Dear Lizbeth, I asked my friend whose daughter has cancer (she has pallative care nurses come in daily to help with pain meds etc.,) how she manages to deal with it. She said that she deals with it one day at a time. She gets up in the morning and depending how her daughter is dictates what will happen that day. Her daughter may be able to go out for an hour or so or she may spend her day lieing on the couch. I know that her daughter is in pain as I can see it in her face. I can also see how she is spaced out at ***** with the pain meds. She is fighting to enjoy every day that she has. On top of this my friend is looking after the twins who will be one year old this month. The other grandparents took the babies for a few nights and I know that my friend told me she had to get out the house today. I suppose what I am saying is that she is the carer, although her daughter has a husband, and she ***** a break from being the carer. I know you mentioned just going out and doing something helped give you a break, please take as many breaks as you can. Family and friends want to help as they feel so helpless and want to help lighten your load, so accept all the help that anyone offers. It is so wonderful that your daughters and son-in-law are helping. Thinking of you and saying a prayer for you and your family. One day at a time my sweet lord…
