There are two things that I identified with in your post velvet. One is your second sentence – it depends on what the addiction is doing to his mind, and something in your last sentence – the lull before the storm, of which we have experienced so many. I have been thinking of the lull before the storm and the sinking feeling I have just thinking about it. He has a commitment to pay some money to a friend from this wage. Already I have asked him for the payment, and already he said he will do it over the weekend, even though he got paid today. Not really happy with that.
I told my son I was getting help from you and this site, he said he could easily get on this and that it wouldn’t be difficult for him to identify my posts. I said I was happy for him to do so, cos it may do him good to see my thoughts and feelings. I know he is a lovely sensitive person, but sometimes I am concerned about his mindset in some of the things he says, I don’t always recognise him as my son. Well, I really hope he pays this important debt.
We drew a line under previous debt following his rehab, but I have told him that the stuff he owes since this needs to be paid Back. I told him he needed to pay external debts first, and after this just give us a schedule of payments. He still lives at home rent/ expense free. I really think he needs more residential rehab input, we are trying to focus and get on. I have to say though , I have felt extremely low these past few days, to the extent I a
May need to see my gp . I just work 2 and a half days a week at the mo, I love what I do, but I have even felt it difficult to get out of bed. One day I just stayed in bed all day. I’m feeling tired. My lovely daughter is so caring, she has tried so much to help her brother, as ha s his bro.
Me and my husband have just booked a hol, so that’s good.
I just don’t know how our sons mind is working.
If we have another trauma, then I really believe he needs major help, I want to believe he will move forward, but I have experienced so many lUlls before the storm.
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