Thank you, Nomore. It does seem to be something we get “sucked into”…insipid and then it has taken our strength, confused us, morphed so many times, has so many layers…all the lies, the deceit, the shocks. Like trying to keep one’s head above the water in a rough sea, or surfing, and the waves keep buffetting you and taking you under. The term “co-dependency” is used quite a lot and seems to cover such a broad range of things. The brain chemistry is certainly complex and I think we are only starting to get a tiny insight into what might be happening. I still am feeling very wary, a little scared, about falling into a similar situation in the future because I got myself into and stayed in a situation that was so harmful to my own well-being, and I knew it, but I placed the focus more externally, in my husband, and in my environment, than in myself. If two people are in a relationship that goes through so much turmoil, then of course it makes sense for both to learn how to move forward from it and understand their own personal experiences. It sounds like you have weathered the storms to come out into some sunshine and it is good to hear that your husband has benefitted from his treatment. I wish you both much luck too.
