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Salut freebyrd3. Bienvenue sur le forum et bravo pour avoir fait un premier pas positif vers la recherche d'aide. Vous avez demandé où aller à partir d'ici, et oui, vous avez raison d'admettre aux autres et plus important encore à vous-même que vous avez un problème est un bon point de départ. Ensuite, je recommanderais d'essayer le groupe de conseils pratiques pour les nouveaux membres qui se déroule le lundi à 21h00 (Royaume-Uni) et le jeudi à 19h00 (Royaume-Uni). Ici, vous pouvez discuter à la fois avec des personnes qui vivent une situation similaire et avec celles qui ont beaucoup d'expérience dans le domaine comme Charles, et pourront obtenir de nombreux conseils et suggestions pour les prochaines étapes.

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Sveiki, freebyrd3. Sveiki atvykę į forumą ir gerai padaryta, žengiant teigiamą pirmąjį žingsnį link pagalbos. Jūs paklausėte, kur eiti iš čia, ir taip, jūs teisingai pripažįstate kitiems ir, svarbiausia, sau, kad turite problemų, yra geras atspirties taškas. Toliau rekomenduočiau išbandyti naujų narių praktinių patarimų grupę, kuri dirba pirmadieniais 21:00 (JK) ir ketvirtadienį 19:00 (JK). Čia galite kalbėtis su žmonėmis, patiriančiais panašią situaciją, ir su tais, kurie turi daug patirties šioje srityje, pavyzdžiui, Charlesu, ir galės gauti daug patarimų/patarimų ir pasiūlyti tolesnius veiksmus.

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Hola freebyrd3. Bienvenido al foro y enhorabuena por dar un primer paso positivo hacia la búsqueda de ayuda. Preguntó adónde ir desde aquí, y sí, tiene razón, admitir ante los demás y, lo que es más importante, ante usted mismo, que tiene un problema, es un buen punto de partida. A continuación, recomendaría probar el Grupo de consejos prácticos para nuevos miembros que se realiza los lunes a las 21:00 (Reino Unido) y el jueves a las 19:00 (Reino Unido). Aquí puede conversar con personas que atraviesan una situación similar y con personas que tienen mucha experiencia en el área como Charles, y podrán obtener muchos consejos / sugerencias y sugerencias sobre los próximos pasos.

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Ciao freebyrd3. Benvenuto nel forum e ben fatto per aver compiuto un primo passo positivo verso la ricerca di aiuto. Hai chiesto dove andare da qui, e sì, hai ragione ammettere agli altri e soprattutto a te stesso che hai un problema è un buon punto di partenza. Successivamente, consiglierei di provare il gruppo di consigli pratici per i nuovi membri che si svolge il lunedì alle 21:00 (Regno Unito) e il giovedì alle 19:00 (Regno Unito). Qui puoi chattare sia con le persone che stanno attraversando una situazione simile, sia con quelle che hanno molta esperienza nella zona come Charles, e saranno in grado di raccogliere molti suggerimenti/consigli e suggerire i passaggi successivi.

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हाय फ्रीबर्ड3. मंच में आपका स्वागत है और मदद मांगने की दिशा में सकारात्मक पहला कदम उठाकर अच्छा लगा। आपने पूछा कि यहाँ से कहाँ जाना है, और हाँ आप दूसरों को स्वीकार कर रहे हैं और इससे भी महत्वपूर्ण बात यह है कि आपको कोई समस्या है, यह एक अच्छा प्रारंभिक बिंदु है। इसके बाद, मैं न्यू मेंबर्स प्रैक्टिकल एडवाइस ग्रुप को आज़माने की सलाह दूंगा जो सोमवार को २१:०० (यूके) और गुरुवार को १९:०० (यूके) पर चलता है। यहां आप एक जैसी स्थिति से गुजर रहे दोनों लोगों के साथ चैट कर सकते हैं, और जिनके पास चार्ल्स जैसे क्षेत्र में बहुत अनुभव है, और वे बहुत सारे सुझाव/सलाह लेने में सक्षम होंगे, और अगले चरणों का सुझाव देंगे।

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Hi freebyrd3.

Welcome to the forum and well done on taking a positive first step towards seeking help. You asked where to go to from here, and yes you are right admitting to others and more importantly to yourself that you have a problem is a good starting point.

Next up, I would recommend trying out the New Members Practical Advice Group that run On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). Here you can chat with both people going through a similar situation, and those that have plenty of experience in the area like Charles, and will be able to pick up plenty of tips/advice, and suggested next steps.

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Ahoj freebyrd3. Vítejte na fóru a dobře jste udělali pozitivní první krok k vyhledání pomoci. Zeptali jste se, kam jít odsud, a ano, správně přiznáváte ostatním a hlavně sobě, že máte problém, je dobrým výchozím bodem. Dále bych doporučil vyzkoušet Praktickou poradní skupinu pro nové členy, která funguje v pondělí v 21:00 (Velká Británie) a ve čtvrtek v 19:00 (Velká Británie). Zde si můžete popovídat jak s lidmi, kteří procházejí podobnou situací, tak s těmi, kteří mají spoustu zkušeností v této oblasti, jako je Charles, a budou moci vyzvednout spoustu tipů/rad a navrhnout další kroky.

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I received my pay on Thursday of this week and I am sorry to report that soon after, I made some bets.

I have generally found it difficult to pinpoint specific triggers in the past, but payday is certainly a very clear one with bets occurring soon after receiving it on a number of occasions. I have put some barriers in place to help with this in the past with auto payment set up to transfer the majority of my wages to my girlfriend, there is a loophole with this system though in that payday sometimes arrives a few days early before the auto payment goes through leaving some room to gamble in the time between. There is also no accountability for any money that is not transferred.

I have put some new steps/barriers in place to try and help with this going forward.

• If wages arrive early – bring forward the forwarded date for funds to my Girlfriend
• Set up an auto email forwarding to my girlfriend when I receive a payslip email – that way she will know that within the next 24 hours, I should be receiving my wages and in turn she should receive a trasnfer
• For any funds not being sent, set up an account which my girlfriend has full visibility of to help with accountability

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Hi skandanavia,

Welcome to the forum and well done on taking a positive step towards being gamble free.

It sounds like at the moment, you like a lot of compulsive gamblers myself included cannot currently trust yourself with any money that you have access to. To help with this issue, a first step could be asking someone you trust to manage your money for now. You would still control your money and get to decide what it is spent on, but that spend would always go through your trusted friend.

I would also recommend attending the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). You can get some really great advice there that may be a big help.

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Привет, ccmessina18! Молодцы, что сопротивлялись искушению сыграть сегодня утром. Я надеюсь, что этот день продолжится для вас хорошо, и вы останетесь сильными.

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Hi ccmessina18,

Well done on resisting the temptation to gamble this morning. I hope the day continues well for you, and you continue to be strong.

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Привет, ccmessina1 Добро пожаловать на сайт, молодцы, сделали позитивный шаг, я с нетерпением жду новостей о том, как идут дела. Как упомянул Дунк, группа практических советов для новых членов работает по понедельникам в 21:00 (Великобритания) и в четверг в 19:00 (Великобритания). Если вы еще этого не сделали, я бы порекомендовал попробовать их, я нашел их очень полезными 6 месяцев назад, когда впервые присоединился, и до сих пор посещаю их время от времени.

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Hi ccmessina1

Welcome to the and well done on taking a positive step, I look forward to hearing updates on how things are going.

As Dunc mentioned there are New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK). If you haven’t done so already, I would recommend giving these a try, I found them very useful 6 months ago when I first joined, and still do so attending them from time to time.

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I attended the topic group last night and as usual, found it very useful.

The topic this time was on baby steps, this was a topic group I had participated in in the past, but despite that fact, I still picked up some new knowledge/info along with a reminder/update on elements discussed before.

The biggest of the new takeaways for me was how success breeds success, and failure breeds failure.

We need to set small and achievable tasks (baby steps) that don’t set us up for failure. I was already somewhat aware of this concept but I had never really considered why this is so important. If we don’t do this, then we will inevitably fail, and the cost of that failure can be large potentially, taking steps back in recovery or even giving up altogether thinking along the lines of “well I didn’t hit my goal so I may as well give up”

Counter to that, having regular successes even if they are each individually small, sets us up for more successes in the future which collectively can lead to huge sometimes life-changing changes in our lives.

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hi johnstein,

Can you please share which events lead you to the bet in previous attempts? What was your motivation at that time? (how do you recall it now?)

At the time, I thought that winning money was the only real motivation either so that I could just have more money, or as time went on to pay off the debts that I had racked up. Looking back I can see that does not tell the full story. While it is still a potential trigger, for me it is a combination of things including stress release, boredom, a temporary escape from real life, the feeling of euphoria after winning, and trying to solve money issues.

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