Hope you had a lovely day out with your friend, Caroline.
You deserve a break from the house.
As for the items being emptied from the cupboard, he is most likely searching to see if you have hidden the cash. My advice is to leave them where he put them. Don’t pick them up. It’s his way of demeaning you. Keep out of any discussions about money or educational plans he says he has set up for the children. It is HIGHLY unlikely that an active CG would set up an account for anything. All we need is a stash of cash and when that runs out we need to know who will be the easiest target to supply more. Words mean very little at this point. Just tell him you will not be responding when he uses abusive terms. Don’t be afraid to tell the children “daddy is being mean to me because I won’t give him money” . CGs like a smoke screen. Be blunt, but as respectful as you can.
Not all CGs behave in this manner. His behaviour is totally unacceptable by any standard. No excuses! I heard a CG sharing at a GA meeting how he shook his two year old baby because he was frustrated he couldn’t have a bet. I was livid. If I was a man he would have felt a heavy hand on the back of his neck. He should have been asked to leave but nobody reacted . I cannot understand why not but they put it down to being non judgemental. I would draw the line when it comes to abuse. Nobody was impressed. All the other men lowered their eyes. A bully will use every excuse to get his own way. Leave the room when he starts and ask him not to embarrass himself !
You seem like a wonderful mother and a gentle lady. Protect yourself Caroline. Nobody deserves abuse!
