You really need to ask yourself why you continue to pick up the tab for your dad?
It’s not all about him.
This is about you!
I knew 5 people I could “tap” for loans. Swore them all to secrecy to keep my gambling head above water.
Did I care?
At some level I cared deeply but my need to gamble was far far greater than their needs.
It was all about me.
The only thing I can say m’darlin’, is when you change, everything will change.
What is holding you back from making this big change?
There must be some underlying “double bind”.
I suggest you discuss it with your counsellor.
It’s possible that you could be using your dad’s gambling to deflect from something you need to deal with.
Enablers always have a reason to allow the “addict” to continue playing games.
Take time to reflect
You will find, most likely that your dad has several “second hand ” loans. Most CGs see that behaviour as normal when we are “active”.
