Originally posted by bettie
… I did get told …
Good morning Bettie,
Sometimes we do need to be told somethings, and I can come across as telling others things, however, for you to leave with an "I’ve been told" feeling is not very helpful; and is also a feeling I do my best not to plant, and sincerely hope that anything that I post is not perceived in that matter, even when asserting "tuff love", something that I do not see your statement as representing. Perhaps, and hopefully so, it was said with good intentions or to encourage you, and hopefully I am not judging other’s actions with my viewpoint, but for anyone to be labeled as not working on their recovery because they had a relapse, of have not done what somebody else thinks, in my opinion may be too much of a gap between any good intended and the hurt felt. Continue to work on your recovery, work on the principles of recovery without regards to the personalities that invoke any strike judgemental views, instead of caring guidance, and try to see their efforts in only the caring light.
There is a difference between abstaining and recovery, but I do not see anyone acting out on the desire to quite gambling over a period of time merely abstaining. Foe one, abstaining is only giving something up for a time, recovery on the other hand is a continuing process that you, I, and others here have been diligently working on; we have not just logged on or attended meetings letting it end there, ending at only being content at being stuck with just abstaining; on the contrary we have been working towards our living gambling free, we have been taking action and making progress. The time of living gambling free accumulated by us grows more and more because of how much we work recovery rather than just by the time since our last bet (taken form a past post by Colin, The Ledge of abstinence.)
God’s speed. Stay strong. Continue to work on your recovery, and on not gambling for anything.LarryThanks to my Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, "Day Two Is Another Day Behind" and with the help from all , I will continue to remain gambling free.