Sean
Regardless of what I or anybody else says to you, you will go ahead and make your own decision. All I’m saying is yes, frankly it is a ridiculous decision to channel your energy into making money and recouping your gambling losses. The biggest loss here isn’t the fifteen thousand pounds you lost gambling, but the trust and honesty between you and your partner. The money has gone, never to return, you should try to accept that.
The money you have lost is only one of many consequences of your gambling, it is not the root cause of the problem. It would be much better for you to channel your energies into not gambling before you started building extra money. You’re right about the child and his Lego tower, but sooner or later the child will just give up. Many give up on recovery before giving it a chance. A smart child might puzzle out how and why his tower keeps falling and decides he must change something fundamental; Stronger foundations or thicker walls.
It’s a waste of time me getting on your case you will do what you’ve always done and make your own decision. But isn’t it just making the wrong decisions what brought you here in the first place?
I talk not only from my own experiences but those of other CGs I’ve met over the years. It is a very dangerous addiction. Not every addict will end up a thief or a criminal, but a lot do. It’s been the reason I’ve been to prison 5 times in my life. I don’t talk out my arse about this because it has ruined my life many times over, and that of my family and friends. At one time I used to go to GA (early 80’s), and think to myself I’ll never get as bad as that, I’ve been worse than the lot of them put together, I Know how it works. I also know not everyone will get as bad but I can see a lot of similarities to myself, in your post. And in all honesty man, until you address the gambling you havn’t got much hope of turning things around.
Mind you Sean, these are only my opinions and at the end of the day, I know how, when I was in a similar position to you other people’s advice was just dismissed without any real consideration.
Anyway
Good post, wishing you all the best
Geordie.