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Hi Drat, welldone on getting back here. The good news is that you know what works; keep posting, get back to your meetigns. This time remember that if we need help to stop gambing then it is also important to use support to help maintain recovery as well.
Keep posting, keep connecting to groups. You can stop gambling, one day at a time.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Thanks Shark
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Holdy, well done on posting here.
I hope you cdan be honest wiht your mate – trying to keep things hidden can in itself send peole gambling. I would also ask him not to lend you money in the future.
Talk to your friends. it is up to you if/how much you tell them about your problem but it is important that you tell them you have decided to stop gambling. Don’t get inmto the gambling conversations – a few “I’m not interested”s usually does the trick. If they are reall friends then you will have other things you can talk about.
Maybe find another pub. When you do go to have a drink though just take enough money to cover your beers – that way any gambling will have an immediate consequence of not being able to have a drink. Get banned from your local bookies/whereever it is you usually gamble.
Use support – keep posting here, get to Gamblers Anonymous, talk to your Dr about counselling. Find the support that works for you.
Hi Jay,
For me the serenity prayer helps – part of that is about accepting the things we can not change – one of the things none of us can change is the past.
The best advice when you are in a hole is to stop digging – dont let that 100k in losses turn into 150k…….200k etc it is a progressive addiction.
You want to stop gambling right now which is great. Now what actions can you take while you feel like that? Get yourself banned from where ever it is you usually gamble? Put other barries in place? Start using support – like regularly posting here, getting to Gambers Anonymous meetings, counselling etc.
Next time those urges return you will already have some bariers in place, already be using the support that will help you not place that next first bet.
Keep posting.
Hi marilka, well done on your gamble free time and thank you for sharing your experience with that blocker here.
Now that you have found us I hope you stay and share your progress in recovery. It does help to maintain that recovery by using support and you can also find that here.
Well done and keep posting.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Konj,
I am a compulsive gambler. If I had a “system” that allowed me to pick winning bets it would not matter – I would just then lose it all on other bets.
As you say – we have no discipline. If we were able to show that sort of “control” when gambling then none of us would be here in the first place.
I would recommend against making those paper bets – they will just lead to reeal ones and the pain and damage that follws..
Keep posting but I hope to hear the non gambling activities that are filling your time.
Hi Kc, well done on getting back here.
When you say “……not gamble anymore, at least with not real money. …………” does that mean you were making pretend bets? Mind gambling? Playing “free” slots?
Things like that just tease the addiction. Better to starve it completely. How can you fill your time and thoughts with other nn gambling related things?
You were also able to deposit 2000 Euros? That is a lot of money to have access to at this stage. Can you put things in place so that you can’t easily access funds if/when you get an urge? Thge urges weaken if we can’t act on them. Talk to your wife, I am sure she can help you with accountability – when we know that if we gamble we will be found out then it is a big deterrent.
Keep posting.
Hi Ieoloughpa. Well done on your gamble free time? How are you filling that time instead?
Oi Laura, muito bem em procurar ajuda. Confira o Fórum do My Journal – é um fórum mais movimentado e você obterá mais respostas lá. Você verá muitas histórias com as quais se relacionará, também verá as histórias de sucesso e verá o tipo de coisas que ajudaram outras pessoas a pararem de apostar. Se você iniciar seu próprio tópico lá, receberá muitos comentários e suporte. Se o problema persistir na conexão com os grupos, clique em "Suporte por e-mail" no topo desta página e descreva o problema. Os grupos "abertos", como aquele ao qual você tentou se conectar, não são moderados, então nem sempre há ninguém com quem conversar. Todos os outros tipos de grupo têm um facilitador, então sempre há alguém com quem conversar. Espero ver você postar no My Journal Forum e talvez te ver em um dos grupos aqui em breve.
Hi Laura, well done on looking for help.
Check out the My Journal Forum – it is a busier forum and you will get more response there.
You will see a lot of stories that you will relate to, you will also see the success stories and see the sort of things that have helped others stop gambleing.
If you start your own thread there thne you will get a lot of feedback and support.
If the problem persists in connecting to grtoups then please click on “Email Support” at the top of this page and outline the problem. The “Open” groups, like the one you tried toconnect to, are unmoderated so there is not always anyone thjer to talk to. All the other types of group have a facilitator so there is always someoen to talk to in them.
I hope to see you post in the My Journal Forum and maybe see you in one of the groups here soon.
Merhaba Laura, yardım arama konusunda aferin. My Journal Forum'a göz atın – burası daha yoğun bir forumdur ve orada daha fazla yanıt alırsınız. İlişki kuracağınız birçok hikaye göreceksiniz, ayrıca başarı hikayelerini ve başkalarının kumarı bırakmasına yardımcı olan şeyleri göreceksiniz. Orada kendi konunuzu başlatırsanız, çok fazla geri bildirim ve destek alacaksınız. Gruplara bağlanmada sorun devam ederse, lütfen bu sayfanın üst kısmındaki "E-posta Desteği"ne tıklayın ve sorunu özetleyin. Bağlanmaya çalıştığınız gibi "Açık" gruplar denetlenmez, bu nedenle her zaman konuşacak kimse yoktur. Diğer tüm grup türlerinin bir kolaylaştırıcısı vardır, bu nedenle içlerinde her zaman konuşacak birileri vardır. Sizi My Journal Forum'da görmeyi ve belki yakında buradaki gruplardan birinde görmeyi umuyorum.