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Hvala na doprinosu u grupi ranije Bonnie i ostalima koji su bili tamo.
Спасибо за вклад в группу раньше, Бонни и других, кто был там.
Cảm ơn những ý kiến đóng góp trong nhóm trước đó Bonnie và những người khác đã ở đó.
گروپ میں پہلے بونی اور دیگر جو کہ وہاں تھے ان پٹ کے لیے شکریہ۔
Takk for innspill i gruppen tidligere Bonnie og de andre som var der.
Köszönöm Bonnie és a többiek, akik korábban részt vettek a csoportban.
Tak for input i gruppen tidligere Bonnie og de andre, der var der.
Tack för input i gruppen tidigare Bonnie och de andra som var där.
Paldies par ieguldījumu grupā iepriekš Bonijai un citiem, kas tur bija.
IDI, sadly the urges do return. The pain fades and the addiction creeps back in. That is why the best time to take the actions that will make your next bet less likely is now, before your mindset changes. By actions I mean concrete barriers, starting the steps to engage with additional support etc
If we aren’t prepared to take those steps when we are hurting then we are even less likely to take them when the pain fades and the urges return.
I hope you keep engaging with support and I look forward to hearing the positive actions you are taking to make your next bet less likely.
Hi Murr,
It is great that your barriers worked.
As others have suggested, it sounds like you have easy access to quite large sums of money – what accountability can you put in place?
I would strongly suggest extending/renewing that 5 year ban before it expires.
Keep posting.
Oh and it is great to see the change of mindset but I still wouldn’t preclude taking positive actions as well. Remember they will now be the actions of someone who wants to stop gambling.
Ok, so from what I have seen there is no definitive place for “Rock Bottom”. Yes it might be disaster – prison, divorce, the gutter etc but it doesnt have to be. For me it was finally getting fed up with digging holes, climbing out of them only to dig another, often deeper one. I was half way through digging another hole when I had finally had enough. So, we dont need to wait for the traumatic gutter moment – we can all make our own personal “rock bottom” NOW. One thing is for sure – where ever our rock bottom is, however low it might be – there is always another layer of $hit underneath it if we carry on gambling.
Hi Sherrie
Those barriers worked well. If you are looking at a new account there are several banks now where you can block your debit card from spending moeny on gambling sites.
Hi IDI
“Shocked enough to take action and to find a new determination to stop.”
Use that shock IDI. Use the pain.
What actions can you take? What thigns can you do differently? What extra/different support can you start using/find out about/put things in motion for?
It is important to take those actions now because it is a sneaky addiction – the pain and shock will fae and that is when it helps to already have thigns in place.
Don’t “hope it lasts” Start putting things in place and make it last.
Keep posting.