Thank you Laura , Lisbeth and Johnny .
Lisbeth you describe pretty accurately my experience also
Monica I totally agree that identifying ourselves by our greatest fault is degrading, demotivating and unnecessary.
Maybe I will go back and say my name is xx and I am a CF(compulsive fattie cos I have put on
weight )
Just imagine going to a weight loss programme and having to shame your self in front of everyone by calling yourself a CF-imagine lecturing those who gained a pound “you don’t want to hear the things you need to hear” . “It’s like talking to the wall”- imagine interrogating them about their barriers – “have you handed over control of the fridge ?”.
“Have you been honest with your partner about your chocolate binge ?” Well done on your honesty- now what steps can you take to make your next binge less likely- because remember once a CF always a CF. “give your partner control of your money – no money means no food ”
Imagine sitting in our six zero clothes and looking down on those who still can’t fit in a seat –
Imagine eating a a McDonald’s fry and having to number days from
Day one again or else be accused of lying .
The whole concept is so ridiculously outdated – I feel that trying to follow these ideas has held me back .
It also seems that the people who make it with GA kinda use meetings to replace gambling. They still give a huge amount of time to gambling – and maybe for some their ego gets in the way of actually supporting others -maybe one day we too will be so Sure of our forever recovery ( oh that sounds dangerous ) that we too will dismiss those who continue to struggle ” as not wanting to hear what they need to hear” .
Johnny – you nailed it – support isn’t support unless it’s respectful- lecturing and condemnation only serve to drive us further into the destructive cycle .
Gamble free day yesterday btw!