Maybe you should have mentioned earlier that your “previous spouse was friendly but had zero romantic nature, and got fat”.
Maybe Gambling Therapy is not the right forum for you. Maybe some sort of ego counselling is what you need, a good kick up the arse is what I think you need by the way.
Most people use this forum to help them come to terms with the compulsive, or problem, gambling of a loved one. Whether it be a child, sibling, parent, friend, spouse or partner. And also for reassurance and support for what may well be a very long and traumatic journey back to normality. For some that might mean bringing an end to a long term relationship. Or changing the dynamics of a long standing marriage.
Sometimes people post because they are concerned about a loved ones’ gambling and are worried that the person may have a gambling problem but seem to be ignoring it.
You came here and posted about your predicament and have had a few replies, but it seems to me you already know the answers. Rather you already know what you’re going to do.
Great for you that the $75000 you seem ready to fund this business with won’t drain you. Because I think it will be a decision that, if taken, you will regret.
One word of warning. Devious people with a gambling addiction are the masters of manipulation, the most cunning of con artists, and do not care who they deceive and rip off. In fact as a CG ( compulsive gambler ) the more some one loves you the easier the prey. I know this not only from my own sick past, but also from the testimonies of many of the hundreds of CG’s I’ve met at different GA meetings or during one of my periods of incarceration. The reason I mention this is that it is not beyond the realms of possibility that maybe the vendor of this business is connected with Nguyen and they’ve hatched this plot to defraud you.
A serious question. What would you do if Nguyen got fat?