Thanks for your post on my thread B!
Hope your bloodwork didn’t come up with anything too “abnormal” and also that youwill let Jen take care of her own debts!
Adult “children” can be the bane of our lives if we allow them to be!
Believe me, B, I have tried the silent treatment with my “baby” son and the planned ignoring, and the praise and the tough love and the soft touch and the talking and diverting and the bribing and rewarding and limiting setting and punishing and the letting go and the welcome homes…… You name it . I tried it! From what I observed and was subjected to over the last two days, nothing worked! Everything centred around this boy since the day he was born. I spoke to my friend briefly about his behaviour last night. Her comment was “Of all the kids I know in that age group, no mother gave her son more than you gave him” This woman doesn’t mince her words! I asked my son if he could come up with any ideas to improve the situation between us. He didn’t waste a second telling me I am the cause of ALL his problems. Told me I subjected him to a life of criticism,abuse, control, violence and rejection! I informed him I wasn’t aware of that but I do admit to correcting him as a child (sometimes too severely), pointing out his mistakes/bad behaviour, “controlling” him in a way any responsible parent should, keeping in mind that his father left all the child rearing to me while he worked two jobs when the kids were young. Instead of continuing the discussion, he launches into a barrage of verbal abuse and foul language accusing me of being a “twisted *itch who changes everything to suit myself”, so for now, I GIVE UP!
My biggest gamble was trying to rear kids and hope they would turn out right!
Like “real” gambling. you can’t win!!!
