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Hi Jansdad.
As Jack has it now I have deleted your email address. At Gamblingtherapy we would strongly advise against posting personal contact details on an open forum. It is the world wide web after all.
Hopefully you and jack will be able to support each other, keep posting.
Hi Jansdad,
Why? Because you are a compulsive gambler. I wouldn’t bother trying to apply logic and intellectualism to an addiction.
A more important question isn’t ” Why?” It’s “What can I do to stop?”
What barriers can you now put in place? Honesty would mean you can be held fully accountable for your money with your wife. It would mean you wouldn’t have easy access to gambling funds.
AA helped your friend? Why not try a GA meeting for yourself then?
How about that blocker for your PC? Self exclusion from any casinos you go to?
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Jay,
I would agree with Ican, if your family hated you then they would be no longer with you, after all they have plenty of reasons to leave if they wanted to.
I’m sure they will have heard all the words and promises before; now you should show them by your actions how much you really want to stop.
There is a lot of gambling around these days, the good news is that there is also a lot of support available. Take a look at the resource link here; you will see there is a lot of support in your country. get to a local Gamblers Anonymous meeting if you can. As well as helping you stop gambling you are also bound to meet others with past financial problems, find out what they did to address those problems.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Alli, it was good to talk to you yesterday.
Lizbeth is right, you are not a bad person, you are an addict like the rest of us. The good news though is now that you know that you can do something about it.
I would agree with what you say – right now all you have to do is to focus on stopping gambling. When you have done that you will be better placed to address anything else that needs addressing. Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking. Hopefully see you in a group again soon.
Hi Carole, well done on not acting on the urges. Maybe next time stay and talk to Wayne, then you will know him for any future time when you may be getting urges and need to talk.
Here is a link where myself, Wayne and the rest of the team tell you a little about ourselves.
https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/en/gambling-therapy-team
See you soon in a group I hope. Keep posting.
Hi kirty, well done on not gambling.
How about speaking to your friend and telling them that you have decided to stop gambling and to please not send you any more texts like that?
Then Lorraine, what can you change?
Then Lorraine, what can you change?
Hi mzbaeka and welcome to the forum. I’m sure reading the other stories here you will have seen the sort of things that have helped others stop gambling. Which of those positive actions can you apply to your own recovery?
Well done on your gamble free time Micky.
Good thread Ican.
What i like about recovery is that it gives me choices. I can choose what I do with my time, I can choose what I do with my money. I can choose the type of job I want to do and choose the hobbies and interests I want to try/enjoy. I didn’t have those choices when gambling, now i do.
Hi Imdonewiththis,
If you can’t get a blocker for your phone maybe talk to your phone provider – see if you can get some sort of “parental block” on it to ban over 18 sites, this should include gambling sites.
You mention family – do they know about your gambling? Or that it is a problem? Could one of them help you with financial accountability? These days with online banking it’s easy to be accountable, KNOWING that you will be found out is a good deterrent.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi John and welcome.
It sounds like your partner will have heard all of this before. Show her by your actions that you man it this time. Do you need a phone for work? Maybe get a “brick” with no online access.
£800 is a lot of money for a compulsive gambler to have access to. Restricting access to gambling funds would be a good idea. Do your parents know about your gambling? Maybe they need to know that IF they give you money in the future then they should let your partner have it.
Harry is right about support, don’t rule out things you ahve tried before.
In fact if Gamcare and counselling helped you stay gamble free for 6 months then maybe try it again. The difference this time needs to be that you then need to use ongoing support to maintain recovery. If at the end of 6 months you are continuing to post here, you are maybe getting to GA meetings then you will be in a stronger position to stay stopped.
keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.
Hi Iwanttostopgambling and welcome to the forum.
I was like you and had said that I was going to stop many, many times in the past. When it really was “for real” why should my family believe me? Like you wife they had heard it all before. In the end it wasn’t my words and promises that counted, it was my actions that they took notice of.
You have listed a lot of good actions there already. Well done on self excluding from your online accounts – maybe think about installing a blocker for your PC as well. That would stop you opening any other accounts.
I see that one of your proposed actions is to go home right from work, is that a time you used to gamble? I don’t know what your job is but if you don’t need to carry cash as part of your job then don’t have any in your pocket when you leave home in the mornings, just enough for lunch and a drink – that way you can’t gamble on the way home no matter how tempted.
Keep posting and let us know how you get on as you implement your plans.
Hi Kimura, good to see a post again.
How have you been since your previous posts? Did you get to see a therapist like you mentioned?
Still think your problem is “a little bit different”? Or maybe now is the time to get some of the things in place that have helped others?
Whatever you do, none of us can do it on our own, keep posting.