I am powerless
1. Many need a listening ear but some want more; they like to tell others what to do and do not like to be told what to do.
It feel like a hostage when near these people, they are aggressive and frightening, they bring terror and strike fear in the heart of others. They threaten others into submitting and giving in to their demands. It is a very typical terrorist, gangster behavior. Groups can also behave like this. You are either with us or not with us.
They feel that they are right and others are wrong, they are not ready to listen but they will try hard to convince others to be like them.
I have learn to manage these situations by setting up and building my support network so that I will not be overly dependent on any one group or any one person for my recovery. I have a right to protect my recovery and sanity by keeping a distance from these group and people.
2. Some like to take advantage of other. These people have unrealistic expectation. They are very self-centered and selfish. They do not want to take responsibility and accountability of their problem, they let their problem become everybody problem.
I must let go and let the Higher Power, let the Higher Power do their work. I must not not interupt with their work of helping others. It is their duty and they are paid to handle these situation.
My recovery comes first. I have a right to say no to them.
3. They will try to convince me to give service just like them.
I am not them, I was reluctant to give something that I do not have. I am already offering my service to others in many other ways for many years. I do not wish to be like them.
4. I share the same problem as many newcomers and many are smarter, more highly educated, more successful in their career, more wealthy than me, their problem is also many times bigger than me.
The speed that brought them down was so quick that it shock me beyond my imagination about this reality.
5. I need to work the recovery program harder. This may be my last chance. I do not know how many good years I have left. In my remaining years, it is important for me to learn and follow God, give offering to my family first, pleasing others and myself can come last
6. I must remember all the times; Let go and Let God.
I am not God, not a doctor , not a psychiatrist, not a psychologist, not a counsellor, not a rich man. I must not act, advice and give like someone I was not.
I only need to learn to give and love others the way God give and love me unconditionally.
There shall be nothing to fear now. I do not need to be a people pleaser or a doormat.
Thank you God for the mercy. I must learn how to be merciful and mind my own business.