Dear Vera! I totally agree with your advice to examine my motives for wanting to contact the grandmother of the baby. I have done that and have to agree that no good will come out of me doing so. She certainly doesn’t need a reminder of that time in her and her son’s life, as she grieves her son’s death. I can’t even imagine having to go through that as a mother. I really feel for her thus need to keep my emotional distance from this tragedy, so that I don’t take on her grief, being a mother myself. As cgs whether we admit it or not, seek out chaos and drama, because that’s what we are used to. Great advice as usual Vera. Carole
