HI CB,
You don’t have to fill up his car or give him pocket money.
Can he walk? Or ride a bike?
By filling his car you are enabling him to gamble.
If my husband had used tough love instead of taking the easy option (giving in to my demands after I had lost my salary every month)I would not have ended up with a 6 figure debt.
Why would you enable your husband to destroy himself?
Of course none of this is your fault but I strongly believe that enablers should be told that they are doing a huge disservice to their nearest and dearest.
Yes, he will go elsewhere for the money, but friends will soon get the message when the debt builds up.
It sounds cruel, but if he doesn’t contribute to the household bills, he needs to feel the consequences. You can’t take his money. You can’t stop him gambling, but you certainly can make his life uncomfortable to the point where he will need to question the sanity of throwing 600 away in a few hours.
Keep the communication open.
