Dear Bettie –
I hope you are looking at how many people love and support you on this site. I have been struggling with gaining weight the last 3 years, after a lifetime of being thin, must be my age. Believe me when I tell you that thinner people endure comments about their weight all the time, and judgement too. Being thinner than normal seems to give people permission to lable you as ill, frail, anorectic, and vain !!
I would never comment on anyone’s weight issues no matter what their size, and if you would never call anyone fat then don’t call yourself that either. Please treat yourself with the same love and understanding you show to others. I can recall other hurtful comments from my childhood but with the perspective of age, realize that the problem lies with the commenter, not the commentee. Think of the damage they are doing to their characters, and how people will remember them for years for their negativity.
I worked once with a lifeguard who taught a group that included a special needs child. When the rest of the class mocked that child’s efforts, she sat them out on the pool deck where they shivered while she pinned their ears back and told them how wrong they were. The parents of those children demanded an apology and she refused to give it. Special and rare are those who stand up for what is right, but she will always be one of my heroes.
Everyone is struggling with something Bettie, you are not alone. Take good care of yoursef, you are a special lady and I can’t wait to meet you. I feel very fortunate to have that opportunity, although a rotten spring cold has me feeling very ill right now. Please send healing vibes my way ..
reds
