Hi Velvet.
Thanks for writing back. It does feel good to share here, as I have been simmering over this for quite some time, and need an outlet. I feel sometimes the best thing to do is just do the status quo. My wife is well aware of how much i hate her going to the casino, and she tries to shield it from me, and insists that she will stop after she retires. At her current age, that is about another six years. Her yearly loss has been around her take home pay, so essentially, she is just blowing through her income. The last year or two, she seems to be ramping up a bit, and starting to borrow from me to pay off her credit card (so she says).
I know it is mostly wishful thinking, and she will have a hard time resisting the urge. Generally, if she knows I will be home, she doesn’t go. She works the night shift now, abot 11PM to 7AM, so usually goes after work until around noon. Since I work 7AM to 5PM, this makes it easy for her to sneak out un-noticed. When I finally retire, which may be in the next year or two, I will be home a lot more, so she will have to find more creative ways to sneak out, or just give up.