Hi Geordie
Don’t be disgusted that your daughter didn’t ring. Trust can take for ever and children must be the hardest of all to prove your worth to. She is possibly terrified to trust. Twilight’s post will tell you that.
We cannot put ourselves in other people’s shoes however hard we try. You know what is going on in your heart – she doesn’t. It took me over two years to begin to trust and I am supposed to be the adult in all this – the child is a much more tender plant. She might take all you say with a pinch of salt but that is her only protection. Please, never feel disgust with her – she will want her dad to be true but she cannot know that he is.
She has less experience of life than you – keep on the road of recovery and she will learn to trust – she will want to, it is fear of being let down that prevents her feeling it. Keep the conversations going and never think that she is a disappointment because she isn’t. She is ‘your’ child. She ***** you to be the person that she hopes you are but as yet she is still a little afraid to trust you with her heart.
We have to go the extra mile as parents Geordie. We cannot make our children see things our way because we say so. We have to give them time and example just as our parents gave us. It can be a thankless task but we didn’t bring them into this world to thank us. Never give up – she deserves to have a dad who will be there for her.
I wish you both well
V
