Sherrie ,
I couldn’t give up control of my money for the exact reasons you describe. Is there someone else you could trust to manage your money , like perhaps your Aunite? You work hard and should have some benefits of not gambling or else what is the point in stopping?
I find myself wondering if this could have been a trigger in the first place which started your addiction? It seems to me that if hubby didn’t buy himself all those goodies you could drop one of your jobs.
I may of course be completely misinterpreting your post, and apologies if I am , but it does appear that you carry all the financial burden for your home and that is a lot of pressure and could drive anyone to find an excape .
Xx