Yeah I’m pushing for the blacklists a lot and I gave in to putting the $130 in the account as my dad needs it for bills. I made sure it was deposited and I told my mom this is it, I will never ever give her money for anything nor will I bail her out. She has been saying that what she did was a mistake and she only recently started going. Honestly a lot of this happened I believe due to her losing her job a few years ago and she’s simply bored. I told her this is it and I”m only doing this because of my dad, but if it happens again tough luck. I also discussed with my dad changing the bank account to his name only and I’ll be setting up a system to notify him of any withdrawals from the account.
I no I shouldn’t have given in this time but I live under the same roof and it’s a last straw type of deal. I warned her that I won’t be living here soon enough and if it ever got bad with the gambling that I’d also take my younger brother with me who only has a couple of years left in high school. I also brought up GA to her and this forum board as well, she was in tears tonight after the talk I had with her and I did like you guys said to just talk and no yelling/arguing and taking a step back to listen. I can tell part of her doesn’t want to let go yet part of her does. What bothers me the most is this is my mom who raised me and I’ve lived with and respected my whole life. It just tears me apart seeing this and realizing that I will have to tell her no next time she messes up. Part of me looks back at the stupid stuff I did when I was younger and how she bailed me out of things, but in the end this is it in terms of money being lent and she knows where I stand with money after this.