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Ciao Liz, spero che ti piaccia il tempo delle foto. Crescono così velocemente. È bello essere lì e non perdere il ricordo. spero non pianga! Ho un paio d'ore tranquille prima di cena, quindi vado a leggere un po' e a postare prima di cena. Non possiamo controllare ciò che la vita ci lancia, possiamo solo controllare come reagiamo ad essa. Continua a lavorare sulla tua felicità, Liz. Laura

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Привет, Лиз, надеюсь, тебе понравится время, проведенное с фотографиями. Они так быстро растут. Хорошо быть там и не упустить память. Надеюсь, она не плачет! У меня есть несколько часов до ужина, поэтому я собираюсь немного почитать и опубликовать сообщение перед ужином. Мы не можем контролировать то, что нам бросает жизнь, мы можем контролировать только то, как мы на это реагируем. Продолжай работать над своим счастьем, Лиз. Лаура

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こんにちはリズ、私はあなたが写真の時間を楽しんでくれることを願っています。彼らはとても速く成長します。そこにいて、記憶作りを逃さないのは良いことです。彼女が泣かないことを願っています！私は夕食の数時間前に静かに過ごしているので、夕食の前に少し読んで投稿します。私たちは人生が私たちに投げかけるものを制御することはできません。私たちはそれにどう反応するかを制御することしかできません。あなたの幸せリズに取り組み続けてください。ローラ

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I wished I could turn back time, many a time. We all have things we regret because of this addiction/compulsion/problem (whatever descriptor people want to assign it). I regret that my children went without anything extra for a long period of time. I would never do anything to hurt my sons. Yet I stole from them really. Turned what should have been a time with extras and trips became stressful and penny pinching. Little things like needing a hair cut that little bit too long. I would have been bankrupt no question about it if it hadn’t been for a major bail out from my family. Bailouts are usually not recommended but i looked at it as my one opportunity and I took it. They wouldn’t do it again. They didn’t pay off my debt, but were able to refinance the whole mess into a lower interest manageable payment that i made. And I threw myself into recovery whole heartedly to save myself because I decided I didn’t want to die. We have to forgive ourselves. I too drew the line at crime too. But I will never say never. I just say Lord, I don’t want to walk in those shoes!
Now as far as the revenue service, here gambling addiction and the resulting mental health crisis is considered a medical condition. Using a tax relief program or some such can file to have all penalty and interest waived for late filings and a reasonable repayment plan, which for you right now is zero. Maybe credit counselor there would know?

Just some thoughts Monica, I know can be overwhelming. I remember how exhausted I was. I was trying to work, take care of family, run to credit counselor and subsequent bank appointments. GA meetings and gambling addictions counseling. Relationship issues from the resulting crisis we were in. It seemed a long dark tunnel and the hoop jumping as well. You need basic sustenance to make it through this. It can be done. Praying for you to have strength.
Laura

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Good afternoon for you Monica. I’m glad you and IDI have each other’s support and insight! I’ve had a busy weekend. I wasn’t feeling too hot after my busy day on Friday so yesterday I barely managed to mope and laze about after I did a little cleaning. Then I got my second wind after supper and we went out to friends for a couple hours for a visit.

It doesn’t seem fair when someone who has given with their last ounce of strength is left in a position of needing help and not receiving it. But as we have learned, life isn’t fair. Maybe the next one will make up for it but that doesn’t help your current state! I’m much like Liz, unable to comment about where and how you can get help in the UK. I can only pray that you do. The Salvation Army is an organization here that helps. I googled it in the UK and found this. Maybe see if there is some help they can offer you. I know they are a christian organization but I don’t think they check peoples faith they help. Or I hope not!

https://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/emergency-assistance

Keep enjoying the free things in life. The fresh air and walking! And hopefully you can get some help with food. As it is hard to recover your health without it!

Take care,
Laura

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I often asked myself the same question IDI. What is wrong with me? I’m shopping for groceries like a miser, complaining about how expensive meat is and how we can’t afford these prices. But then I’d turn around and lose enough to have fed us gourmet prepared food all week! I knew we couldn’t afford either. Cheaping out when shopping just meant more money for gambling! And I was always dealing with the debt i had created so I had less and less money to go around.

I think we were brainwashed to a certain degree. A lot of these articles are about “pokies” or slots machines but I would imagine most of the technology is the same as on line. Some interesting reads!

https://newrepublic.com/article/115838/gambling-addiction-why-are-slot-machines-so-addictive

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-gets-addicted-to-gambling/

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-gets-addicted-to-gambling/

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hey Liz, whatever you feel you need. Don’t be a stranger. Stop by to let me know how you are doing. I regret that I “disappeared” from GT when I did. I guess it was something I had to go through. Of course if we are busy with real life that can be a good thing too. Just remember not to be too hard on yourself. Take care, Laura

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When I started gambling I was very cheap. I didn’t like to lose ten dollars! But I liked taking money out. That did not last long however! Within months I was spending $100s a week. I stopped gambling for approximately six months due to hospitalization for major surgery and not being able to get out. Online gambling is illegal here so I don’t trust them! Once I was able to get out and gamble again I became a menace making up for lost time! It escalated so fast that I could lose thousands and not blink until it was all gone. Then I’d obsess about my losses and how I could gamble again. Until I had nothing left financially. Even if I “won” I’d lose it all again. Glad to have you back! It means you are not in action. I hope you can protect what you have left. Use whatever means of help you can get. One day at a time. No gambling today for me. Laura

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Drago mi je vidjeti vašu novu temu! I da pokušavate nešto drugačije. Mislim da ponekad jednostavno zaglavimo i ako ono što ste radili nije uspjelo, pokušaj nečeg drugog, poput dodavanja savjetovanja samo za vas, izvrstan je korak. Postoje različite izreke ili citati o brizi, ali ova mi se sviđa. "Zabrinutost sutra ne oduzima tugu, već samo danas iscrpljuje njezinu radost" – Leo Buscaglia Postoje mnogi stavovi o tome pa sam siguran da ste to već čuli. Nisam velika briga. Više prelijećem uz sjedalo hlača. Ali ako se počnem brinuti oko nečega što ne mogu promijeniti, prilično sam dobar u tome da to pustim. Sada se ljutim zbog ljutnje ili ogorčenosti, a to je nešto u čemu sam jako dobar. Zauzeo mi je previše prostora za glavu. Moram početi meditirati. Današnja aktivnost s dobrim osjećajem bit će šetnja šumom sa mojim starim vjernicima. Dani su joj odbrojani i hodanje joj postaje sve teže, ali ona to voli i to je dobro za oboje. Zaista sam sretan što te vidim ovdje Liz i ne odustaješ! Zaslužujete biti sretni i bez stresa što je više moguće. Ugodan vikend. Laura

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¡Muy feliz de ver tu nuevo hilo! Y que estás intentando algo diferente. A veces simplemente nos quedamos atascados, creo, y si lo que estaba haciendo no estaba funcionando, entonces intentar algo diferente, como agregar asesoramiento que sea solo para usted, es un gran paso. Hay diferentes refranes o citas sobre la preocupación, pero este me gusta. "La preocupación nunca le quita el dolor al mañana, sólo le quita el gozo al hoy" – Leo Buscaglia Hay muchas versiones, así que estoy seguro de que lo has escuchado antes. No me preocupo mucho. Estoy más volando por el asiento de mis pantalones un poco demasiado. Pero si empiezo a preocuparme por algo que no puedo cambiar, soy bastante bueno para dejarlo ir. Ahora, enfureciéndome con ira o resentimiento, eso es algo en lo que soy muy bueno. Ocupan demasiado espacio en mi cabeza. Necesito empezar a meditar. La actividad para sentirse bien de hoy será un paseo por el bosque con mis antiguos fieles. Sus días están contados y caminar es cada vez más difícil para ella, pero le encanta y es bueno para los dos. ¡Estoy muy feliz de verte aquí Liz y no te vas a rendir! Mereces ser feliz y estar lo más libre de estrés posible. Ten un excelente fin de semana. Laura

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Muito feliz em ver seu novo tópico! E que você está tentando algo diferente. Às vezes ficamos presos, eu acho, e se o que você estava fazendo não estava funcionando, então tentar algo diferente, como adicionar um aconselhamento que é só para você, é um grande passo. Existem diferentes provérbios ou citações sobre preocupação, mas gosto deste. "A preocupação nunca rouba a tristeza do amanhã, apenas tira a alegria do hoje" – Leo Buscaglia Há muitas interpretações sobre ele, então tenho certeza de que você já ouviu isso antes. Eu não sou um grande preocupante. Eu estou mais voando pelo assento das minhas calças um pouco demais. Mas se eu começar a me preocupar com algo que não posso mudar, sou muito bom em esquecer isso. Agora remoendo coisas com raiva ou ressentimento, agora isso é algo em que sou muito bom. Ocupou muito espaço da minha cabeça. Eu preciso começar a meditar. A atividade de sentir bem de hoje será uma caminhada na floresta com meus antigos fiéis. Seus dias estão contados e andar está cada vez mais difícil para ela, mas ela adora e é bom para nós dois. Estou muito feliz em vê-la aqui Liz e você não vai desistir! Você merece ser feliz e o mais livre de estresse possível. Tenha um ótimo fim de semana. Laura

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आपका नया सूत्र देखकर बहुत खुशी हुई! और यह कि आप कुछ अलग करने की कोशिश कर रहे हैं। मुझे लगता है कि कभी-कभी हम अटक जाते हैं और अगर आप जो कर रहे थे वह काम नहीं कर रहा था, तो कुछ अलग करने की कोशिश करना जैसे कि सिर्फ आपके लिए परामर्श जोड़ना एक अच्छा कदम है। चिंता के बारे में अलग-अलग कहावतें या उद्धरण हैं, लेकिन मुझे यह पसंद है। "चिंता अपने कल के दुःख को कभी नहीं लूटती है, यह केवल आज के आनंद को छीन लेती है" – लियो बुस्काग्लिया इस पर बहुत से विचार हैं इसलिए मुझे यकीन है कि आपने इसे पहले सुना है। मैं कोई बड़ी चिंता करने वाला नहीं हूं। मैं अपनी पैंट की सीट से थोड़ा ज्यादा उड़ रहा हूं। लेकिन अगर मैं किसी ऐसी चीज के बारे में चिंता करना शुरू कर दूं जिसे मैं बदल नहीं सकता तो मैं इसे जाने देने में बहुत अच्छा हूं। अब गुस्से या नाराजगी में चीजों के बारे में बात करना, अब वह कुछ ऐसा है जिसमें मैं बहुत अच्छा हूं। मेरे सिर की बहुत अधिक जगह ले ली। मुझे ध्यान शुरू करना है। आज की फील गुड गतिविधि मेरे पुराने वफादार के साथ जंगल में टहलने जा रही है। उसके दिन गिने जा रहे हैं और चलना उसके लिए कठिन होता जा रहा है लेकिन वह इसे प्यार करती है और यह हम दोनों के लिए अच्छा है। मैं तुम्हें यहाँ लिज़ देखकर बहुत खुश हूँ और तुम हार नहीं मान रहे हो! आप जितना हो सके खुश और तनाव मुक्त रहने के लायक हैं। तुम्हारा सप्ताह का अंत अच्छा हो। लौरा

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Très content de voir ton nouveau topic ! Et que vous essayez quelque chose de différent. Parfois, nous restons coincés, je pense et si ce que vous faisiez ne fonctionnait pas, alors essayer quelque chose de différent comme ajouter des conseils qui sont juste pour vous est une grande étape. Il existe différents dictons ou citations sur l'inquiétude, mais j'aime celle-ci. "L'inquiétude ne prive jamais demain de sa peine, elle ne fait qu'affaiblir aujourd'hui sa joie" – Leo Buscaglia Il existe de nombreuses versions, alors je suis sûr que vous l'avez déjà entendu. Je ne suis pas un grand inquiet. Je fais plus mouche par le siège de mon pantalon un peu trop. Mais si je commence à m'inquiéter de quelque chose que je ne peux pas changer, je suis assez bon pour le laisser partir. Maintenant que j'étouffe des choses avec colère ou ressentiment, c'est quelque chose pour lequel je suis très bon. A pris trop de place dans ma tête. Je dois commencer à méditer. L'activité bien-être d'aujourd'hui va être une promenade dans les bois avec mes anciens fidèles. Ses jours sont comptés et marcher devient de plus en plus difficile pour elle mais elle adore ça et c'est bon pour nous deux. JE SUIS vraiment content de te voir ici Liz et tu n'abandonnes pas ! Vous méritez d'être heureux et le moins stressé possible. Passe un bon weekend. Laura

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Labai malonu matyti jūsų naują temą! Ir kad jūs bandote kažką kitokio. Kartais manau, kad mes tiesiog įstrigome, ir jei tai, ką darėte, nepadėjo, tada išbandyti kažką kitokio, pavyzdžiui, pridėti patarimų, skirtų tik jums, yra puikus žingsnis. Yra įvairių posakių ar citatų apie nerimą, bet man tai patinka. „Nerimas niekada rytoj neatima liūdesio, tik šiandien atima iš jo džiaugsmo“ – Leo Buscaglia Yra daug nuomonių, todėl esu tikras, kad tai girdėjote anksčiau. Nesu didelis nerimautojas. Aš šiek tiek per daug skrendu už kelnių sėdynės. Bet jei aš pradedu nerimauti dėl to, ko negaliu pakeisti, aš gana gerai galiu tai atleisti. Dabar troškau dėl pykčio ar pasipiktinimo, dabar tai man labai gerai sekasi. Užėmė per daug vietos mano galvai. Man reikia pradėti medituoti. Šiandienos gera savijauta bus pasivaikščiojimas miške su mano senaisiais tikinčiaisiais. Jos dienos suskaičiuotos, o vaikščioti jai darosi vis sunkiau, bet jai tai patinka ir tai naudinga mums abiem. Labai džiaugiuosi matydamas tave čia Liz ir tu nepasiduodi! Jūs nusipelnėte būti laimingi ir kuo mažiau streso. Gero savaitgalio. Laura

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Väga hea meel näha teie uut teemat! Ja et proovite midagi muud. Mõnikord jääme lihtsalt jänni, ma arvan, ja kui see, mida sa tegid, ei töötanud, siis on hea samm proovida midagi muud, näiteks lisada just sulle mõeldud nõustamist. Muretsemise kohta on erinevaid ütlusi või tsitaate, kuid mulle meeldib see. "Mure ei röövi kunagi homme oma kurbust, see kaotab ainult täna oma rõõmu" – Leo Buscaglia Seda on palju, nii et olen kindel, et olete seda varem kuulnud. Ma ei ole suur muretseja. Ma olen rohkem lendamas pükste istme juures natuke liiga palju. Aga kui ma hakkan muretsema millegi pärast, mida ma ei saa muuta, siis saan sellest üsna hästi lahti. Kui nüüd viha või pahameelega asju ajada, siis nüüd olen selles väga hea. Võttis liiga palju mu pearuumi. Ma pean hakkama mediteerima. Tänane hea enesetunde tegevus on jalutuskäik metsas koos oma vanausulistega. Tema päevad on loetud ja kõndimine muutub tema jaoks raskemaks, kuid ta armastab seda ja see on meile mõlemale hea. Mul on tõesti hea meel sind siin näha Liz ja sa ei anna alla! Sa väärid olla õnnelik ja võimalikult stressivaba. Head nädalavahetust. Laura

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