Sorry to hear that things have been rough this week, our K. Putting our parents into care is both the hardest and the most loving thing that we can do for them. It doesn’t make it easier, but know that you did the right thing. As I said earlier, when we put our Dad in respite the first time, he also packed his things and called my sister wanting to be picked up. He kept wanting to know what he had done wrong. He also didn’t want to be with the "old people".
My sisters and I are VERY vigilant with his care. We are on top of the staff at all times. It’s a terribly hard job for them … they have so many to care for, but when it comes to our parents, we are the only ones who can advocate for them. You WILL feel better knowing that you Mom is being properly cared for while you’re away.
It took a couple of months but my Dad adjusted. Of course it helps that one of us visits him every day of the week. He is also very sociable still, so gets around nicely in his motorized wheelchair and goes to all the daily events.
I’m going to pray that your Mom settles in and has a lovely rest there. You visit there will be very hard, but try to stay upbeat, make her laugh, talk about her favorite things … and then, cry on the way home.
Chin up, my friend, it’s all part of this wonderful thing we call life.
Love, RG"I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. Aristotle
