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The important thing right now is stopping. You may never know the “Why?” The short answer is because it is an addiction, why we have it and not others? No idea.
I would think it is an impossibility to ban from all sites – that’s where the blocking software and financial accountability come sin. Using support is important if we could do it on our own then we wouldn’t need support in the first place. As you seem to be online right now then maybe pop into the New Members group that is currently open, you would be welcome in the groups that follow as well.
Be careful with those bricks and mortar casinos – it’s a GAMBLING addiction, once you cut off the online access then the “real” casinos might start to seem more attractive as the addiction looks for another way to get it’s fix.
Keep posting and hopefully I will see you in a groups soon.
Remember payday has been a gambling day for you in the past – try and put as much as you can in place BEFORE payday.
Hola, Hammo: Como tu novia no quiere que apuestes, estoy seguro de que estaría encantada si le dijeras que quieres dejar de jugar por completo, incluidas esas tarjetas rasca y gana, entonces no podrás comprarlas cuando salgas con ella.
Bok Hammo, budući da tvoja djevojka ne želi da se kockaš, siguran sam da bi bila oduševljena ako bi joj rekao da želiš potpuno prestati, uključujući i one kartice za ogrebotine, tada ćeš ih manje moći kupiti kad izađeš s njom.
Salut Hammo, Comme votre petite amie ne veut pas que vous jouiez, je suis sûr qu'elle serait ravie si vous lui disiez que vous voulez arrêter complètement, y compris ces cartes à gratter, alors vous serez moins en mesure de les acheter lorsque vous sortirez avec elle.
Merhaba Hammo, Kız arkadaşın kumar oynamanı istemediğinden, ona kazı kazan kartları da dahil olmak üzere tamamen bırakmak istediğini söylersen eminim çok sevinecektir, o zaman onunla dışarıdayken onları daha az satın alabileceksin.
Hi Hammo,
As your girlfriend doesn’t want you to gamble then i am sure she would be delighted if you told her that you want to stop completely, including those scratchcards, then you will be less able to buy those when out with her.
Hoi Hammo, Omdat je vriendin niet wil dat je gokt, zou ze het vast heel fijn vinden als je haar zou vertellen dat je helemaal wilt stoppen, inclusief die krasloten, dan zul je die minder goed kunnen kopen als je met haar uit bent.
Привіт Хаммо, оскільки твоя дівчина не хоче, щоб ти грав у азартні ігри, я впевнений, що вона була б рада, якби ти сказав їй, що хочеш повністю припинити, включаючи ці скретч -картки, тоді ти будеш менше купувати їх, коли будеш з нею.
Hi Cherilyn, some of what i am about to post to lelbow might well apply to your self as well but please also start your own thread where you can get support and feedback for yourself. Just scroll to the bottom of the My Journal forum and click on New Topic.
Lelbow, I hope you are reading the other stories here, you will see many that you wil relate to. You will aslo see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own stuation?
Well done on cancelling those sites. Did you get yourself banned from them as well? You can also get a blocker for your PC that will stop you finding another site. http://www.gamblock.com is one though there are others.
You will see on the other stories here that barriers like this help. Financial barriers as well. When you get paid how about setting an automatic transfer up so that your money moves to an account that you don’t have access to? Your husband could set up one for that. It would still be your money of course, just that accountability like that would mean you had MORE control over it as you wouldn’t be able to access funds to gamble with.
Your husband has said that this has broken trust? Of course it has. Trust doesn’t get rebuilt by words and promises, especially ones that have been said/made before. Actions speak louder than words and it’s actions like the ones I have described that will both make it harder for you to place your next bet and at the same time give your husband cause to think “Hmm, maybe she means it this time.”
Keep posting, you stopped befroe, this time you will have support both now when youa re stopping and ongoing to maintain your recovery.
keep posting and let us know the positive actions that you are starting to take.
Добре, тоді Хаммонд, використовуй це усвідомлення. Які у тебе плани на сьогодні? Заповнюєте свій час подалі від ніг? Переконатися, що у вас немає доступу до коштів на вечір? Немає доступу до засобів для азартних ігор? Ми всі знаємо свої ризиковані часи, ми можемо використати це усвідомлення та спланувати їх наперед.
Tamam o zaman Hammond, bu farkındalığı kullan. Bu gece için ne planların var? Footy'den uzakta zamanınızı mı dolduruyorsunuz? Akşam için paraya erişiminiz olmadığından emin misiniz? Kumar araçlarına erişiminiz yok mu? Hepimiz riskli zamanlarımızı biliyoruz, bu farkındalığı kullanabilir ve onlar için önceden plan yapabiliriz.
Olgu siis Hammond, kasuta seda teadlikkust. Mis plaanid teil täna õhtuks on? Täites oma aega jalgadest eemal? Veendudes, et teil pole õhtuks vahendeid? Kas teil pole juurdepääsu hasartmängude vahenditele? Me kõik teame oma riskantseid aegu, saame seda teadlikkust kasutada ja nende jaoks ette planeerida.
Ok then Hammond, use that awareness. What plans have you for tonight? Filling your time away from the footy? Making sure you have no access to funds for the evening? No access to the means to gamble? We all know our risky times, we can use that awareness and plan for them beforehand.
Ok, akkor Hammond, használd ezt a tudatosságot. Milyen terveid vannak ma estére? Kitölti az idejét a lábasoktól? Gondoskodik arról, hogy ne legyen pénze estére? Nincs hozzáférés a szerencsejátékhoz? Mindannyian ismerjük kockázatos időnket, ezt a tudatosságot felhasználhatjuk és előre megtervezhetjük.
Добре тогава Хамънд, използвай това съзнание. Какви планове имате за тази вечер? Запълвате времето си далеч от краката? Уверете се, че нямате достъп до средства за вечерта? Няма достъп до средствата за хазарт? Всички знаем рисковите си времена, можем да използваме това осъзнаване и да планираме за тях предварително.