Hi Bruce
It often does put a strain on others to look after the finances of a CG but provided you don’t give her a hard time when she does it, maybe she can cope.
I assume she knows you have a gambling problem but I doubt she knows how difficult it is for you. Why not ask her if she would like to post in our F&F forum or come into an F&F group? I promise you she will be looked after.
You went and got another bank card and it was never mentioned again but maybe she is more aware than you think but unable to broach the subject with you. She probably doesn’t know what to do for the best and thinks that ‘she’ is alone with this addiction in her life. I felt alone for 25 years so I do understand. You could also inform your bank that you are a CG and tell them that you want them to ignore requests for new cards without your mother’s signature. I know it looks as though I am suggesting she treats you as a child but this addiction is so difficult and sometimes you have to find other ways to skin the cat.
I understand only too well about trusting other people but maybe it is worth a try.
It is good that you are venting and the site is here for you to do just that. It’s most powerful messages though require you to listen just as I am listening to you.
Are you bombarding your partner with emails? You only have to glance in F&F occasionally to know how F&F feel when a CG bombards them. They do not want to react – they want their recovery. They can love the CG but they cannot live in the shadow of the addiction. Forgiveness is something that takes time and should only be given willingly.
There is a difference between asking to borrow 600 and asking for help. I cannot think of any reason why a non-CG would want to lend a CG 600 but I can think of many reasons why non-CGs want to help but don’t know how to.
Keep psting
Velvet
