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Good post Micky
Hello Jansdad,
You say your wife had regained trust in you? Presumably that means that this has happened in the past as well at some stage? Why lie to her? Honesty would mean she could help you be more accountable for the rest of your money. If you were both planning on investing this money in something then presumably she will find out that the money is missing at some stage anyway won’t she? Trying to keep things covered up can in itself send people back to gambling as they try to replace lost money.
How about barriers? where do you normally gamble? If it is online then you can get a blocker for your PC. if it’s at a casino then you can get self excluded.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.
Hi Ray and welcome to the forum. I am sure that reading the other stories here you will be seeing a lot that you relate to. You will also be reading the success stories – what are they doing that you could apply to your own situation?
Who couold help you be accountable for finances? Where do you normally gamble – self exclusion is always a good first step.
You can make yourself accountable as well, post here daily/regularly and tell us about the positive steps you are taking.
I look forward to reading your progress and hopefully I will meet you in one of the groups here soon as well. keep posting.
Alliwg, the above suggestions pretty much apply to you as well, maybe start your own thread here and again you wil get a lot of feedback and advice.
If either of you still have problems using/navigating the site then please click on the one to one helpline when it is open.
Well done to both of you in starting to use support.
Hi John, well done on ringing the Samaritans; it’s always a wise choice to use the support that is available to us for most things. Be careful on the relocation plans. If you are having isolation issues at the moment then now might not be the time to move further away from the people who are around you.
As for compulsive gambling of course relocation doesn’t achieve much as we take our addiction with us. Keep posting, keep using support. Maybe see you in a group later.
Hi Micky, I just read through the last week or so of your thread, well done on not gambling.
One thing I spotted that you might want to consider….
“My budget is so very tight at the moment and will be for the next 8 months….”
Is there anyway you can rearrange that? It’s important that we see the benefits of not gambling. Taking say 10 months instead of 8 to pay things off would allow you to see more of those benefits. Apart from anything else 8 months living like a hermit would likely seem longer than 10 months with a little non gambling fun money.
Just a thought, keep posting.
Hi SJ, good post and a good topic. Fear is a big one. It’s a normal human instinct to fear the unknown, to fear change. Even good changes. For a long time I was frightened to stop gambling – if I stopped gambling then what the hell else was I going to do with my time? When it comes to recovery and positive steps there is a saying I like – feel the fear and then do it anyway. 🙂
Well done on not gambling Izzy. it’s good to hear you are using some support where you are.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking? What book are you talking about? Is it one that others here might find useful?Well done on making your first post her Tilper. Accountability is important for our time, our actions and of course for our finances. What things have you tried before? what things can you do differently this time?
I look forward to hearing your progress in recovery.
Hi Ray and welcome to the forum. I’m sure you will be reading the other threads here and I’m sure you will be reading stories that you can relate to. You will also be reading the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
It sounds as if when you previously went around those circles of support you were, as you say, still holding on to the gambling dream. Don’t rule out revisiting some of those other support options now that you have decided to let that dream go.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Carole, well done on not gambling. It sounds like telling your husband about it helped, well done. Maybe see you in a group later.
Well done on not acting on those urges Carole. Stay strong, one day at a time.
Привет Дороти и добро пожаловать на Форум. Здесь вы можете получить большую поддержку и узнать, как успешно бороться с этими побуждениями. Я предлагаю вам начать обсуждение на форуме «Мой журнал» и рассказать нам немного о своей ситуации. Этот форум используется не так часто, и вы получите много поддержки и отзывов на нем. У нас также есть живые группы, к которым вы можете подключиться, и телефон доверия один на один. Я с нетерпением жду возможности прочитать вашу историю и, надеюсь, скоро встречусь с вами в группе. Вы можете прекратить играть в азартные игры, я вам обещаю.
Olá, Dorothy, bem-vinda ao fórum. Você pode obter muito apoio aqui e aprender algumas das coisas que pode fazer para combater esses impulsos com sucesso. Sugiro que você inicie um tópico no Fórum do My Journal e conte-nos um pouco sobre sua situação. Este fórum não é muito usado e você receberá muito apoio e feedback nele. Também temos grupos ao vivo aos quais você pode se conectar e uma linha de apoio individual. Estou ansioso para ler sua história e espero encontrá-lo em um grupo em breve. Você pode parar de jogar, eu prometo.
Szia Dorothy és üdvözlöm a fórumon. Itt sok támogatást kaphat, és megtanulhat néhány dolgot, amelyekkel sikeresen leküzdheti ezeket a késztetéseket. Javaslom, hogy indítson egy szálat a Saját folyóirat fórumában, és meséljen nekünk egy kicsit a helyzetéről. Ezt a fórumot nem használják annyira, és sok támogatást és visszajelzést fog kapni. Vannak élő csoportjaink is, amelyekhez csatlakozhat, és egy -egy segélyvonal. Alig várom, hogy olvashassam a történetedet, és remélem, hamarosan találkozunk veled egy csoportban. Megszüntetheted a szerencsejátékot, ígérem.
Ciao Dorothy e benvenuta nel Forum. Puoi ottenere molto supporto qui e imparare alcune delle cose che puoi fare per combattere questi impulsi con successo. Ti suggerirei di aprire un thread nel forum di My Journal e di raccontarci un po' della tua situazione. Questo forum non è molto utilizzato e riceverai molto supporto e feedback lì. Abbiamo anche gruppi dal vivo a cui puoi connetterti e una linea di assistenza individuale. Non vedo l'ora di leggere la tua storia e spero di incontrarti presto in un gruppo. Puoi smettere di giocare, te lo prometto.