेंबर्स प्रैक्टिकल एडवाइस ग्रुप को आज़माने की सलाह दूंगा जो सोमवार को २१:०० (यूके) और गुरुवार को १९:०० (यूके) पर चलता है। यहां आप एक जैसी स्थिति से गुजर रहे दोनों लोगों के साथ चैट कर सकते हैं, और जिनके पास चार्ल्स जैसे क्षेत्र में बहुत अनुभव है, और वे बहुत सारे सुझाव/सलाह लेने में सक्षम होंगे, और अगले चरणों का सुझाव देंगे।

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Ahoj freebyrd3. Vítejte na fóru a dobře jste udělali pozitivní první krok k vyhledání pomoci. Zeptali jste se, kam jít odsud, a ano, správně přiznáváte ostatním a hlavně sobě, že máte problém, je dobrým výchozím bodem. Dále bych doporučil vyzkoušet Praktickou poradní skupinu pro nové členy, která funguje v pondělí v 21:00 (Velká Británie) a ve čtvrtek v 19:00 (Velká Británie). Zde si můžete popovídat jak s lidmi, kteří procházejí podobnou situací, tak s těmi, kteří mají spoustu zkušeností v této oblasti, jako je Charles, a budou moci vyzvednout spoustu tipů/rad a navrhnout další kroky.

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Bună freebyrd3. Bine ați venit pe forum și bine făcut pentru a face un prim pas pozitiv către căutarea de ajutor. Ați întrebat unde să mergeți de aici și da, aveți dreptate să admiteți față de ceilalți și mai important pentru dvs. că aveți o problemă este un bun punct de plecare. În continuare, aș recomanda să încercați grupul de consiliere practică pentru noii membri, care rulează luni la 21:00 (Marea Britanie) și joi la 19:00 (Marea Britanie). Aici puteți discuta atât cu oamenii care trec printr-o situație similară, cât și cu cei care au o experiență bogată în zonă, cum ar fi Charles, și vor putea primi numeroase sfaturi / sfaturi și au sugerat pașii următori.

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こんにちはfreebyrd3。フォーラムへようこそ。助けを求めるための前向きな第一歩を踏み出すことに成功しました。あなたはここからどこに行くべきか尋ねました、そしてそうです、あなたは他の人に正しく認めています、そしてもっと重要なことにあなたが問題を抱えていることはあなた自身にとって良い出発点です。次は、月曜日の21:00（英国）と木曜日の19:00（英国）に開催される新会員実践アドバイスグループを試してみることをお勧めします。ここでは、同じような状況を経験している人と、チャールズのような地域で豊富な経験を持っている人の両方とチャットでき、たくさんのヒント/アドバイスを拾い、次のステップを提案することができます。

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Hallo freebyrd3. Welkom op het forum en goed gedaan met het nemen van een positieve eerste stap om hulp te zoeken. Je vroeg waar je vanaf hier heen moest gaan, en ja, je hebt gelijk, toegeven aan anderen en, nog belangrijker, aan jezelf dat je een probleem hebt, is een goed uitgangspunt. Vervolgens zou ik aanraden om de New Members Practical Advice Group uit te proberen die op maandag om 21:00 uur (VK) en donderdag om 19:00 uur (VK) wordt gehouden. Hier kun je chatten met zowel mensen die een soortgelijke situatie doormaken, als met mensen die veel ervaring hebben in de omgeving, zoals Charles, en die veel tips/adviezen kunnen oppikken en vervolgstappen kunnen voorstellen.

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Здравей freebyrd3. Добре дошли във форума и браво, като направите положителна първа стъпка към търсене на помощ. Попитахте къде да отидете оттук и да, вие сте прав, като признавате пред другите и по -важното пред себе си, че имате проблем, е добра отправна точка. След това бих препоръчал да изпробвате Групата за практически съвети за нови членове, която работи в понеделник в 21:00 (Великобритания) и четвъртък в 19:00 (Великобритания). Тук можете да разговаряте както с хора, преминаващи през подобна ситуация, така и с такива, които имат богат опит в областта като Чарлз и ще могат да получат много съвети/съвети и предложени следващи стъпки.

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I received my pay on Thursday of this week and I am sorry to report that soon after, I made some bets.

I have generally found it difficult to pinpoint specific triggers in the past, but payday is certainly a very clear one with bets occurring soon after receiving it on a number of occasions. I have put some barriers in place to help with this in the past with auto payment set up to transfer the majority of my wages to my girlfriend, there is a loophole with this system though in that payday sometimes arrives a few days early before the auto payment goes through leaving some room to gamble in the time between. There is also no accountability for any money that is not transferred.

I have put some new steps/barriers in place to try and help with this going forward.

• If wages arrive early – bring forward the forwarded date for funds to my Girlfriend
• Set up an auto email forwarding to my girlfriend when I receive a payslip email – that way she will know that within the next 24 hours, I should be receiving my wages and in turn she should receive a trasnfer
• For any funds not being sent, set up an account which my girlfriend has full visibility of to help with accountability

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Hi skandanavia,

Welcome to the forum and well done on taking a positive step towards being gamble free.

It sounds like at the moment, you like a lot of compulsive gamblers myself included cannot currently trust yourself with any money that you have access to. To help with this issue, a first step could be asking someone you trust to manage your money for now. You would still control your money and get to decide what it is spent on, but that spend would always go through your trusted friend.

I would also recommend attending the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). You can get some really great advice there that may be a big help.

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Hi ccmessina18,

Well done on resisting the temptation to gamble this morning. I hope the day continues well for you, and you continue to be strong.

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Привет, ccmessina18! Молодцы, что сопротивлялись искушению сыграть сегодня утром. Я надеюсь, что этот день продолжится для вас хорошо, и вы останетесь сильными.

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Привет, ccmessina1 Добро пожаловать на сайт, молодцы, сделали позитивный шаг, я с нетерпением жду новостей о том, как идут дела. Как упомянул Дунк, группа практических советов для новых членов работает по понедельникам в 21:00 (Великобритания) и в четверг в 19:00 (Великобритания). Если вы еще этого не сделали, я бы порекомендовал попробовать их, я нашел их очень полезными 6 месяцев назад, когда впервые присоединился, и до сих пор посещаю их время от времени.

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Hi ccmessina1

Welcome to the and well done on taking a positive step, I look forward to hearing updates on how things are going.

As Dunc mentioned there are New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). If you haven’t done so already, I would recommend giving these a try, I found them very useful 6 months ago when I first joined, and still do so attending them from time to time.

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I attended the topic group last night and as usual, found it very useful.

The topic this time was on baby steps, this was a topic group I had participated in in the past, but despite that fact, I still picked up some new knowledge/info along with a reminder/update on elements discussed before.

The biggest of the new takeaways for me was how success breeds success, and failure breeds failure.

We need to set small and achievable tasks (baby steps) that don’t set us up for failure. I was already somewhat aware of this concept but I had never really considered why this is so important. If we don’t do this, then we will inevitably fail, and the cost of that failure can be large potentially, taking steps back in recovery or even giving up altogether thinking along the lines of “well I didn’t hit my goal so I may as well give up”

Counter to that, having regular successes even if they are each individually small, sets us up for more successes in the future which collectively can lead to huge sometimes life-changing changes in our lives.

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hi johnstein,

Can you please share which events lead you to the bet in previous attempts? What was your motivation at that time? (how do you recall it now?)

At the time, I thought that winning money was the only real motivation either so that I could just have more money, or as time went on to pay off the debts that I had racked up. Looking back I can see that does not tell the full story. While it is still a potential trigger, for me it is a combination of things including stress release, boredom, a temporary escape from real life, the feeling of euphoria after winning, and trying to solve money issues.

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