Sorry for all you are dealing with Logic. Relationships are hard enough without throwing addiction into the mix.
My 28 year old son has been a compulsive gambler for 10 years. The one thing that I can tell you is that it is ALL consuming and even small periods of abstinence do not bring back the non addict. Recovery from addiction takes a lot of work and a long time working some sort of program. It does not just go away on it’s own. Your BF hasn’t even hit the point of admitting he is an addict which is why your relationship has always been a roller coaster… that is all he is currently able to give. It does not help that it seems he is surrounded by loved ones that continue to give him a place to live and keep him from hitting the hard ground of rock bottom. I know it is cliche but I really don’t think most addicts can move forward until they have hit this uncomfortable place.
You are obviously a young girl and I am so impressed how you have put yourself … moving for a better job. You go girl!!
We all on this side of the forum struggle with the stark reality that nothing we do or say will ever change the CG. It has nothing to do with us… it is addiction:(
Cathyx