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یہ ٹاپک گروپ اب کئی بار زیر بحث آیا ہے کیونکہ یہ ٹاپک لوپ کے آس پاس کام کرتا ہے۔ ایک نقطہ جو عام طور پر سامنے آتا ہے "آپ کیسے جانتے ہیں کہ آپ حوصلہ افزائی کر رہے ہیں؟" وہی ہے جو آپ کرنے کے لیے تیار ہیں۔ آپ کون سے اقدامات کرنے کے لیے تیار ہیں ، شاید وہ بھی جو آپ خاص طور پر نہیں کرنا چاہتے ہیں کیا آپ لینے کے لیے تیار ہیں؟ اب میں کہوں گا کہ جوئے اور بازیابی کو روکنے میں یہ یقینی طور پر درست ہے لیکن یقینا it's یہ بہت سی دوسری چیزوں کے لیے بھی درست ہے۔ میں نے تھوڑی دیر میں دوڑ نہیں لی ہے ، معنی رکھنا لیکن تاخیر اور دیگر چیزوں نے مجھے روک دیا ہے. ایسا نہیں ہے کہ میں دوڑنا پسند کرتا ہوں لیکن مجھے عجیب و غریب ہاف میراتھن وغیرہ میں حصہ لینے کے ماحول سے محبت ہے۔ ویسے بھی میں ہفتے کے آخر میں کتے کو چلانے کے بعد گھر جا رہا تھا اور کچھ دوسری نوکریاں میرے سر میں آ گئیں ، دوسری وجوہات بھاگنے کے لیے نہ جانا۔ مجھے خوشی ہے کہ میں نے اس موضوع کو یاد کیا اور اپنے آپ کو پیچھے سے بوٹ دیا جس کی مجھے ضرورت تھی۔ تو اپنے آپ سے پوچھیں – آپ کیا حاصل کرنا چاہتے ہیں؟ کیا آپ حوصلہ افزائی کر رہے ہیں؟ آپ اسے حاصل کرنے کے لیے کیا کرنے جا رہے ہیں؟

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Deze Topic Group is nu al vele malen besproken omdat het zijn weg rond de Topic-lus werkt. Een van de punten die meestal naar voren komt onder "Hoe weet je dat je gemotiveerd bent?" is wat je bereid bent te DOEN. Welke acties ben je bereid te ondernemen, misschien zelfs welke acties die je niet echt wilt doen, ben je bereid te ondernemen? Nu zou ik zeggen dat dit zeker geldt voor het stoppen met gokken en herstel, maar het geldt natuurlijk ook voor veel andere dingen. Ik heb al een tijdje niet meer gerend, blijf van plan, maar uitstelgedrag en andere dingen die eraan komen hebben me tegengehouden. Het is niet dat ik van hardlopen hou, maar ik hou wel van de sfeer om af en toe een halve marathon te lopen enz. Om die te kunnen doen, moet ik tussendoor blijven rennen. Hoe dan ook, ik was op weg naar huis na het uitlaten van de hond in het weekend en er kwamen wat andere klussen in mijn hoofd, andere redenen om niet te gaan rennen. Ik ben blij dat ik me dit onderwerp herinnerde en mezelf de laars van achteren gaf die ik nodig had. Vraag jezelf dus af: wat wil je bereiken? Ben je gemotiveerd? Wat ga je DOEN om het te bereiken?

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Nhóm Chủ đề này đã được thảo luận nhiều lần vì nó hoạt động xung quanh vòng lặp Chủ đề. Một trong những điểm thường xuất hiện trong phần "Làm thế nào để bạn biết rằng bạn có động lực?" là những gì bạn chuẩn bị để LÀM. Bạn sẵn sàng thực hiện những hành động nào, thậm chí có thể chuẩn bị thực hiện những hành động nào mà bạn không đặc biệt muốn làm? Bây giờ tôi muốn nói rằng điều đó chắc chắn đúng khi dừng cờ bạc và phục hồi nhưng tất nhiên nó cũng đúng với nhiều thứ khác. Tôi đã không chạy trốn trong một thời gian, hãy tiếp tục ý nghĩa nhưng sự trì hoãn và những thứ khác sắp xảy ra đã ngăn cản tôi. Không phải tôi thích chạy nhưng tôi thích bầu không khí tham gia cuộc thi bán marathon kỳ quặc, v.v. Để làm được những điều đó, tôi cần duy trì cuộc chạy giữa chừng. Dù sao thì tôi cũng đang trên đường về nhà sau khi dắt chó đi dạo vào cuối tuần và một số công việc khác hiện lên trong đầu tôi, những lý do khác để không chạy bộ. Tôi rất vui vì tôi đã nhớ đến Chủ đề này và tự tạo cho mình một khởi động từ phía sau mà tôi cần. Vì vậy, hãy tự hỏi bản thân – bạn muốn đạt được điều gì? Bạn có động lực không? Bạn sẽ LÀM GÌ để đạt được nó?

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Well doen Zman. I hope you start a thread in the My Journal Forum so that you can keep us updated on your progress. Maybe see you in a group again soon.

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Молодец Зман. Я надеюсь, что вы заведете ветку на форуме «Мой журнал», чтобы держать нас в курсе ваших успехов. Может быть, скоро увидимся в группе снова.

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I would echo moniques thoughts. Whatever any underlying issue may be it would be hard to address it, or even recognise it, while we are still in action.

I would also add that it is important to realise that, whatever might have lead us to addiction, that addiction is now also a problem in it’s own right. If we stop gambling, sort out whatever “caused” our addiction, we would still be compulsive gamblers and unable to return to “normal” gambling. It is a progressive problem with no reverse gear I’m afraid.

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Hi Fritz,

You are talking about how you are spending your life not gambling. About how you are filling your time in recovery. That would never be breaking a rule 🙂

Well done on your gamble free time

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Hi Whatif,

Well done on your gamble free time. Well done on making it clear that you weren’t going to the casino. You will find out who your real friends are and who might have just been gambling acquaintances. A few “I’m not interested” or “I don’t gamble any more” s usually stops the gamblign conversations. Maybe have a word with your brother in law or get your wife to sort out her brother!

Be careful with the drinking. It is easy to swap one problem for another. Also of course alcohol can weaken our defences when it comes to gamblign as well. If you are planning on having x number of beers or staying in the pub for a few hours then go with enough money in your pocket for that number of beers only. It will help you in more ways than one.

Keep posting and again well done on your gamble free time.

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Hi again anhtt,

You wonder what you can say to her? Likely nothing you haven’t said before. There is an old saying “Actions speak louder than words.” What positive actions can you take? What can you do differently to what you have done before?

Keep posting.

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Hello anhtt113 and welcome. Well done on looking for help. Read the other stories here. You will read a lot of things that you will relate to, you will also read the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

Payday Friday? So what can you do between now and then that will make you less likely to gamble? Give your paycheck to your wife? Make arrangements so that it is paid into an account that only she has access to? Get self excluded from the casino you plan tp gamble in? Find your local Gamblers Anonymous meeting?

It sounds like your wife will have heard all the promises in the past. No reason for her to believe you mean to stop now really is there? The above actions will both help you stop gambling and also might give her reason to think “Hey, maybe he means it this time”

Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.

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Hi Adam, welcome to the forum. Well done on looking for help. When you read the other threads here you will see a lot of things that you wil relate to. You will also see the success stories; what things that are working for others can you apply to your own situation?

It sounds like you have got soime plans in place regarding the finances. It is important to plan your time as well. Don’t find yourself watching slots on YT or other gambling realted things. As you ahve found, that is always going to make thigns difficult. Keep posting.

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Good to hear you sounding positive Jenny. Well done on the steps you are taking. Keep posting here, keep up your GA meetings. You can be patient with your recovery – one day at a time.

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Hi Jake and welcome. Well done on looking for help. Well done on the steps you are already taking. Remember the most important thing for any of us to do is to use the support that is available – if we could do it on our own then we wouldnt be in trouble in the first place. keep posting, keep reading and hopefully see you in a group here again soon.

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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