Hi Logic, so sorry to hear about you having this rough time. I am sure it felt horrible and I am glad you had your home to go back to and a safe place to reflect. Please remember it is not your fault or any reflection on you. I can’t second guess his reasons but I can say that stating arguments in order to gain the time/space/excuse to gamble is something that does happen. It could be a multitude of reasons but I can almost guarantee you it had nothing to do with anything you have said or done. Most gamblers have very low self esteem and are fully aware they are not a good proposition for a relationship. He may feel he is not good enough or that it is better you see the ‘real him’ now before its too late.
Hopefully you have had time to gather your thoughts and recover. As where you go from here it is up to you but it is a tough one without clear communication which is next to impossible with a gambler in denial. Try to take some time for you doing something you enjoy enough to not be constantly thinking about your cg.
Sorry I couldn’t get back to you before, lily x