Thank you, V. As always your response is so helpeful and I already feel better. I don´t want to budge and I want to give him some thinking time and for him to be aware that…well, I have power at the moment as I can choose when or if to return to Cuba, and he has been quite desperate for me to do so. He knows what I am asking of him, really.
And I was thinking about it more and do believe he gambled it…he got so upset and stubborn about my asking…money just evaporates from him without the gambling, but he was telling me how a few weeks back he had to sell his clothes, etc. and he probably needed to do that combined with the money I had sent him because of a gambling episode. And, perhaps he also did the same last week when he got annoyed because he had borrowed money from someone based on expecting me to have sent him some. Perhaps he has changed his style and manages not to overshoot *so* much…I can´t know from here. I do now highly suspect he gambled this set of money, weeks back, though, and for now I will assume that was the case. And that the lies around his gambling continue and the lack of willingness to truly let me control the finances when I am there still exists.
Very little progress 🙁 Less than I had thought. I believe he is *trying* but he has no support…and the reality is that there is no support…there is just me….and I am also his closest target.
I will sit tight for a while longer in Mexico….I will eat tacos and drink tequila. I will work on a design for my Little Miss Boundaries cartoon figure.
Thank you so much, this site is so so so helpful.