thanks,
yea, every door is now thoroughly closed.
As before im not gonna dwell on the past and whatnot, at current im feeling 100% positive, in fact tonight lead the ways for a bit of a rant here tonight….. so what happened.
I come in, demanding a word with BOTH my mum and nan, since when I have spent money on shopping out of my own pocket, my mums still insisting she wants rent etc (again with her illness, its 1 of them things, found that money im paying her back with is often not taken off what I owe her, and then if I pay rent by buying food shopping for the house, she claims it to be equivilant to paying nothing. Whereas if I gave them cash for rent and they gave me some money to get shopping after work if would still ***** as my rent because I have given her cash direct).
Of course I never got the logic and recently I have been getting a lot of shopping in for them with my allowance. My mums almost been stiring trouble (unintentionally) by thinking and telling me they are short of cash etc etc.
Anyway, I tried having a relaxed innocent conversation with them, to explain my views. My nan didnt have a word to say, my mum, as per usual swore blind she never said certain things which was also a mixture of her being stubborn and not admitting it and maybe her forgetting. Which lead to me… shouting a bit out of frustration. I even went as far as to messaging my nans family and saying she told me shes dying so could they get her to see the dr!!!
It ended with my nan walking out the room saying shes (my nan, herself) dying and she couldnt care less.
I mean what the ****….. the basic gist of our house. My mum has parkinsons, meaning shes slower to do things and doesnt understand things as well…. However she still keeps her stubborn traits which can be worse than ever (like the other day, she got a txt message I sent her mixed up, swore blind I sent her this txt saying 1 thing, I showed her the txt on my phone which showed she was wrong, but she still swore blind otherwise…. It was only when she saw her phone, reread the txt that she realised she was in the wrong and decided to compromise).
Due to my mums stubbornness of things she puts extra strain on my nan (like with small things, such as she wants guinea pigs, we get them, she wants something else, we get it, without a care for anyone else) which causes my nan to become more ill (as above shes not well already, seems she could have cancer) and so when it comes to my concerns my mum cant understand what I mean fully and my nan is too exhausted/ill to even reply to me or care….. Then when I get frustrated and shout im had a go at for shouting/not having respect.
The ongoing thing is my nan wont see the DR, meaning she could well indeed as she says be dying, but as I cant communicate with anyone im left angry and annoyed and possibly shouting.
It was even that bad earlier that my mum was saying shes already cut me out of her will, and after a bit more shouting I must of said a few horrid things to her. Its like they are the only people I can talk to… but because they dont/wont understand I get frustrated trying to explain things.
The worst part of it is yes they have social workers and people over………. but……… Since day 1, my nan was informed by them that they were coming round in advance. This meant she could (and always does) move the house around from top to bottom, and make it look like we can all cope (so theres no bags for my mum to trip over and it looks like everything is in reaching/working distance), when they come round im at work 99% of the time and they leave satisfied everything is perfectly fine here.
I hate it here, my nan refusing to see the DR, but then being too weak/ill/tired to do a thing, my mum with her stubborn ways. I know people have had a go at me before for blaming them for my gambling but that was always a trigger… whats anyone else’s reply to stopping?? answer would be preventing the triggers, but something ***** to be done to sort this house out
Maybe getting hold of the family over the internet saying about my nan was an odd choice but what else could be done? She wont go to the DR’s on her own accord. She wont listen to me or my mum– 04/04/2012 22:08:10: post edited by stupidme.