Dear Kathryn
Our posts must have passed mid-pacific.
What I can’t work out if how you ever did enjoy shopping with hubby? Not doing it ever again doesn’t sound drastic to me – it sounds entirely sensible.
If my husband wants clothes, I have to go with him and wait within the immediate vicinity of the changing rooms so I can collect different sizes and colours and I talk to other women looking forlorn and thinking what they could be doing if only ……… !
We tried to shop for me once. I had to walk miles, to where husband had drifted to find a comfy seat, to see if he liked any of the dresses. When I showed him he would say ‘it’s alright’ with about as much enthusiasm as a he would have for a wet weekend. Eventually I came out with nothing as he was obviously bored! He said ‘which one are you having?’ and I said ‘none of them’ at which point the man sitting beside him said ‘good I didn’t like any of them either!’ That was the last time I shopped with my husband for anything for me or other people. Come to think of it I should have asked the other man if he would come with me in future – at least he was honest.
We have tried at Christmas to buy presents, for other people, together. It consists of eating at every opportunity – unless of course he remembers that he would like a blue jumper to go with whatever and then I am back outside the changing room again. I shop at Christmas alone now too.
So don’t be upset – you are definitely not alone.
My husband and I can’t do sulking. His father sulked, sometimes for weeks and nobody would know why, then he would start speaking again – very difficult.
Such a nice thought that we were both writing at the same time and so good to get your update even if it did contain snotty child and hubby.
As Ever
V
