Thanks twilight and velvet…our Mom my not have all the traits of a CG as she still has friends , hobbies and leads a full life, That is the Mom I know..the Mom we don’t know (but we do) has lead this secret life of gambling . She minimizes her time at the casino when we all know how much damage you can do in 1 hour there. She bounces, borrows pad day loans etc. we were all taken back by how much we hurt her when we sent the letter . She read things into that letter that never existed from our point of view, similar to your story…I do not have expectations about her recovery as she has not fully come to terms about her addiction. We are concentrating on getting her bills paid and keeping a roof over her head. My mother is one of the strongest people I know but to a fault. She can’t open up and talk about any of this. We all let her be through the years because she did have a full life but now that we reflect we should have been more involved . ..but when asked she would always she she was fine but what she was really saying was the total opposite and we missed it.. I no longer live in the same state so this has fallen mainly on my sister which makes me feel badly. Mom is too proud and we would never get any other family or friends involved in her recovery.
That decision needs to be hers alone. My siblings and I will support her as best we can and try to see she remains accountable to what is best for her regardless how much she lets the beast show,,,that is not our Mom. Never thought how true the saying “one day at a time” is. Posting has made me feel so much better with our plans and I am going to suggest my sister post here when she returns from vacation also. It is amazing to me that people like you take the time to do this for others….you rock!
