I certainly agree with that. If we are here for a reason, then I am sure God will reveal it to us, whatever it is. We have freedom of choice and I know I went off piste of the plan numerous times in my life but God will use adversity for good. I have e always had compassion for addicts as my view is that they have chosen a tough path in life and often early traumas in childhood and a less than emotionally supportive upbringing contributed to this. They ha e just identified the gene that makes people susceptible to nicotine addiction. ***** me in on that one. some philosophers say that we choose our fAmilies pre birth. I think this is true. It is in the genes. My ancestry is one of trauma in the war, concentration camps etc. That trauma Does run through the cellular memory and the genetics. My sister is a functioning alcoholic, my cousin too. My mother was addicted to mummies little helpers when she went through the change. I was surrounded by them in my younger days, drugs, alcohol etc. One temazepam addicted young friend threw herself in front of a train in the 90s as she kept fitting in the withdrawal phase. . I wish I had known then what to do and what to advise, I would like to think that now I do know better and would know more about what to do, having been some of in those desperate and despairing states myself. Maybe this is part of the plan. Now I am the addict albeit very late in life, although always addicted to the cigs, but gave up alcohol a long time ago as I grew tired of hangovers. The bottom line is we need to be at ease and comfortable with who we are in any given situation and often us addicts are not. I personally found a great gap between my professional self and my private self. The two were miles apart sometimes but then my main gripe through life is the lack of emotional support and mentors/role models. I feel able to chat today so clearly must be getting better.
