Hi velvet
Thanks for your advice as always. I have been mulling over his words and actions since the weekend ( which are both still positive at this point) and was just unsure how to proceed. It helps to post and get it out my head so I can deal with it.
I had never even considering suggesting GMA how strange. I don’t know why! The only reason the other support tools out there haven’t worked for my ex is because he has chosen not to use them effectively. He chose to attend a few counselling sessions. But i think it was mainly for my benefit.Just as I myself am seeking counseling and feel very happy with it now in the past I went and didn’t know what I wanted. Henc i felt dissatisfied. The only thing I’m clarifying in my own mind ist here is a difference between something not working for us because its not right and something not working because we don’t really give it chance to.
I think my ex wants a different life at present. He is fed up with the problems CG brings. I will look into GMA I know how important it was to you and your CG and what a fantastic place it must be.
I do have my doubts as to whether my ex will consider this an option. But my instinct is also telling me he has to find his own way. I can offer support from inside my safety net. Thank you for your advice. I felt a little unsure. I’m now feeling more confident. I’m making my changes. He needs to continue with his.
Your wisdom is very well received. Thanks
M x