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awww thanks IDI ! I hope you had a good day. I have been walking a little bit. Small walks through the woods with my old dog. We are a good pair. The pain has stayed manageable since the mass shrunk slighty, but has also changed shape which is applying less pressure to the nerves in my spine. I sent a very pointed prayer to God on my walk yesterday. Asking for help for someone who is suffering more than most. When I came home a large flock of golden finches (a bird I consider my sign) were waiting for me in the tree at the end of the driveway. They flew into my back yard as i turned in. Beautiful and singing. I am taking it as a sign. I have faith. I can only hope it’s what we think we want!
Laura

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Thanks Vera. Lots of wisdom in those words! Far more to each of us.

I hope you are proud of the woman you have become without gambling to hide behind.
Laura

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I definitely think it would have improved my chances Vera. And once able to I intend on going back.

You are the person I feel I have probably hurt. In my support of someone’s feelings I think I tromped on yours. I am sorry and it was unintentional! I think you do your best to share your experience with the intent of it helping others.

Thanks for the good advice IDI.

I’ve always been the tip toer in my relationships! Friendships included.

Laura

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I’m totally procrastinating. Got a couple things done but not the ones top of mind. Then my anxiety starts. I have to stop letting little things bother me. Like if I don’t soon return an online shopping purchase it’s going to turn into a bigger task to return it for a full refund. So i’m kicking my own backside to get moving. And deal with the stupid task. I’m also trying to figure out a way to apologize to someone who I feel I hurt inadvertently and unintentionally. Onward and upward.
Laura

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Hey Tina,

I was doing a little looking on the net for New Zealand specific info. This link appears to have good info, but i believe it is also an advert in some way.

https://loansfinder.co.nz/debt-counselling/

here is a link from the citizens advice bureau re debt management. Lots of links off of it and advice. Worth a look I would think.

http://www.cab.org.nz/vat/money/bd/Pages/CreditDebtManagement.aspx

One day at a time! It can get overwhelming when all our games come home to roost! Everyone is looking to get paid in the end. Too bad we couldn’t send them to the one s who we gave the money to. Chin up. You have an addiction you now realize but you are dealing with it.

Take care,
Laura

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Hi Semaj
Another clean day is a day to celebrate. Some of us are hooked or drawn in from the first time we gamble. I think I liked it way too much even though I was a very cautious and cheap gambler in the beginning. I look at gambling the same as other forms of addiction, like drugs, alcohol, food, etc. The same issues that drive people to numb themselves or maybe make themselves feel better can drive us to any of those things. I think gambling is in some ways is an addiction that allows us to keep functioning for a long time. The signs are not as easy to see. The physical impacts are harder to spot. We may be stressed, agitated, angry, when we lose and we run out of money, but we find other things in life to blame that on. We can keep making this worse. j

I’m glad you made it through another day. I hope today is going well also!

take care,
Laura

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Ó, Liz 🙁 olyan nehéz. Olyan normális dolognak tűnik, hogy jó kapcsolatot akarsz az anyáddal és a lányoddal. Néha az emberek csak egy kicsit összetörtek. Vagy mentálisan, vagy a körülményeik miatt. És amennyire mivel szeretnénk kijavítani őket, nem tudjuk. Mindig fennáll annak a lehetősége, hogy úgy döntenek, hogy önmagukon dolgoznak. Ismét nem kényszeríthetjük ezt a problémát. Annyira szörnyű, ahogy érzi magát, bizonyos határok beállítása egészséges neked. Ha úgy érzed, hogy mondtál néhány dolgot édesanyádnak, akkor talán nem kellene bocsánatot kérned. De csak te tudod, hogy ez felkavarta -e a fazekat. Valószínűleg nem kapsz vissza egyet abból, amit mondtál, de Néha csak meg kell bocsátanunk nekik! A saját józan eszedért és tudd, hogy neked is megbocsátanak, ha senki más, mint te magad! Kicsit kószálj, úgyhogy remélem, hogy van értelme. A változás ijesztő Liz! De elakadni rosszabb, vigyázz magadra! , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 khó quá. Muốn có một mối quan hệ tốt đẹp với mẹ con bạn là chuyện bình thường. Đôi khi mọi người chỉ là một chút đổ vỡ. vì chúng tôi muốn sửa chúng, chúng tôi không thể. Luôn có khả năng là họ có thể chọn tự giải quyết. Một lần nữa, chúng tôi không thể ép buộc vấn đề đó. có lợi cho sức khỏe của bạn. Nếu bạn cảm thấy mình đã nói một số điều với mẹ, có lẽ bạn không nên xin lỗi. Nhưng chỉ có bạn mới biết liệu điều đó có khuấy động nồi không. Bạn có thể sẽ không nhận lại được điều gì từ những gì bạn đã nói nhưng đôi khi chúng ta phải tha thứ cho họ! Vì sự tỉnh táo của chính bạn và biết rằng bạn cũng được tha thứ, nếu không ai khác ngoài chính bạn! Lan man một chút để hy vọng điều đó có ý nghĩa. Thay đổi là điều đáng sợ Liz! Nhưng bế tắc còn tồi tệ hơn. Hãy cẩn thận , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 so hard. It seems like such a normal thing to want a good relationship with your mother and daughter.
Sometimes people are just a little broken. Either in how they are made up mentally or due to their circumstances. And as much as we’d like to fix them we can’t. There is a always a possibility that they may chose to work on themselves. Again we can’t force that issue. So as horrible as it makes you feel, setting some boundaries is healthy for you.
If you feel you said some things to your mother you shouldn’t have maybe an apology is in order. But only you know if that will stir the pot. You will likely not get one back from what you have said but sometimes we just have to forgive them! For your own sanity and know that you are forgiven too, if by no one else than yourself!
Rambling a little so hope that makes sense. Change is scary Liz! But being stuck is worse.
take care,
Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 zo moeilijk. Het lijkt zo normaal om een goede relatie met je moeder en dochter te willen. Soms zijn mensen gewoon een beetje gebroken. Ofwel in hoe ze mentaal in elkaar zitten of door hun omstandigheden. En zoveel omdat we ze willen oplossen, kunnen we dat niet. Er is altijd een mogelijkheid dat ze ervoor kiezen om aan zichzelf te werken. Nogmaals, we kunnen dat probleem niet forceren. Dus hoe vreselijk het je ook voelt, het stellen van grenzen is gezond voor je. Als je het gevoel hebt dat je sommige dingen tegen je moeder hebt gezegd, zou je misschien geen verontschuldiging moeten hebben. Maar alleen jij weet of dat de pot opschudt. Je krijgt er waarschijnlijk geen terug van wat je hebt gezegd, maar soms moeten we ze gewoon vergeven! Voor je eigen gezond verstand en weet dat je ook vergeven bent, al is het door niemand anders dan jezelf! Een beetje ronddwalen, dus hoop dat dat logisch is. Verandering is eng Liz! Maar vastzitten is erger. pas op. , Laura

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Oh Liz 🙁 es tan difícil. Parece algo normal desear una buena relación con tu madre y tu hija. A veces la gente está un poco rota. Ya sea en la forma en que están mentalmente o debido a sus circunstancias. Y tanto como nos gustaría arreglarlos, no podemos. Siempre existe la posibilidad de que elijan trabajar en sí mismos. Una vez más, no podemos forzar ese problema. Así que, por horrible que te haga sentir, establecer algunos límites es saludable para ti. Si sientes que le dijiste algunas cosas a tu madre, tal vez no debas disculparte. Pero solo tú sabes si eso revolverá la olla. Es probable que no obtengas una respuesta por lo que has dicho, pero ¡A veces solo tenemos que perdonarlos! ¡Por tu propia cordura y saber que tú también eres perdonado, aunque solo sea por ti mismo! Divagando un poco, así que espero que tenga sentido. ¡El cambio da miedo Liz! Pero estar estancado es peor. , Laura

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Ak Liz 🙁 tik grūti. Šķiet, ka tā ir tik normāla lieta, ka gribas labas attiecības ar māti un meitu. Dažreiz cilvēki vienkārši ir nedaudz salauzti. Vai nu kā viņi ir garīgi izdomāti, vai apstākļu dēļ. Un tik daudz mēs vēlamies tos labot, mēs to nevaram izdarīt. Vienmēr pastāv iespēja, ka viņi izvēlēsies strādāt pie sevis. Atkal mēs nevaram piespiest šo problēmu. Tātad, lai cik šausmīgi jūs justos, noteikt robežas ir veselīgu jums. Ja jums liekas, ka esat pateicis dažas lietas savai mātei, varbūt jums nevajadzētu atvainoties. Bet tikai jūs zināt, vai tas samaisīs katlu. Jūs, visticamāk, neatgūsit no teiktā, bet dažreiz mums vienkārši viņiem jāpiedod! Par savu veselo saprātu un zini, ka arī tev piedod, ja neviens cits kā tu pats! Rambling mazliet, tāpēc ceru, ka tam ir jēga. Izmaiņas ir biedējošas Liz! Bet iestrēdzis ir sliktāk. rūpēties , Laura

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О, Лиз 🙁 толкова трудно. Изглежда толкова нормално нещо да искаш добри отношения с майка си и дъщеря си. Понякога хората са просто малко разбити. Или в това как са съставени психически, или поради техните обстоятелства. И толкова много тъй като бихме искали да ги поправим, не можем. Винаги има възможност те да изберат да работят върху себе си. Отново не можем да наложим този проблем. Колкото и ужасно да ви кара да се чувствате, поставянето на някои граници е здрав за вас. Ако смятате, че сте казали някои неща на майка си, не би трябвало да имате извинение. Но само вие знаете дали това ще разбърка тенджерата. Вероятно няма да получите нищо обратно от казаното, но понякога трябва просто да им простим , Лора

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Oh Liz 🙁 çok zor. Annen ve kızınla iyi bir ilişki istemen çok normal bir şey gibi görünüyor. Bazen insanlar biraz kırılırlar. Ya zihinsel olarak ya da içinde bulundukları koşullardan dolayı. Ve bir o kadar da Onları düzeltmek istediğimiz için yapamayız. Her zaman kendi üzerlerinde çalışmayı seçebilecekleri bir olasılık vardır. Yine bu konuyu zorlayamayız. senin için sağlıklı. Annene bazı şeyler söylediğini düşünüyorsan, belki de özür dilemelisin. Ama bunun ortalığı karıştırıp karıştırmayacağını sadece sen biliyorsun. bazen sadece onları affetmek zorunda kalırız kendi akıl sağlığın için ve bil ki senden başka kimse tarafından olmasa da sen de affedildin biraz kafa yormak bu yüzden umut etmek mantıklı. değişim korkutucu Liz ama sıkışıp kalmak daha kötü. kendine iyi bak , Laura

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Åh Liz 🙁 så hårdt. Det virker som en så normal ting at ville have et godt forhold til din mor og datter. Nogle gange er folk bare lidt i stykker. Enten i hvordan de er opgjort mentalt eller på grund af deres omstændigheder. Og så meget som vi gerne vil rette dem, kan vi ikke. Der er altid en mulighed for, at de kan vælge at arbejde på sig selv. Igen kan vi ikke tvinge det problem. Så lige så frygteligt som det får dig til at føle, er det at sætte nogle grænser sundt for dig. Hvis du føler, du sagde nogle ting til din mor, burde du ikke have det, måske er en undskyldning på sin plads. Men kun du ved, om det vil røre gryden. Du får sandsynligvis ikke en tilbage fra det, du har sagt, men nogle gange er vi bare nødt til at tilgive dem! For din egen fornuft og vide, at du også er tilgivet, hvis ikke af andre end dig selv! Rambling lidt så håb, der giver mening. Forandring er skræmmende Liz! Men at sidde fast er værre. pas på , Laura

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