Hi Logic, well done on the second interview, great news! Velvet has written you such a great reply and I love her analogy about the seed. I still think your CG is looking for the right place for that seed to land however and being blown about in the wind right now. It really does take seeking helping from outside to dig down and really start to move forward.
I made so many mistakes dealing with those early says although from time to time my CG will come back to me and say you know that really helped when you said blah blah. He said the other day that I was the first person who had a proper conversation about his gambling and really listened and that that all those years ago had stayed with him. I don’t actually remember the conversation myself but I think it was in a period when we were ‘just’ friends and so it would of been non judgmental and without a vested interest or desire to fix him so that is probably what made the difference. I think really listening and trying to understand their perspective even if it makes no sense to us non-cg’s is the key.
Lily x